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So will you will you give us your buyer from you and I'm kind of paper, but tat? You are what you're about yes, what's your jam,
absolutely Elise, Jelly snake
and look see here, everything talked about
first probably wife, and I have to say that on purpose may my
spend that I met when I was ten.
No just now that I'm not a new group against the canoe live three way like your camp here when we were there, we literally we're doing outrigger, canoe and data, put harbour who were both super weird. That was what you do for extracurricular activities, outrigger canoe totally and those like who's that guy yet and that he didn't make eye contact with these like eight years society eyes. Suddenly I mean he's not that it yeah yeah but finally ended that
and then we had three kids like one
We really tried for gas and then to Saint Patrick stays equal to March, you totally guy at least Irene all live with me, the rest of irish ground even a little bit better civil and military therapist,
for my job, I usually say by nature and by trade. Yes, I feel like it's the job and always had yeah and so that it
came something. I'm gonna be basis. Do this for like for real yeah and it's just but a natural thing ever since
and you do that for a long time, and now you ve taken that practice too
I want to see the airway that makes me feel like one thousand nine hundred and eighty seven. I don't know what that means, but you know what I realized was that has lied about therapy out there. Yeah and people take a long time for people. Think I want to do that
also that therapy gonna get stuck behind
this really clauses contained space. You only know about it. When you are in a confidential, yeah interest has limited yeah. I can't even talked my husband sometimes about the work I'm doing Yeahs private. He asked
what I figured I could do it
I can tell the story if of therapies, and I could do that in a podcast, and so I feel like what's come from night, is trailer cast and also this idea that if I can take therapy off the couch and out into the world- and so that's kind
you like my my next yeah thing, you did. The trailer come first order. The podcast come first gives you lay. Why is called trailer? Ok, ok, right, because trade,
came first because I was like
What an office that is unconventional, yes and something of Supra the box and were walking on the beach. I mean what, if we did this and I'm
a million ideas and like and once again I haven't issues like yeah that Albania and this time he's. I know that
good work. Yeah I've been, let's do it yeah, so jump on Craigslist, yes, wave and all things sure shady off and we were planning
of the organ
an hour away from where we were going. Organ was
The trailer airstream.
Look it's a nineteen, fifty three bulls arrow. Okay, so it looks like an airstream, it's like silver and yet about the aluminium, and it was a joke.
For sure. People were like. Maybe.
And things- and there are only really should be resolved, we'd toad at home and then
has been left his job and I guessed unlike, went to work and like refurbishing space and its most beautiful space.
There it was to have asked us to do so. You yeah use it. You hang out there and we carry me clients under presented great. I literally toe that trailer by myself down to the beach park. It hitched do the hoping I
On my husband in doing that for me yeah, because I'm a guy, don't wonder the heart, the yeah I just wanna do have liked the fun part of the kind you wanna go fishing that created they perhaps about eleven percent, wanted it that same thing with it with trailer cast his eyes, a mobile.
For me because
do that. Yeah leaping he's like no
did you react as your budget yeah, unanimous yeah, so good at it, the leaden earth you they're so yeah and how many episodes in our EU twenty one has that has a gallon hasn't feeling house all the things I love it
and here's my love love it because I there's this phrase. I have my trailer that says. I'm remember why you started and I need that there is a reminder of like there was some
any those bubbling up, that it had to come out and
to think of it, like the prophet you're. My only talks about
your words in my balancing of fire and a cat like keep inside me
just gonna come out. I mean I don't like that with this creative energy got something to say specially
the work so confidential I want to x,
Ass, my interaction with it and be able, if those are not telling someone also story necessarily because that stop
and so that I feel it every time I go to report. I look at that and I quote a stay at that moment in committee.
Well. Why originally started because I love this because it's good because it there is more
take away, then from me experience had happened in real time lapse.
Then it's like transfers of a transcendental so yeah. Why and I think tat
It's like anytime, you are creating content like that. That just sort have lives forever,
then you can go back and and people like you,
I'm sure you're getting this already, but
but will send notes about stuff that we created two years ago was more years ago, Mcmahon that still at still has the shelf life and it still going
are there any and what you feel it gives the hardest part. I mean it, I'm a good ask you all these elements, because I think that there are probably a lot of women listening. Yes, who have this kind of creative hope for themselves?
Yes, what is it a package? Is a writing a book always and I'm absolutely in the middle of writing myself right now, a book that's trying to encourage women to pursue obey all tiaras perceive it so when you feel it has been the hardest part.
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I'm letting it be, how it is as it comes out so
I do in one pass.
One because I'm u have to edit. It began with the hope that it so yeah and two because I don't need to be anything other than what it does is it naturally flows out and so on that train. I want you to be
that approachable and it really
like others, I let my thought is like
I really let that wine out go. Go, go, go! Go there, like you know it. I'm not gonna fix that.
The status where I was with that, and so the hardest part is point myself back from editing and just accept.
In that this is it and reform, and there there is there as well
I love that anybody who is listening and and considering their own thing.
At rise at our first rise, remember Jan hat maker, said on stage is like what every like your thing is just the
world needs it whatever. It is weird and it might not ever be. You know on the cover of whatever it doesn't matter it. The world needs it, because it's yours, as is without conditions or dollar,
so I love that because I think often what,
men are stopping themselves from pursuing something because they don't think it's gonna be perfect,
ups in war. They don't think it's gonna be right where they dont think it's it's like that whole am your.
Beginning with someone else's middle completely. Like you see these people online, and you have no idea how long it took to get there and see that good or how much work goes in absolutely it's like
sister you find out. Unless you just start just freaking start, that's better,
so speaking of rice roaming around my lest tougher than a year- and I loved you hear from your perspective, I wouldn't into question in like a thousand ways, because
this question in like a thousand ways, because I can't reach
and I had to shamelessly thank you. I mean
Thank you. So much
I know for many years to come. That can be a moment that changed my life. My guy seriously, and you know I mean I think you will let me just quickly rather than they say,
Ask you to speak as a favour or because you ve become a friend or because I asked you
because I saw you speak and I know you are excellent and I knew that your heart was in everything
but you said, and I knew that the women in the audience would benefit from your love and your wisdom. So that's what you were there. It wasn't like a hook up because we're friends so Joan. I appreciate that you're thinking, but thank you.
As I knew that it was exactly what it was, which was incredible. Absolutely
and your own style to sell life. One thing is I'm most pad this weekend, and this is what I will strive to continue to do is the
first sitting on the stage and not just with ages or sizes or radiation, but also the style. The style of speaker was different. Everybody had their own vibe, freaking, love that
I now turn out loud you're, not
you. I think that that, when I reflected back say in the moment was one thing and then a reflection, it was another in it to my watch. It like you, set out
do something and then just did the thing and it was really cool cuz like oh, I saw
the vision and I saw the execution that was really need, be no. The seabed
stage and then front of yeah yeah, it's happening, yeah
That is why I think we we definitely after the very end of it. It's like it really started an and all tat people because work, just chidings returns and and people another. So very tough
some I met you was when you were married, Sammy and be self anybody who knows we display, I think, knows there from my best friends on land use and you were Sammy that Arafat. Then he became their feathers skipping. I think you may be counted them together and then you marry, which was so beautiful, most beautiful, incredible ceremonies in the entire world, which is where I saw you and maybe that night I thought I like you gotta speaker rise. We were like a year in advance, yes, but we when it was done, like the three of us holding entire crying because we live, we can't even leaving Sullivan Tool, but we can't believe, like this
idea- and I think
that's probably might take away and in reflection is I have this.
The idea, but it became great, has of the community who surrounded me and helped me. Do it for sure
you're, never gonna get to the great. If you don't just have the courage to say like I think I can do this in may I love this idea used to say. Like I'm self made, I did a since. I know you didn't I didn't use it made me feel like performers on, but then you don't get anywhere by yourself,
and that every single part of rise was just a hundred people coming together,
he had awesome and even the energy of the women in the room
Why why they were absolutely asked what the eleventh man you know, yeah yeah was so good.
Where are you nervous? You didn't see nurse at all,
seem like I just lit up here this, where the time war after ice, snorted, humane values, not realised. That was like that. That was when they were like, though we love. I was a girl like oh she's. I know you didn't do it on her very good. I will gladly daydream now. I would like to do it on purpose, but I thought so just again we're tongue, you might be all know, we're talking about probably five.
And send to release the sea ass, she giggled and then start and then laughed because my sadly but
you could not if, if a publicists had applied tried the engineer a way for you to be more endearing, they couldn't have come about that because it was just you- and I was so. It felt- is a genuine to your speech later. Our developing real tired. Do it I'm gonna be put together. Maybe one day will be that yeah yeah. Now we have the window in the act and illegal noble far you're. Here we got what I thought of. I don't know if I said this to you that we can, but when I thought, when you did that was years ago, I heard rob values beak devotee that milk, but an he sad, Moses, didn't
take off his shoes because he realized that the ground was wholly Moses, took off issues because you realize the ground had all
he's been hole, and I was like to re shoes that was right hit my habit. She recognises this: is he s in the castle?
even more bactrian in that when I was paralyzed and had to learn how to walk. I had to do that barefoot and then, when I had to argue with my college
be graduating walk with my class because they had to drop out to go, be paralysed and they I can. I got my senior class a little
at the go in for me, yeah, and so I thought, if I can walk actually physically walk and actually walk of my class graduate them into a barrel,
As simple as for me, I said in my holes and social issues as we all worked, barefoot graduating anchor and then and above all, we also got married barefoot right. I'm thing all of my secret walks, I feel like rooted in the ground
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Will you tell the story of others like that journey? Of course again we're talking like friends, instead of a real and lying around like that, like? Yes, you were Paradise airline us and that we have explained. I was a senior in college and I had so with back pain. I thought. Oh, it's!
it's no problem. I've been in
in Bulgaria, so that's nothing and I've got things to do like a two class
and over the course of a league is certainly going down my lower back into my legs and like okay, so my remit, will you gotta help centre, go the Hell Centre there, like? Oh, it's probably like a kidney infection, agape antibiotics
hey medication move on another week. I make stumbling having a real hard time of him and the girls who, like Elise, you need to go to the hospital
yeah, but yeah am not yeah and I was
I need to find- and thank God feels like five women that I live with, that like drag my butt to the hospital, we win and they're like no just a kidney infection, nothing's wrong, and I'm like this- is why I don't seek medical attention.
Go back to college and by the end of the week I can move at all ways down totally powerless,
So they have you just like wake up one morning. Your legs, don't it was probably too weak
like disintegration from back pain, that point of pain.
Literally a mobile while said, but this time I got back to a different hospital when they like TAT,
The panel run up the bomb, your foot there was zero briefly,
I mean it was cut. There is nothing happening. What did you think at this point? A free know anything. What did you think was happening that that I've lost it in that
that war one? What is this is forever yeah.
Oh me on it was very shocking experience
Two weeks after that the diagnosis was transverse, my light us. What is autoimmune disorder that causes a careless Asia
plain of infection in your spinal column. While
so. Then they said you'll never walking in that's what they knew about it, as did that disease them well. You'll. Never walk again, so
set me two important care facility to learn how to live in a wheelchair. Now I didn't know in hand I dropped out of college. I tell you at this point: twenty wow. What kind of support you have around you as your walk, like walking?
as you're going to the one Santa Barbara College, while into my family's not let them is not there
then sister college at this point and there they ve my brother sister, always like my triangle, like team, just because we had to do you like dysfunctional upbringing, that
We must really fused pretty intensely or like it's us gap for life. Yeah
and so not having them. There was hard, but a deftly had college people that rallied around during that time,
So you go to this assisted living. Oh yeah authority with, like ninety percent stroke victims are hip replacement surgery,
Oh, yes, that's what everyone is like Ebay.
person that their activities are. We,
Chair volleyball it with a balloon like mine, and they are not of the re launch of it. I spent
every single day, like kill belly trembling window, my laptop Wickham Island,
just do it just do it and I couldn't I
Do I couldn't figure it out, and it was all this time with this therapy
Eventually, it was able to tap on the Monday,
tell em my brain. I could feel like lightning. They went through all the sudden. Oh my god. Oh my god. I think I did it. I do it s just like you did
all of a sudden, I love my town and that's where star
why was this month long process of intensive therapy to get my feet to move?
in writing. I brain wow and it you.
See you taught yourself to one.
To do everything again everything and it happened again- vendor, like
Look you're doing this now Yandah Rocky now so you'll never will never come back. You ve done it too.
Later now, I'm down again.
No, no I'm curious didn't feel the same way like started back hundred Anderson knew that so I get on those pulsate. Oh yeah, he heard was the same with made. It is an instance ten years I've had it three times, and I know this second, that it happens and it's so, like God, wrenching cause. You know there's no way around. Let us we're just gonna. This were really gets about to go down gosh, yellow two years later, a young married at this point, no no you're.
Years does not merit. Ok, are U S together, yeah, ok, so they say
in time allows my major advocate? Does he get he knew
was right away, and this is also a powerful
the Iphone Riots and but I dont have asked
to Google and then they, like, hey SIRI. What's transverse my lady, I had a light from Gallia didn't. I have no clue the first time, no one here, nada and then the second time he had army medical staff.
They were going, and this is what she has am she had before, and the doktor
thought. We were malingering, they thought oh they're trying to get mad,
like you can get.
Some kind of you try to get laid at a pain medication. Until now it was really brutal.
I plan to dislike, no matter if they help carefulness the little by little matter, which way we women not knowing what it is. They were suspect knowing
it is. They were suspect to receive the diagnosis we thought we had and then how long was it the same amount of time? That time I was fast, shorter, ok, yeah, sure you're my time, because I also last him either
went into disintegration mode and stop blocking completely this time. I'm like I have to keep their limited, but I just can't gotta go all the way why that is
even move my legs myself with my hands like manually, move em. If I knew I couldn't get my brain to do it now, so that we can at least not lose muscle mass
Another is that no
just twice or as happened wise, ok, young, and how do you think that
experience not once but twice like. How has that changed you now? How does that affect you? You know: how does that affect how you love other people are sweet like what? What did that do in your life.
The first practical do it comes to my mind, as I always pick, the parking spot, that's farthest away from the door cuz I can. I can walk that parking lot right now, and
I want make up people that I know when I needed those from parking spot for a long time and end that was humbly yeah.
So maybe a little bit less lazy because it was in the like breaking the black and can you please help me with that like
Can you do that for me, and it was very difficult for me to ask for help soon, a good way.
Broke me in a sense of I'm it'll kill me. Other people serve me, and that is the gift. I.
Absolutely took from that season, because I was one hundred percent like I'm self sufficient
dollar anybody in.
Do it yourself kind of girl and to say it's ok for the person help me it's also.
Not bad for them either yeah my gosh, we
either way, but I just I think that such an incredible such incredible wisdom in that- and I was in a view yesterday or at some point-
There are already get me. I had asked me about: I'm I'm
Really truly believe that life is happening for it
not to totally, but now the choice that you may be right and you have to look for and what good came out of this situation and the person than I was speaking, which I think was struggling to wrap their mind around that a little bit, and I would just like I dont
we had a better explained. There is none other than to say like it. If you
You yes, shoes that perceptually, you are choosing clumsily wow
look at what this body can do now. I am so grateful for what is instead of being better or tarnish because of what you went to theirs
he's a surrender their that I feel it. Maybe, unless you're lying.
Exit unbroken there you know condemnable the vendor only, and I think that that's part of it just when you get to places like back had type of surrender on purpose, then all I do. I do receive yeah this idea, but I think we are some of these have no. I
make it through, I'm: u no self! Well, there is an element of no way I'm making it happen. For me, yeah yeah,
How how do you think this is what part in my browser this we're gonna go with? How do you think that that develops or that
pliers, trusty, trusting someone else like even
I think it is really interesting journey.
Then I thought of being met
It will be very fourteen years now. Thank you, an enemy and whether what is
I think to me is that
Rest is something that is developed over time, even though I thought
Oh we're married. I trust you trust is so much it some much deeper layers than I ever realize it was when I was a baby getting married capsule, and
I'm curious. How even more negative
that is when you're, when you are in a position where you do have to completely rely on another yum yum. I owe you
about two things: Odette dependence on that person interest, so I might depend on a person, is trustworthy
and a lot like multi, dimensional or layered, because I agree, I gotta people's values. I think make
all optimism, yeah all hope. Yeah there weren't baby. Let's do great things yes and sleep yeah now you don't know me to smile. I ask your like a young girl and will show up, and so it is really powerful, the Thou renewals or the pleasure they come back with a new. I still choose you because I know ideology now, yeah shoes. You trust, I think it's
So I you away with almost conceptualize. That is the line.
Did your marriage? Also people like how old you are released?
to each other, or maybe a fourteen year old man that is so good, hauling crack. You talk about a merry and also to look like Eric Ericsson. Stages of development goes loose different phases of trust, verse, mistrust in and the way that we actually grow and how that develops as an infant as a small child and onward. Is it's another like psycho Dynamic, forty in concept? Basically, but I
often feel egg. Our relationship for our marriage takes on that like age or or play,
another part of the relationship like there's Rachel Dave and your marriage? You may ass well with. Sometimes if we don't have kids yet, then it just another person in the relationship between you, kids, it's another kid how I had. What does that kid need right now is that the problem can laughingly right now, re totally its time and it needs discipline and it needs love and special thing needs real. Does like everything else, yeah
can see all the phases of lake
When their little like this, that honeymoon kind of babies, how lining the learning are you good? Are you not yeah how much time
yeah. I put that time in the bank and a new marriage. The athlete depositors withdraw, withdraw,
a drop yeah, I think, am even
gosh. Now five years ago, I would have told you
I thought it was like you
fell in love and end. You hopefully grow more in love with with every with the passage of time, but I don't think
that I realized that you
that we grow deeper and richer again. It like that
don't know that he has never it's never done involving that involves as you grow. If you
choose, you are willing to go, I don't know. I think that first, for me,
choosing to go into business, choosing to have him come into this company, I'm so proud of having well like that
It was a massive choice complete.
And there was something to that surrender of like. I do too
do you in any way mean that I was. I
well come a long way total because ten years ago he couldn't even advise me on business club. You light up. This is my total might ass? Well, I just I think, that's really interesting that it like it gets deeper for you guys doing well was William married when it happened. A second time. Are you? Ok, you deem again yeah
then I did I broke my back.
Falling down the stairs with my three month old. That was actually how
yeah. Why that was you ve told me that he had seen in Sudan and later I thought oh he's confusing her stories. There's a lot of stories. Oh you paralysed twice yet, and you broke your back. Yes with us
eighteen months old and a three month old,
I don't know, that's it killer, maybe rate, and so and then I was out six weeks on my back flower back again,
What's that was a real terms, like really present, very mainly Ebby in an eighteen month, old, baby wow, oh, who is just an unwelcome yeah
so we were married.
Was that was almost like too,
it is treading water, because the babies were first. Yes,
as you may have lived a lot of life together with we traveled all over the world together before we're married, they do like mission staff and often just we're friends for eight years
before we started dating so we just, we really cared for each other,
he was the first boyfriend I've ever had. Who, like ask me, questions and want to know what I thought. That's what you think about the silly ass already you think about that. I gotta go
What's a note, I have to say yeah they come on yeah. That was immediately attractive to me. I thought I thought respect
I felt seem I felt like I may be an invaluable to contribute. That was not done
how I'm one of the things that I wrote down centre. You guys have gone through some transition. Yes,
I mean you: ve got plenty of transit, likely event transitions in Alaska. We arise. How has that player?
you like, if someone's listening and their families grind to a transition with the move or new job or anything. Yes, how like? What can you say about having?
gone to Argo positions in your own family, a cape, so my husband I put,
our two weeks and our jobs within one day each other- and I guess yacht, which was- and so
for sure like bo like
the first look, second user pressure that look right. So my car-
carried in areas like all, so we will probably have to these
friends, very differently. For me and my baby, it's like it's now reigns.
And the transition is freedom for me. It is in
our family, we ve ever had such a season of just like you and me, and nothing in between us, and it was in a very
healthy way like insulating.
Like gained our family, last transition, yeah and
I've never felt more like a partner, so I've. Instead, I feel like ok, like I'm
this five years I am serving you by the home of the kids more law. I a hundred percent phallic knowing were in
together and were both coming
this marriage together to me that this next season, yeah,
cattle, have no clear, yeah you're. So now I think we will release yet to be able to tell our kids the story you can make, make big moves yeah.
It's your own, like what are you gonna do not totally stating that job Helen Everything ass, novel yeah? We need help
a jot less. I do my area. There were three learned down by Yogi yoga with a bottle of Cuba. Knowing is a really interesting,
As for us, we come to the other side and an about turn this massive we ve already made,
stage anymore, about to move totally when that came out of the hardest year of our entire life.
You remember her age, that every pressure so hard, and I recognise that that could have destroyed a yes or you're in a foxhole too
completely and your like. I'm
clinging to you, as I don't know anything out rate and you have to clean back. Yes yeah. I guess
does me they act like this guy's us yeah yeah. That's all
I think, as a real, like important place and set up
always Dana like me before I call this is the way that will always be it. Ask the sun ass, compromising ass yeah well and its
like now having come to the other side of it, not that we therefore want to walk through something that hard gesture, but we are the people we are because of that complete.
And we now like now we're like we're, not afraid of
Asia has grown waivers, so much change
even when it was hard in its act, and we do want to repeat at young look at where we ass. He causes that judge doesn't get to think it gave. My husband is a sense of like oh what, if,
No, it was this good. I want a jump la time. Yes, oh, I think, like liberalism is opening up new like world
experience. So what are you? What are you most excited about for the next twelve months like where? What does it look
where's that trailer headed, ok, good, that's a good question. I'm actually, if you go back and incidents are talking but rise again, because with it
what rise wise from use a couple things. It was like a catalyst and then
like spontaneous combustion zone, to get that automatic.
Whatever the drive and dislike Stoke,
one. Is it
I literally was like the ceiling can't hold a slave, exactly what it felt less and so did I.
you set the table for us right and invite always people in and then
person who was there as a guest, the person who is there on stage. We were all at this table together and it was read out. This is simple, so here I am
we believe that this rises,
Can it be like a catalyst for a lot of creativity is gonna come from, though it
CS? It is so I don't think it's it was. It was a table.
Became. A diving board has itself that sell guy. It's behind that.
It's like next level, yet sometimes I have to do to get people a room together had then
oh you're doing that doing that, so I girl crashed,
hard on Mica May. What
as already ordered like all
I am more things because we didn't farmer here.
So what I learned at rise was I had
the question: how willing am I to go after the thing I really want? Can I
the thing, I really want an amateur my willing to put towards that yeah so
next, for me, or for the trailer, is, I think, I'm really train like launch into a place of
from this would be in this last week. I just pop acid about it, but she was ass. They think bigger, think, bigger and bigger, and I'm trying to do
to a space of trying to expand that this expire.
Areas that I want to bring to people. But I, if I had my perfect client
anything that it would be like. A whole weekend, Togae, yes, it's not like ok, drag out one hour to down one hour. However, all these we guess come for a week,
let's do the thing we really do there, yet
one million percent. There is two things to about this one.
Everybody knows I'll, never stop talking about it time, Robin
absolutely my everything: have you ever gone to you? If you have it, it honestly is.
Fifty hours of fair play in
I don't even know your therefore days young, you just
all day all night you live forever and part of it is magic. Is that you don't realize at the time? Is you are so broken down by how
the hours you are there to show your open to freaking every at anything like our power, letting up we're all crying together. We're all working to suffer organ, be stronger reserve. A you should go to see. You can see that be.
This is why I am so passionate about conference is.
can come together because my life has been changed that way. My men,
It has been jobs that way and so
are creating all of these experiences. You're gonna be a whole part of the business because I believe so deeply and agreed. So if you man, you are lacking at all. I also- and we know the same yes, but how do I get out? Mutineers leaves out. It was me and Sammy Animal aim like sagely wanted space together. We don't have any one's gonna show up, but they made
we're like, could we get villages and could we get enough to just pay for ass? The answer the first year was an idea tat. You have an eye bernheim when an arc rabies desperate for everyone.
So badly? Yes, they want to talk about two things and then it's like
as much about the community
in this the sunlight?
really hard for me to figure out what I want to say. It rise because I didn't feel like I had enough times they like I wish I could just keep, lay led why you go drives all the latest right into the area was lit and where everyone go until their diet lay out just every year by the
having time at night. Yes, at Bay
in all good dinner, Ready compressed, go talk about what you just heard got drinks the MAR. Whenever daddy is that's the icing on
That's what takes it. That's a finishing. Everyone knows a label that it's like we make this beautiful dish
This is like the garnish on top of that. You need to have that time in community to process what you just heard bill. So yeah were, I love it.
The whole thing, and now it's mine, but just because it's it's out
Sid rang, like everybody, make something the incredible I'm seeing a lot of like apps or different things worth psychotherapy through text message. Yes, talks me about what that is and how you feel about it. Ok, I feel
like it is a smart business idea to be able to reach people again, who might not typical, walked the doors of therapies, oats, accessibility and I
I absolutely do not believe it. That's therapy some yeah. There is something to be said for work,
room together. Even if we did this conversation today by phone guess, it's like what they mean
look at each other and be like emulate my gosh. I
what we ask of us are synergy and there's something that happens. I really
that's more than the sum of our parts arc,
culture and society is already losing something in communication because we're taking instead of me to you now, it's me to my phone and then
you to your found that we ve lost any type of actual cash. It, sir. I think that
it might be a baby step on the way to the real deal, but I would never tell people that that's where you stop
yeah so yeah. If you need a text message in order to make a connection, that's gonna get you into a relationship, that's gonna, be restorative. Get it yeah yeah
yeah, but don't stop until you ve,
he had entered into a relationship that restoring refraining. What relationship is supposed to be really would ask actually what their vs ask add up.
wish more women knew about therapy.
Thank you for listening due to say you ve, never got yes what you wish they knew. This is easy. You are,
that you're worth the money and you're worth the babysitter sitter north, the scheduling and you're worth the awkwardness you're worth. Having read tell your story, your worth at tat,
the asking, but that yeah that's. How do you feel it?
Something everybody needs
I don't think it's me. Everybody needs, I think something everybody could benefit from life ass, a mere language that everybody is, and I think that, if you haven't gone, I d
were ever in your life yeah. I do
I dont know how else you work out this stuff like Europe, as we all had, and I don't care who raise you. We all have our stuff. Even some people said the smaller than other is still stand and you have to like any kind of all the hard things like anxiety,
panic attacks and aid,
girl be up his startling all her things are all suffering the right that an effort and they're all a choice. I really believe that you, if you are, if you're
drowning inside of that, and I am speaking as someone who is to drown, inciting anxiety, attacks and have so much
as in all these things, get really pissed,
offer whatever. That was
choice I was making. I think we tend to think like. Oh, that was just a mood I was an or that was just a moment, or that was, but that keep
happening in your life
and you're not taking any steps to go.
Why what was the trigger? What set me off? Why did I speak to my husband, like that you I did I I may so pissed off at my sister, what any and its
for most of us yet pretty hard to do. That, like
then, the self aware and gas or you're going to speak to a family member,
friends, and that's not true
It's not helpful because bear buyers right so just to be able to go talk to a stranger who has no
opinion, as anybody else like sometimes you're. Just like iris wanna, I need a complaint about my has really now, MRS either do not leave tat to do my friend like you, I need you read my library. Like he's wonderful, however, sometimes I'm right now. I just need to give way, and it is also the difference between. I hope, my principal. It always think that way, but my husband, yes, but it's ok for talked my therapists about Excellency Erin lockers and you want to go back to those in France and billing. Others are so cool. Oh yeah yeah. I already Lambert Ass, the real thing. That's a good one.
Omg through therapy. As a question, let's say I feel like if I wanted to find a fair black eyes ass, my friends, what do you do if you listen you're like? I think I need that. Oh I'd love to her friends because it had there is a crucial aspect of that. It's ok with therapy
there's nothing in cycle that I actually have for you. That's gonna change your life when you're, not gonna, look back with, while all those moments. I remember every detail bitterly said: don't we
connected human beings that
it's something new that shifted your experience, how you see yourself, hazy, others and how you see the world you take that back out into your world again start shifting others Ryan yeah. So if you have a
his connected with someone. You can trust that experience I
Also. I am a bit of a stalker, so I will get on psychology today because it's a really great places he whose on there, then I will stop there.
Personal website I will absolutely look and see if there on Facebook and then I will call and find out. Will you give me a thirty minute free consultation on the phone because of their
but to give me a little bit of their time, yeah, and I can ask them
couple questions I
another style of therapy. I want to know if there an area
expertise. I want to know how I do want to know links. I hate ask me that question bunny. I am curious, like
Oh, you are. Ok, I'm no violent, and I know this value and an eye like had this, but where mommy altogether, ok, it's a big
So I knew there was actually a little bit of a problem when we decide to have children, nursing
or library? So
both were, they are, those are
like memories, is your experience as they represent. Monkeys attire happens of worlds. I've been to a mere their ivo, weird thing to wear alike. I'll get a lot of book now, absolutely Anna. If it's not,
a good book. I get upset that I have physical, like I want undesired living because I'm like I dont want like this work was ethic this one and it was garbage. I want people think that I feel are equal. Also, the kit touch each other, my husband
we considered this month
he put wall, the Wall Bookshelf in our bed right next to basic ethical. Look at all. My
Spirits is the yeah. Right years ago I read something in a magazine that was asking people like how'd you. How do you make a house into a home and add a little dinky
by myself and I,
like. Anyone know how that is. Clearly a party thing was what what makes you
be where you are surrounded, it makes you happy makes you feel good and my
answers at the time which still pretty the same, are books and can
I'll see so, and it was like, if you have, if you know what a couple of things are, that just make you feel like this makes me feel common happy survey,
you're such a thing, books and camels vote that always been always man, they're good. Tell too you know, I mean activate. We like
now. Can we like to? Have you choose wine? I now one well I mean line just like something. Could then then the lot
here the latch, allow listeners like man, that's really gonna help them.
That helped you I know one. I know this is like my okay, so hard.
Rule out one.
For me personally or for this,
this is a new early, ran like a really hard question, because I don't have the dumper, because only I feel
hurry intensely about these for old age.
One idea, really gets loves executioner by urban solemn part, probably because he's not a normal reed,
is the number one influence or how I feel like I've developed as a therapist, which is the same as developing as a person, and this book is his story is underlined people at his work with Nazi its phenomenon and then lives.
The keys loves executioner by urban alum and I'm a hundred percent also going to say
big magic. So breaking
And just want to hang out with her.
Yes, I want to hang out where ya like. Maybe she just wants to come in
Maybe she was a yellow that, yes, she does. She know it can be mutual. I saw years ago I went to a day seminar, which was to harm Rob Bell mine the day ever that
exercise arise very right from our tenacity is, and Elizabeth Gilbert Alexis she's, just
that was bull awry, yeah. Well, freak, and yet I oughta myself practicing that exercise sense right. There is, I was like all unilaterally yeah,
reminder cell garrison and yeah those cool yeah, good exercise, Dignan
yeah and loves executioner, grey.
I await an era them do. He lay now that's a struggle and so on. Every Epps, I think we ve been chances. Are we doing here is a supply, Yea son, every single episode, and we ask the same five questions. Understandings I like to know here we go.
You wake up in the morning
and even comes in my room and puts her little chubby hand on my face. All the sheet you still
Where is your daily coffee order, coffee, I'm absolutely copy of what airlines dream me
dream coffee is a criminal mock, spot
Gimme the sugar and the cap being asked and put my hand YAP nearly coffee. Do we probably is different because you so, but my husband is a coffee you like
a sewer, Allison Snub, nosed connoisseur, and so,
Heavens espresso machine, that is his baby. I'm gonna lessons on how to take care of it
better satellite right way, how you know guy and he orders like special beans where it is, and I will benefit from the folders you and I know it, but I like the insular you dislike, stirred and their relevant area. We know that without the girl we asked what I like that, so my parents are enough, and I just never smell like why
get off that poverty is a ritual its that's what it is absolutely right cause, I'm not it's like the capping of ahead hit, not I'm already like I'm no awake about either those things together. Yeah yeah freedom for the coffee, but I need it for the ritual.
That's more like what I can't you travel without,
what's the big bear favorite physical activity, and how often do you do it
the sex count. We had it is there that the actual exercise probably swimming in the ocean, yet only actual business class now get sway. Now Shea Island jet never done like glass honour, I haven't I'd. Rather by do level it will do open swims. There was a commitment made to myself a long time ago like if I'm there, I've gotTa John been Enzo. Sometimes that's like all my clothes are like I'm getting in the ocean. I'll role is yes, I am happy OSHA and going and now I'm going in
it's a wonder, we're friends, they don't worry away. You know, I love you, my dear wife, putting up like even we're in Mexico and things like this water laugh one. I was sound like their sea weed and dare I went to Texas last summer and
not too low lay yeah and it was really in the water. Was the color of Alison's dress like there is happening right now, yeah yeah, oh yeah, I know I was in Florida is seen as always happens. Rules Rachel seemed to him in Florida. There's a political jumping up on yeah. The
ground, moved there, it's a manatee. There was a stinking manatee in there and my
standing on with my right foot other like a key weak, as he was like little bit at school this ourselves. That's why I want I dont within their water. I d ya. Have you heard that book? That's about, let's blue something,
it's about the effects, it's more like biological, about the effects that water has on the human body and nobody Giuliano might only Ireland like had like ten friend something about it. I've, and so I will total thing about the ocean talking about water was actual with. Yours was weird about that. This competition coming full circle is when I was thinking about rise. There's like this,
quality of water. That was what makes the actual water drop in. When you have like those busy molecules are combat close together. They have two big: they had to fuse together, so it is the sole Nerdy But- and so
water stripping out of the false it anyhow stretches rake as it wants to stay together animal splits and want to go back into the rest of itself? Its super bizarre to watch right, but there's a specific quality in that, as in our blood as well, to help the travel ban as thinking of
that in relationship to rise, then we all work together. There is an element,
really wanted to connect infuse, unlike was attracting alike ass. An immediate you can tell like. Oh your create of you, you know you,
You ve got some straight through hassle and we also declared like your ass.
Fraction, yeah and certainly yes,
Zander good. What I do want to forget that there are you you're, lying ass, Jane
Tell me about it. Then someone else someone associates like not if it she said it's more like you. He by Bio then like what creative
everybody's, going, read it yeah, you're gonna have to do so,
If you could tell the women who are listening, he anything does actually that there be could be anything about life there. Listening to this, you could tell them one thing.
And they would listen. There were taken into their hearts. They would do this thing. What is the one thing that
I'd say: you're already enough: there's nothing else. Can I do anything else in the rights already there really left yeah like me, Jerry,
Yeah you're, MIKE drafted so day fan
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