Rambles hi everyone welcome back to anything goes good morning. It's always morning for me when I record these, I don't know what time you guys. Listen, I'm feeling very, very chill and relax. Today very level headed for the his time in a long time, because I've been kind of crazy. The last few weeks, like I don't know, what's going on, but the last, weeks, I've been very high anxiety, very paranoid. very crazy Like emotionally unstable, ah, but today is one of the first phase that I felt relatively soon which is why I decided you know, want Emma record in advice session, because it's a great time from here to give advice right now, when I'm feeling normal, thank God I'll catch you up in the last few,

weeks, I'm pre recording this. So this is gonna come out like two weeks, but tomorrow I have the relaunch shambling coffee, which, by the time you listen to this, everybody will have seen it It is tomorrow. I am definitely nervous in the last few weeks have been very stressful for because I'm so nervous. I feel like I'm kind of out of place our. Am I gonna? What forget like it's going out tomorrow, there's nothing I can do. I have an amazing team there covering all basis, making sure everything is perfect. I've been making german things perfect, everything seems perfect whatever. Let's do it, I feel like I'm kind of accepting, the fact that its tomorrow and I'm not as freaked out anymore but for the past few weeks. But for the past few weeks I've been very just tents and nervous, and I didn't really know why, and I think it was because of this relaunch it's just like when you put a lot of

work in time and do something and then it's finally time for everyone to see its very uncomfortable and nerve racking, and I think that that was causing me, lot of anxiety, underlying and then I was just projecting it onto other things, and you know just the normal. stuff, not even girl, stuff, the fuck normal humans shit. I don't know why. I said that, but it's normal human shit. You know what I mean whatever, but I'm feeling a lot more chill today. So I'm ready To give you guys some advice, we're gonna go straight into it today, get straight into the the heat of it right. I feel like the last few weeks, energy

equally in the universe have been a little off. I know a lot of you. Bob been feeling really really stressed in depressed in anxious in, like its she's, been a really tough you weeks, and I feel, like I say that every week, so maybe that's just the state of the planet in general it now. But I do feel like the last few weeks have been a little worse and I don't know why. At least for me- and even my dad was telling me that he's been feeling very like stressed and upset and he's generally. A very chill guise of the fact that, like he's, failed is a sign. A lot of my friends have been feelings Were bombed out, I've been feeling really bummed out. The vibes had been off with everything. I feel, like a lot of you, have felt really disconnected from the planet. You know the energies of the planet and I think purse, I'm starting to come back to earth a little bit, but it's been a rough few weeks allow

of bad energy in the universe, and so I think a lot of you are feeling that, and I was definitely seeing a lot of shit about that in my dms in on the twitter about things like that and just whatever, so I thought it would be a good time to kind of talk about those things and my experiences within the last few weeks, and you know what without further do, let me take up a coffee and we'll get into it are eight someone said I am going to dams in some scared of my friend seeing the response to your tweet totally fine, if you ever want to Dm Easter. I am constantly checking that anything goes dams. I may not respond but I'm reading and ready to address in the episode so keep in mind. But anyone

I am strongly lot with my body right now and eating. So. Can you please give some tips on how to eat, because I just can't in if I do, I suddenly go throb, and I know that it's unhealthy okay, so so number one. This is very triggering. So if you would like to skip ahead a little bit, I'll probably only talk about this for a few minutes. but I totally get it it's triggering and so feel free to skip. But I also like what I might say might be kind of reassuring. So we'll see I talk about this relatively frequently. most advice sessions, usually something regarding food or body. Image comes up and we completely honest with you. I don't have the answers. I dont have a figure it out. I struggle with this stuff, Mise South I've always struggled with this. Since I was pride, twelve or thirteen. I've had. On and off severe and not severe struggles with this

and so I totally get it totally totally get it, and I can try to give some advice, but no that is so much easier said than done and There is no right way to fix this or to move pass this, but I do want to say that I think a lot of people are struggling with body image re now and I'm saying that, because I got a lot a lot, a lot, a lot of dm about this a lot, and I just want to say that you guys are not alone. It's been really tough. social media recently, because I feel like especially on Tik Tok, there's been a lot of triggering content. I don't love, you guys are watching Tik, Tok or

Instagram reels or like whatever I don't know what you guys used to pass time, but, like I've, been seeing a lot of really triggering content on the internet recently, ah, but take Talkin like reels interim rules being the primary source of that content, and you know some examples would like you know what I eat in a day: videos that are clearly not healthy habits. That's one thing: I've been seeing a lot another one being you know all these hacks on how to lose weight or hacks on how to not be bloated or like all this stuff about weight loss. How to the weight off once you get up like all this shit right, even like girls. I know one thing when on when viral on take talk of, like you know, a girl who was kind of showing off

her body when she has in eating disorder clearly, and she stated that I'm not assuming that she stated that she has anything disorder and but she was cut also showing off there's a bunch to be. I don't know what my opinion is. I don't want to get into it, but like a lot, if you were really triggered because she was saying clear, she had needing disorder but was also kind of showing off her physique regardless, which is kind of contradictory. When you're promoting you know, let's all heal together, but then you know she's kind of showing. in a sense, her mouth nourished body in that's very triggering. So a lot of you were really triggered by that nice. A bunch of uproar brought back and so in general are not good hunting on that, because that's just not my journey not my place, and you know I'm actually wish. her and everybody else that struggling with this the best and

I know how toxic the mindset can be, and so I'm not gonna judge or say anything. But the point of me bringing all that up is that a lot of this shit Getting views right now, it's being pushed in the algorithm. For some reason I know my for you page has a lot of triggering shit on it and you know not only that, but I think that there is a very toxic obsession with body image right now on the internet and I dont we get it like. I dont get where it came from or where it started. I feel like we were doing so good ass, like a community on the internet of, like you know not being like that, but you know with all this triggering content

going viral right now, its inevitable that a lot of people who tend to have issues with the staff are gonna, be struggling with this right now and me included me fucking included. I am no exception. I am very very prone to this stuff, and I can only imagine that a you guys are too, but what I've found helps me. A lot is listen going. Phone and looking at shit online is inevitable right totally, I'm not going to say, put your phone down and not don't look at your phone ever again. No, it's impossible. The first up is to mute people or unfollow people that make This worse for you, if you follow somebody that you know post weight, loss content and that triggers you unfollow them it's weird, because I feel like people

thou themselves to see things that hurt them like even like. If you're in relationship- and you like, are obsessed with stocking, you know you're significant others acts or you You know, love looking at your Ex boyfriends instagram or something like you know what I mean people love to look at that shit. initiative, so that you don't let yourself see that stuff it's hard, because unless you like fact, but I'm so curious, unlike the stuff satisfies in each almost like whatever, but it's not healthy there's a lot of things that we have access to that are not not healthy, so remove those things from your as as much as you can and when it comes to like, like take talking you're on your free page, follow bunch of funny accounts that you love, and instead of going on your for you page where some shady content could be forced down your throat go through your following tab: instead, just try to avoid this content that beach

I've been really having to do that because I think it's just so toxic. he now and it's so depressing and upsetting to see and not good for my brain personally, so I've been like you know what I'm gonna mute people block people, fuckin, Unfollow P, all fuckin do whatever I need to do that? I'm not seeing the shit, because guess what I then it's no else's fault. What how you Brain processes things you have to take that initiative, it's not cool when people post things that are that are promoting toxic diet, culture and stuff, like that, it's Alex. It's not good. People should be pausing shit like that. It sucks at the same time, you know p no can do whatever they want. You cannot control what other people do. So you have to take that initiative and you have to avoid that content. If use are on your for you page, and you see it, white pass it it might hurt, you might want to kind of watch it, but just do everything in your power to not see that stuff and that really really helps because you get so suck

in the internet world, and you start thinking that all that's real life. But if you avoid the shit that makes you upset in you watch the shit that makes you feel good weather, that's cooking videos, that's funny videos, whatever the fuck horror, movies, Ever I don't care whatever you watch that makes you feel good. Do that watch that consume that stuff and when it comes to you know trying to heal from disorder behavior is an ongoing journey. I say this every single time. Please seek help if you can or if you feel like its truly need, I think most people who struggle with this need help in most of em, don't get the help that they need. Please get It really really changed. just things and can give you a new perspective.

It also remember that there is so much more to life than that shit. There's so much more to life, there's so much fun, maybe had with food in with socializing around food and food and the flavour of food and, like you know, with it, urging your body is so important and when you're not feeding her body, really feel like shit. You feel so terrible. You feel you know energy. You can't exercise, you can't you don't have energy to walk round. It affects your moods leg, it's it's terrible ruins or quality of life, and you know I get it it's more than just wanting to look a certain way. Sometimes too, it's like it helps with anxiety. Sometimes it makes you feel like you're in control and control that all that, but it doesn't matter because turn that off and you re route in food becomes something that you, so she with happiness again, it will be so much better for you long term

don't want to fuck up your organs, you don't want to fuck up brain you wanna keep yourself in the best shape the? U cans. you live a long and healthy life and you can have kids and you can raise those kids and have a beauty, a family there's so much to look forward to don't we your time focusing on food. put food in your body. They are proud of, enjoy it in that I wish that I had a solid answer. I was that there is a clear, waited fix all base, but just now that everybody struggling with his re now, because on socially had so fucking prevalent in its awful, but we're all deal but they re now more than normal. Moving on. Thank you to all birds responding. This episode of anything goes your stuff. says ban at an all time, high recent legal resting all time. High leg, I feel, like everybody's over level of stress, has just been elevated. Even when we

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have a gate, and for starters, I want to say, don't be hard on yourself, because no one knows how to deal with this shit. It is really really hard to know what to say in these situations, but the key, at least from my experience is continue to offer support, even if they are not asking for it. Continued they don't respond for a week. Don't take a personal, the it's not about you. I know you don't mean there dealing with such a terrible thing that their emotions are gonna, be all over them that their emotions are going to be all over the place, be gentle with them be patient with them offer support if they don't accept the offer, don't put pressure on them. Just constantly be-

them a stream of support and they'll take it when they need it, but if they don't need it, that's okay, but continue to offer it and to remind them how strong they are and how brave they are and remind them that you love them and they will always be there for them, give them space, but also dont, give them too much space, because something that I learned. The hard way was once one is dealing with something like this, giving them too much you, may you may seem like I don't want, don't be getting be getting I what know what do so. It's better, if I say less than say too much. I dont want to like make things worse so, like I'm gonna step away a little bit it's very easy to do that, because you think oh well, there you know

I I need to give them space because they don't want me like all up in their business right now, like they're dealing with their own shit. Well, the thing is when you're going through something that emotional and not scary, it's hard to be like I need support they're so emotionally exhausted. I don't think that they're able to ask for that most of the time, so you have to give it whether they are asking for it or not, and if they don't accept it, it doesn't matter because it's the fact that there and that you're checking in and so even it might feel like you're annoying them or something because they're not responding. But that's me, slightly not the case unless you're like harassing them, I'm not saying that leg. Just checking on them daily or every other day, making sure that they're doing ok, if it somebody's really close to you, even if they dont, except it, you need to understand that there is so much going on that you are not

and that you aren't feeling yourself so give them space, also give them that love and when they're ready to accept it from you, be there to give it your all. You know, and that's the best that you can do, but also this is all out of your control, you know so dont be hard on yourself. Just do your best, ok, because at the end of the day no one's perfect and nobody knows how to handle these situations perfectly. There is no formula: there is no rule book. Yes, you, read articles about how to help, and how do you know what to say, but it's like even then it every situation is so different. and so be easy on yourself, but don't give up next help me Amber I love everybody calls me Amber now it so funny. Thank you to all of you for coming up with my own new individual, unique, nickname. I love it helped me amber. What do you do when a person

like very much slowly fades away. Did I do something wrong anyway? Love you so much! I love you so much to some extent. I so love you so much know you not do anything wrong at all. You could like someone so much in the beginning, but then, throughout your rises relationship or throughout your guys' friendship. What, it is. I don't have you guys are dating or not, but humans are constantly growing in evolving and people grow a different rates and I was actually watching a video about this today about marrying young and stuff like that, unlike the full behind it and its super interesting to me, as they are talking about how you know when you're in

twenties or late teen years, you're still finding yourself. So you still have so much finding yourself to do right and when you're in your younger years, like every month, can be so different. Like I look at myself six months ago, whole different human being, I swear to God. I literally reinvent myself, once a month I like in different, every single month there is no two months where I am the same person I learn so much every day. I learn more about myself. Learn more about the world, learn more about what I care about. What my morals are me a year ago. Two years ago, different person completely different person, and I am constantly changing and everybody is so if some time passes in your feelings, for you know a significant other face,

that's probably just because you are growing at a different pace than this other person sending happens with friendships. I've had friendships were somebody was my best fucking friend, but then I grew and we didn't align anymore and, yes, you feel bad guys you're like fuck, like that's that sucks like. Why do we not click any more? But that's ok, because that's normal everybody's growing. different rate. At some point they might catch up to you and you guys might be able to be friends again like you were before, but it's just like. People are always growing, and sometimes when your growing with someone you guys can of heart, and that is so normal and with some people you know you to help each other grow, and so you know the journey, is a lot more intertwined? And that can be like that with some relations. I know that there's some relationships that I've been in, where I'm like there

and why I ve grown is because of this person, and I've kind of you know grow Do their level in a sense because they ve shown me new perspectives in shit and made me want to grow and, like that's amazing in that Definitely not an option as well, but sometimes you know you grow apart and there's nothing wrong. And that just means it is not the right time or it's not the right person anymore, and that is a okay and it's gonna happen again and again in your life until you find your hopefully lifelong partner, which is seems like it's very outdated, now everybody's, like, although I wanna lifelong partner, fought for FUCK's sake leg. I dont want to be like floating around from due to do for the rest of my life, so even though that may seem a little bit outdated, definitely a life partner. I definitely want that like I want to be. Oh, my god. This is off topic, but with the other day I was at a mall, and there was

using an outdoor mall, and I was trying to find these pants that I wanted didn't find them or whatever and there live band in the middle of the park at this mall, and there is this old one. sitting in a wheelchair and her husband was pushing her around and I got choked up thinking about that. Super off topic, but I literally almost started crying. I was like that is the sweetest shit. I've ever seen- and I imagine like being with somebody for like fifty years, then you guys are bowl. I ll never that shit were made me emotional until recently, and I know what has happened to me anyway. Somebody said I feel, like I'm stuck in an endless cycle of doing things same thing:

over and over again every week, and I don't have any motivation for anything anymore. Do you have any advice, everyone's feeling like this? There is no escaping it. I am so sorry it I've I'd everything. I've started going to the beach I started, I'm buying a drum sat like I there's so much things. I've tried to do and I'm so sorry but we're. This is just the climate we're in like it will pass, but it's just we've all so isolated for so long that it is just inevitable. At this point, everybody's burn out everybody's fucking, sick and tired of it. It either you just have to ride the wave, and I mean obviously there things that help any Amy fucking activity that you can do. I swear to God. Just do something like you anything organizer clause, fuckin go online shopping. It make a fuckin folder of clothes that you think that your friendship vice like do something anything that will pass the time I swear to. God will get

I feel like twenty twenty one is going to be actually really amazing and I don't want to jinx it. So I will knock on wood, but let's just ride this wave everybody's feeling this it will pass and when it does pass, it's going to feel so. Fucking good, so just be patient Okay, some of this is a little bit more of like a mature question and maybe I'll I don't know my demographic is on here, but you know big kid, I'm nineteen! So it's like fucking, seven years old in human, like nineteen is so young, but whatever someone said hi, I'm super insecure about my body, hair especially downstairs. I have a lot and I feel cause and pressure to shave or wax to feel hot and it's so tiring to do it everyday thoughts. Okay, so here's my experience, I don't think it really. I really genuinely don't think it matters I like jet, I mean okay, I totally get it. I listen. I don't judge everybody do whatever the five

you want shaved? Don't shave whatever? Personally for me, like I dont like having any body here at all, which is IRAN because I like forget to shave my legs constantly, but I'm just like not someone who likes the feeling like I just don't like it like. If I forget to shave my arm. for a little bit too long like I freak out and I'm like, I need to shave it and that's just a personal preference for myself that has nothing to do with anyone else. I don't judge, I don't care, it's none of my fucking business Period, you can do whatever you want with your body here, and no one else should have anything to say about it and that's point blank period, but I to understand the desire to want it, you know have a clean shaved constantly. I totally get it because I mean number one is a society thing, but I also think a lot of people just feel more comfortable and it feels like it's like physically, more comfortable to be shaved. That's how it is for me and I've struggled

with this issue. I am such like I'm that everyone, I'm so fuckin lazy, that, like one I'm in the shower, I shave everything so fast that leg I it it doesn't. It doesn't end up. is sometimes we have some user error rate and things don't look the best. It's not like. I did the best job, like you guys, guarantee that every time I shave my legs, there's a missing. There's a missing strip of leg, hair that I did not like it's it's a mess, so you can only imagine it's a mess. But the thing you need to remember is that body hair is so fucking normal and I can guarantee that your significant other, if they have even half of a brain, are not going to care if you are perfectly shaved every single time. That is a completely unrealistic expectation, and I think that that expectation to be perfectly shaved, we were all the time. Just comes from. You know societies,

illegal, a stigma in society that you need to be perfectly shaved constantly but that's so unrealistic, like nobody. Unless you're like getting waxed, cons, or you have laser hair removal or you just naturally are like lucky, and I don't have this issue like having a slightly messed up. Bikini line is pretty much everyone like. If so, how this summer I was just a mess because I was like like every time somebody would want to go to the beach I was like I just don't. This is All right I'll see you guys in in an hour now have to go in the shower and fuckin, be in there for three hours to make sure that I'm like at it with its tough, ok. But anybody

expecting it to be perfectly shaved. All the time just doesn't understand the human body. Nobody can shave perfectly, it's not normal to be able to do that. It's impossible. I swear to God. Everyone has problems with it and, if you're significant other expects, that of you, that's just stupid, who gives a fuck like, your body hair. It's, however, you want to manage it, and you know obviously there certain people of preferences and something that I totally get that, unlike those things, can be communicated respectfully if there's like a really severe issue or something which, whatever that can be a conversation within Europe relationship alike, you know, on a day to day like if you didn't shave perfectly when you shaved last and it's like not whatever aid who cares, it just doesn't matter and ninety percent time, no one. Even paying attention I swear to God, think about it. Are you ever paying attention to that stuff on other people oh, no, I

tell you one time, I've ever been like they didn't shave good. What who gives a fuck it just like doesn't matter! I mean unless it's like a very extreme situation. You know I mean, but I'm saying like day to day like there's, it's an unrealistic expectation to make it perfect, don't be self conscious. It is totally normal and natural and people love you for you, not because you have a perfectly shaved, you know hey. I want to hook up with this guy, even though I don't know him, but I'm scared that my friends will judge me, because they will think that he's weird or something. What do you think I should do? Listen? Who gives a fuck? What your friends think, if you think they're cute and you're into it, go crazy, have fun! You can't make those decisions based on social judgment like you just can't

it doesn't matter and those things are so personal to you and your preferences. It is none of your friends business. You don't have to tell them, like I say, go for it. I have to and somebody you just believes like as long as somebody's trustworthy and cool like just fucking go, unless you're in a relationship? No cheating? I have a phobia of cheating, so I mean I think everybody has a fucking phobia of cheating, but as long as you're, not cheating on anyone, then, who gives a fuck have fun hook up with anyone as long as they're, not a douche bag in are disrespectful, then you're, fine, somebody said: do you ever feel, like you're growing you're becoming the person that you want to be, and you have your standards and you have your morals, but do you ever feel like you're fighting with the old you. If, so, how do you handle that? Yes, yes, I okay, so over the past year, I've done probably more growing than I ever have made entire life, and I met a really good

but right now, where I feel like I'm, the most mature and the most grounded in the most. Morally sound that I've ever been. I mean I've never been this connected. I don't think I mean don't get me wrong. Mess consistently a mess very much mass all the time still amass, but I feel like I'm more grounded than I have ever been and I feel more mature and more. You know in a good place than I have been in a really long time, because I've always been a mess. So it's more of a matter of how much of a mess mi, and I think that right now, I'm doing pretty good, and I think that I have figured out a lot of my priority. and and kind of settled, all that out a lot recently and so yeah. But I I back back myself myself six months ago and I want to puke like I it was a fucking mess. I was so dumb I even six months ago, it's just like it's crazy. How quickly you evolve and, like I look back at some of this shit that I did

even a year ago, six months ago, and I'm like Emma, you were so immature. You were so impulsive. You were so you had no Confidence, no self respect, no leg veto no spine, like I mean definitely a spine, but like less of a spine than I do now, like just very like doing Is that, like I do not approve of now, you know what I mean enough, no more harmful to anyone but me, but it was just and they weren't, even harmful in general they're, really not the things that I've done like whether it's like it could be like from kissing a dude that I, like kind of regret, cuz I'm like I didn't. I was just doing that because, like I was like whatever

but not because I like really more honestly just for like reassurance that, like someone was attracted to me like something like that thought I only have ever talked about that. Maybe we talk about that one episode, but maybe we need a few years on that one but, like you know like getting what they do just cause. I fell in secure like that, something that is a good example words. I gather didn't harm anyone. I didn't hurt bad guys, feelings, it didn't hurt my feelings, but it's like that's something. I am proud of now and and that's something that I beat myself up about because I'm like you would not do that That's, not you that never was you, why did you fucking? Do that? You did that, because you were insecure, you idiot. Why would you do that right? And she liked. I hurts it hurts to reflect on, but. You know you all have to remember why you were behaving the way.

you did there's a lot of circumstances, I mean there's so many different circumstances. Right, like you were learning you were working through something. So, you wouldn't be at the mature amazing place that you're at now, without every mistake that you've ever made because those mistakes helped you grow and so there's nothing to be angry about? Yes, you can be like. I wouldn't do that again, but you can't be angry at yourself or share that you've done you've done it. You're done it's over. You did it. You can learn from it. That's it so don't beat yourself up over just learn from the mistakes that you've made and that's it. You know what I mean, there's nothing to be shameful about you, the old, you is still you and they needed to make every mistake that they ve ever made so that you could be the you that you are now.

Somebody said what do you do when you're having a breakdown panic attack in public? This actually happen to meet super recently. So I wanted to tell you all the story. I went to one of my first socially distance. In person meetings in a while, because there has not been meetings in person due to covered in a in eight months I've been just doing zoom, but I had a meeting with a few people. And it we were in the backyard and more socially just dance to it was really nice by the beach was great and a few minutes into this meeting. I start to my vision in my eyes, starts to get fucked up like there is blind. in my eyes, and I was like oh fuck, I'm getting an aura migraine which is basically where you get a well basically how it works. Is you start to kind of go, not blind.

You start to lose vision in your eyes, your eyes, very, like you can't see anything properly like imagine, you have a bunch of goopy Shit in your eyes, and it's just like a bunch of goopy like stuff so like there's blurry, spots in your vision that sorts aben Then you basically can't see properly for about an hour and then your vision. was back in them right as your vision comes back, you get an excruciating headache. My mom and I get these. We ve gotten these forever. Our whole lives It is the reason why I cannot go on hormonal birth because if you go on hormonal birth control without those types of migraines, you get them all, time in there really scary and terrible? While I haven't got

one of these migraines in a super long time, but they can be triggered by anything whether you, like you didn't eat enough. That day, you didn't drink enough water. That day, you are overly tired, like just not taking care of yourself will trigger it, and I got one and I'm at this meeting and I'm starting to see that, like everyone's getting kind of blurry for me and I'm like fuck fuck, fuck fuck, fuck fuck god damn it, but I'm going to remain compose like I know this shit will pass about about an hour, I'm just going to ride the wave right. It's hard, though, because you can't make eye contact because you can't see properly so it's really hard to make eye contact and shit and so they're talking for, like probably a half half and I'm just listening and I'm trying to focus, but I'm starting to spiral into a panic attack, because I was like holy shit like this. Is

I haven't gotten one of these migrants and so long like what? If what, if like? there's something else wrong like what. If one of my lungs are, light is filled with fluid, and so I'm not getting oxygen to my brain and my brain is failing and that's why my vision is getting fucked up like what if it's not Neura migraine like what, if it's something else- and I started the spiral about, maybe I was having a larger issue, and so I started to panic and I'm like shake. unlike my limbs, started to lose feeling, and I was basically getting a panic attack wow having this or a migraine. Why I'm at at this meeting right and having to normal, and so we all ordered sushi beyond our own little separate sushi boxes, and I only eight a few pieces cause. I was so nervous, but I was like you know. I'd may be getting some food and my stomach will help, sir

I start eating the sushi and I'm using chopsticks, and I have my hands on the chopsticks and I go to reach to get a piece of sushi and I have no feeling in my right hand, like my hand, was paralyzed. I could not move it. And I was trying to pick up the sushi by clamping it with the tropics, and I couldn't do it my hand, would not move this made me panic. Fifty times more, I could tell if my hand was asleep because I've been sitting on it for like the past half hour or, if, like I was literally losing feeling in my limbs because, like there was something wrong with my oxygen going to my brain and it was like cutting off and I was going to pass out and die of a heart attack, and have like brain some sort of brain. Like I literally thought I was dying and I talked my mom later and she told me that she thinks it. The reason why, lost feeling in my hands and feet was because I was having a panic attack. But I was

really managing it. Well, I was like I am not going to. Let them know that I'm panicking I'm just going to let them talk. Finally, after, like thirty minutes, forty minutes, they were done talking and I was like. Oh fuck, it's my turn to talk and they ask me a question and I would think of the answer in my head and when I would go to say it, my mouth would say a different word than what my brain was. Thinking like I was jumping doing my words an accident? Let's say I was thinking of saying I really like the last option. Let's say that's a sense of going to say I would start on. I be like option like I I like, I cannot make it up. It was like I could I kept like starting. My sense is wrong and then I'd be like, oh, my god, I'm so sorry, and I was like I had to admit to them- I'm sorry guys. I have a migraine and it's giving me a little bit of a panic attack and I'm really sorry but like I am jumbling my words like I'm kind of a mess right now and they're like oh, my god. They know totally fine when they brought me

Some water and I was like no guys keep going. I was so embarrassed because I hate being like the person whose leg You know I don't like getting injured in front of people or whatever I don't like being a fuckin liability languages it I hate that type of attention so. I'm your anger, you again you can. We shut up using alone, but that was so saying in so I think the way that I deal with it. That help me move past. It was admitting to them like. Like my panic, virtually went away immediately after I was like listen, I'm so sorry guys by having like a really bad migraine, Like my anxiety in a little bit. It's like bad, I'm! So sorry, because I'm just nervous about the migraine because they make me anxious and they were like- no, it's totally fine like do. You want us to take a break like whatever and then once they add that standing. I didn't feel like. I was hiding mice.

Trouble and I didn't feel like I was like trying to like bottle it up. I felt so much better. So I think that my tip is to tell someone that you're around that you're having this struggle and that really helps because then you're like okay, well, they know what I'm dealing with and so all on the same page. Let me just get through this and we'll be fine, and that's literally that somebody said how do you know it's time to have sex with your significant I don't know if I'm allowed to talk about this, so I will ask my team, but I don't think it's that big of a fucking deal and I think that's something. That's important. I've always been somebody that doesn't judge that stuff like at all, I think genuinely. As long as you are respected by the other person and your having safe sex. I don't think that there's really any limit to like what you do with that

like I think you can in my opinion- and I mean, of course everybody has their own, whether it's like religion or whatever, totally respect all that but like at the same time, if you have no as long as you are being safe, bout it in the other person is somebody that you trust in that is completely respectful You and your body- and you know what, when it comes to all that stuff, there's really no reason not to if you want to this is complex. Actually, this is a lot more complex than I had into later when I started answering it, there's no issue and waiting, but at the same time, if you feel safe in comfortable with your significant other or whoever you decide to do this with an You trust them, and you know that,

this will not harm you physically or mentally? I mean it could obviously affect you mentally. Just it's like you know. This whole thing like it is very emotional thing, and so you know I'm not saying like I'm saying emotionally is in it might make you feel weird at first cuz, you Oh what the fuck I'm a big kid. Now. That's weird and like that's what I mean by emotionally, but I'm saying, like you know that this person, is somebody who's nurturing and caring and respectful and won't hurt you emotionally or physically at all that super important and if. You know everyone's tested in your wearing protection like just obviously, all those things are so important, but if you know the age is appropriate and the comfort is there, I dont really see any reason to wait,

if you have that all those you know elements I say, definitely wait for those elements to be present. But actually there is, to be said for waiting a little bit to have sex. I think can make your relationship a lot Stronger, if you wait longer before you get into that, because you you have your whole relationship to do that. So there's also. no rush like if you guys have been dating for a while, like go crazy, have fun whatever but like. If you just met in you. You want to wait awhile because you're, like you, know I kind of want this to last week. I kind of war To see how mean this person get along without that physical element, then wait in sometimes it's tough, but I think waiting like even a month or so two months three months it doesn't hurt because it builds like an element of excitement.

That you wouldn't have otherwise, and it also forces you to to grow, a relationship that has nothing to do with that right. so I don't know I mean I think that if you want to and you feel ready and all the factors that I mentioned earlier- there go for it, but also their it doesn't like waiting, doesn't hurt either.

because there are a lot of pros to waiting a while, but I think that you'll know when it's the right time and that's that somebody said: do you agree with right person and wrong time? This is really interesting to me, because I used to think that, but now I'm not so sure, because it's it's really tough, because I definitely think that this can make sense. For example, let's say you meet your.

Love of your life in high school and then you guys both go to college in different areas and it just becomes really hard, but there was never an issue with the relationship right. I think that that is a great example of re person wrong time and you guys can reconnect down the line because there was never an issue. The problem with right person wrong time in saying that in throwing that around is I I've found a lot of people, including myself, have literally said that and justified a partners actions by saying that when they were just genuinely toxic and fucked up like a leg, you don't say I think that you know people insane shit like that when there are like blindly, love with someone and be like well, it's just right person wrong time like theirs. in a bad spots of there being like really emotionally abusive, but it's fine, because it was the right person wrong time like they'll grow out of it, blah, no, no, no

oh, that's not how that works. That's just wrong person, wrong person, leg! That's Pointblank period! I just think that a lot of people use that term till I almost kind of subconsciously justify their toxic partners, terrible traits like if you have a really toxic partner and they cheated on you six times- regulate bull issues, cause they're young person wrong time like they're just going through this phase. No there's a piece of shit and you just love them too much because you're, a good person and you care about people and they're taking advantage of that they really are. Not it's really not like that when, when you meet someone and they're the right person the only time that it could be a wrong time is, if there's something that is a worldly, that you guys can control. That is keeping you apart, whether that's like college or

or maybe like a job situation. That's like super time consuming leg. Let's say you're dating someone who, like has travelled like across the country constantly for work like things like that in that make it really difficult in like not work or like you know, even if you just need to be single for a few, more is, but you found somebody that you really want to be with, but you just know that you need to have that time by yourself before you date like yes, shit like that can happen, but that's also what let's notice something about that: there's no red flags with that! There's no red flags with the with that person. They could actually be the right person, but it is the wrong time that yes, but there look at the other situation when you're just saying rapers wrong timings, your justifying someone's toxic actions, Hell a red flags,

flags all over the damn map, but we're still out here being like no, it's ok because they just are having of no. No Oh, no, no, no! Listen! Everybody! If someone's treating me like shit you're out, I'm done I'm done with anyone accepting a listen. I cannot believe the amount of bad treatment that I experienced in my life

and how I just was ok with it. It blows my damn mind, especially like in dating, like I just got fuckin thrown around. Like a pay me yadda, I was just stabbed constantly in the neck leg just demolished every time, listen Ya'Ll! It does not need to be like that. You do not need to justify a shitty persons behaviour. Why are we doing that? You will absolutely fine someone who has no red flags. You might even find him at the wrong time. God only knows. Doesn't matter no red flags, twenty twenty one, when you twenty one we're not. We are not ignoring the red flags ever again. Listen me, you hear me right. We are not ignoring red flags anymore and we're not using little sayings to justify red flags. Thank you. Somebody said what do you do when you see someone that you are not on good terms with in public

I ignore them for as long as possible and then, if I make eye contact, I give them a little wave and say hi be polite and then immediately Argolic, I'm busy and walk away. So yeah somebody said advice on how to motivate yourself to eat when you're going through an episode. So. I know one, I'm really anxious. I have a really hard time having an appetite like I'm, not thinking about it right in it like It stresses me out to do anything so like what that's going downstairs to cook or picking out a meal like to eat like I'm, just like I don't even have within me right. So I totally understand this. I think, He is too, when you're having an episode to feed yourself, something that

exciting in yummy, do you like go? Get your favorite food like treat yourself a little bit because you you need to eat and you might as well make it something fun like let's say: you're really really into this pasta dish from an italian restaurant down the street, go there and get that and eat that. That's something that you know that you love your. cited about whatever. Let's say you know, you know, you know what I do need to get out of bed cook something cook, something like really like fun. Yummy. healthy. That leg will make. You feel super good like that, could also no really get or like go ice cream and eat actually doesn't matter. Does anything that you would feel excited about anything that excites you that, like kind of makes, you feel a little Hungary that makes you like

that makes your mouth water a little bit find something and eat it in I promise I will help. Somebody said I got new dogs who are brothers and they won't stop humping each other. How do I stop Listen, let them have fun. Okay, it's not harming anyone. You know, I say just let them hump it out and they'll probably grow out of it. Eventually then said. I feel numb and sad was the time, but I have an amazing wife. I want to talk to somebody, but I don't sound like I'm downplaying people who have actually dealt with depression or bird, my family is they ve? Also recover from an eating disorder. I love your podcast so much. Thank you so much I'm going to address all these things separately, number one. I also feel numb and sad a lot, and I also have an amazing life and it sucks, because it's like why, like what's the fucking problem, you know what I mean it's like. I have nothing to be bummed about. I

constantly bun like what is up with that? I think that it's normal and I think that sometimes in the peak of your life, you can feel the worst because you're, like God, like everything so good, I feel pressure to feel perfectly happy all the time, but I don't know just spirals you into a deeper sadness enjoy amazing moment by moment. Okay, tomorrow is not promised, remember that and just I almost road this down in my journal, the other night, because having anxiety about, friendship that I have- and I was like- oh my god. What am I doing? This is so dumb leg. Imagine me being anxious about this friendship that could potentially last

very long time like an imagined, nothing ever going wrong with it severely right and I spend the whole friendship just anxious about the friendship right leg imagined spending your whole life, anxious about something that will never happen or being upset about something that will never happen. What's the point that I think that when things are really good, you start to get worried about those good things going away. For me, it was that French about whether that French of some important me if that ever goes anywhere. I wanna be fuckin sad, but imagine me way: stately, I'm wasting time I'm worried about that when, like there's, a decent has nothing's even gonna happen, and if it does, it was meant to be like I can't we hit, spend our whole lives being worried about something going wrong or whatever we have to enjoy it right now, because for fuck sake. We could die tomorrow and like none of it, it mattered and did

even ever, enjoy the moments that were so amazing. I I don't wanna waste my life feeling anxious. about things going wrong, while things are going good, there's no point to that, so that something to consider just enjoy it moment by moment also when it comes to talking to other people all about your problems. That is what other people are. Therefore, ok, just because it's not like it's a point system where it's like oh ok, when I talk to my family about my eating disorder that used up ten points and now I've no points left to talk to them about think no. There is no fuckin system like that you can go to people whenever you want and you should be going to people ever. You want to talk about these things, because life is a constant battle just because you struggled with one thing doesn't mean that you're not in a struggle tomorrow or the next year, the next day. Nobody expects you to get over. One problem and then never have another problem. Again, that's not

how this shit works, unfortunately so go to your family talk to them about this, maybe find a therapist or somebody that is kind of a move from the situation that you can talk to. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your family, yet whatever it is, you're gonna have problems for the rest of your life as well. The rest of us so don't waste precious time, bottling this shit up when there are so many people that would love to help and support you through this somebody said how to handle my mom, who prioritizes her new boyfriend over me. I've been there for her through everything, and she knows I'm her by this, but doesn't really care. This is really tough as somebody's down with a divorce myself. It is really really tough for not only you as the child, but also for your parent, and you have to remember that it took me so long to

Stand that, like a divorce, is equally as jarring fur parents right leg. They are learning just as much as you during this time force will shake shut up in a way that, like is very unique and it's so hard. But you need to not take a personal, because your mom is a human being right. In what she's doing right now is not cool at all, and it is not the way that you deserve to be treated by any means, but at the same time don't let this change your view of yourself, because this has nothing to do with you. Your mom loves you just as much as she did before, but she's trying to fill avoid right now with her new boyfriend

she's trying to find happiness in something that inevitably won't probably work cause. You can't really find happiness. Another person, but when apparent goes through a divorce, and starts dating again, I can only imagine how confusing that is, because you know you go from having somebody that you thought was going to be your lifelong companion to being alone again, it's you know, put yourself when her shoes for a second that shit must be awful. Does it mean that she should be collecting. You know that is not fucking fair, but I am explaining this because it port, and for you to be aware of that, so that you don't it personally and think that there's something wrong with you like. Why is my mom? You know with their new boyfriend and not me like a mine, so shitty to be around like what the fuck. No, it has nothing to do with that and everything to do with the fact that your Mama's try

fill that void, she's, trying to figure it out, and so all you can do is communicate this chair mom as much as you feel comfortable. It's really hard But you need to let her know how you feel, as often as you can and really be respectful about it. She's struggling even though she's your mom. It's or to comprehend the parents struggle, but they do communicate this with her and say mom. I miss you. I I need. quality time with you like I live at home right now. I I need you to prioritize me because I'm your child. You brought me on this planet and I need that love in reassurance in nurturing from you, because you're. All I have your my mom, you there mom and I have- and I need that from you. Please give that to me and keep trying to plant those seeds

she'll have a wake up, call at some point and she's going to regret it too, but you need to not take it personally and just try to help her through it right. Parents are human beings and they're going to fuck up and it sucks, because as a kid you get the brunt of it when your parents fuck up, especially when you live at home, but be the bigger person and try to teach her lesson through this array. Someone said, I think, I'm losing feelings for my boyfriend. We've been together for like a year and a half and we haven't done anything sexually. I think because of that I see him more as a friend and I don't know what to do about it feel really bad about it, but I don't know help there's someone

he said for people who, like you just don't, have romantic chemistry with an that's totally normal, like you're, not gonna, romantically click with most people like it's, it's not like every two combination of people will I be able to have a romantic chemistry with a lot of people is not there and that's why relationships are so special because you know you can have an amazing friendship with somebody, but I think, of of my guy friends right, like I love having them as a friend, I love having them around blah blah blah, but if it came to like ever any

more like. No. No, that would not work. You know what I'm saying and that's totally fine and normal, and that is what makes romantic relationships differ from friendships. Is that you have that romantic chemistry that you can't just have with anyone and throughout your life, you're going to meet a lot of people that you just don't have that chemistry with, and that is totally fine and normal and it can be hard, because, sometimes if your relationship is built on a foundation of friendship which is important, you can kind of get the lines blurred in your life I guess it doesn't really matter that our physical element is not that great, because we have such a great friendship. Well, unfortunately, as a human being in a romantic relationship, you need, I mean not everybody. Everybody is very different, but I think a great amount of people

need a like that physical element. I know I do like I'm sorry, but like I need like a lot of affection so like, if I'm not getting that like I'm I'm out of here, you don't I mean, and so it's normal in it. May not be the right physical match in that's totally okay, and this is a convert that I think that you need to have with your boyfriend. Just listen. You know I would rather just be friends with you because I feel like we really just have a friendship. Anyway, like we don't even really have legal real romantic relationship, so I would rather, as just be friends, because I think that makes more sense so that you can go explore.

or a true romantic relationship with someone else, because we need that as human beings right like we need physical affection and like to feel in a way like sexually connected to someone else. That's what we need in relationship ship most of the time. Some people have totally different situations, but, like you know, people who are in that head space, where that's they need, like that's very normal, so I say that you break up with him, but try to be friends with him. Still. God knows it probably won't work, because that shit is a mess every time. But you know you need to be checking that box. If that's something that's important to you, even if this guy is great like, if you don't have the physical,

and you're losing feelings, be honest with yourself about that and don't waste either of your guys' time anymore. Somebody said: how do you get an x back? We are not in full contact with talk here and there I miss them so much, and I know that they feel the same, but we need a push, because we are both stubborn and neither of us will make the first move. You know. I think that this is something that you grow out of, eventually, because I'm actually in the process of growing out of shit myself, not specifically with like an ax, but when it comes to like being too stubborn d like reach out or like make plans and stuff like that, like I think that you grow out of that. But what you need a realises that you live one life ok, send the text. What is the worst that can happen? Put your ego aside for a second and be like you know what I'm just going to Texas person in tell them exactly how I feel put your egos that you're gonna feel so much better. The relief that you feel is so much greater than the

ego death that you have when you send a text like that trust me it is so for failing to send attacks like that, and even if the response is not something that you want, it feels good to know that you did everything you could try to get this person back. they're there good person and it's a good person to get back because sometimes getting back with an x is like the worst thing you can do, but sometimes it's also necessary. So I don't know hopefully they're not toxic person, but either way send the text so your ego aside, hang out with a friend of yours and just sit there right up a little text and send it and put your phone down for an hour and come back. You will feel so much better. It's even hard for me to make plans right, like literally even interrelationship like I'm, the type of person where I'm like I want to make the plans begin. Is

I am scared of them being not wanting to hang out with me and then me getting embarrassed. What the fuck is that I'm growing out of that. Luckily like only recently, isolate, never make plans with any one, and now, like you know what I'm putting my ego aside, because I want to hang out with this person. It's like. I would like I want to hang out with this person, so bad bombs going to wait for them to ask me to hang out what the fuck is, that we're gonna games like why you didn't we we life is too short to be playing. This fucking games say how you feel be honest. Who gives a fuck about what happens next, you're going to either learn something or you're going to get the result that you want win win even if it's little bit painful commands are one more somebody said: do you think it's, hey, where your partner to follow lots of other girls. How do you set those boundaries. God. This is actually something it so interesting like the

whole issue with, like you, significant others, liking other girls guys photos that may be a little bit provocative or like following other girls, whatever. I think that there is a clear line: here's where I'm out with it and here's what I've always thought out of respect for your significant other. I say that it's best to do you know keep the following to a minimum. Unless it's like necessary. Do you know what I mean like? I have no reason like when you're, okay when you're in a relationship theirs no reason to just be like following random, like for me like, if, if I'm in our relations There's no reason for me to be going around in falling random hot guys. There just isn't, because I what what do I gain from that right especially ones that I don't know it's like. What's the point of that, I don't need to be. that shit anyway and out of respect for my significant other,

definitely not gonna, be engaging with their content. I think that you know if your boyfriend, girlfriend or whatever saying this scenario because you're it sounds like you're dating you're dating a guy he's falling other girls I'm using this as an example, but this can go with any relationship or any any comment and of two people just like. Basically yours, Nick and other following people that they could be potentially attracted to. Let that's what this is. I think that, out of respect it's best. If both of you are not lay kings. Super inappropriate content of you know a potential competitor. If you will write, I think that out of respect its best, not to that, because it so unnecessary and it's it's not respectful, really,

I understand I get policy if it's like your friend, we got they fit. Somebody who you know you guys are friends with that's very different, because it's like a friendship and if they're like liking. You know your friends, posts and subtly Valley there's nothing wrong with that, because it's not like you guys are all friends so like whatever as long as it's not like weird but like you know what I'm saying, I think that keeping that shit to a minimum is just best for both of your guys's mental health. Just so that there's no worry about some secretive shape. going on. You know what I mean it's so easy to not like a bikini picture or some dude like a pic. It's very easy not too like that right so, like you might as well, just not fucking like it, so that your significant other can like sleep a little bit better at night, because we're very competitive as human beings- and you know most people have fucking trust issues. like, when you see your significant up liking. Hot pictures of like somebody has a potential can be

at our yeah fuckin socks, because you're like they saw that and they like liked it in the which means that they like consciously like this photo like it's just It's so much easier to just not do that, and if constantly liking photos of hot people and stuff, like that in its making you Jack insecure and uncomfortable have a conversation with eminent Billy was and listen. I know that you're probably not doing anything wrong and, like I don't know be all up in your shit here, but, like you, engaging in this content makes me feel insecure, because it's really hard for me not to compare myself to these people and worry that you're not like damning them on the side like, I have trust issues, Bob LAW, but also there's a decent chance. It. You know people just like shit, that's on their feed. There's a girl chance that it just doesn't even mean anything. But if it's bugging you communicate that because it's such an easy fix and also you know, a lot of you are well that's something. That's a problem with you. Yes, and no like a lot of people have trust issues

being one of them. If, like I was dating somebody and like they were like liking, a bunch of hot photos of girls, I'd be like fuck, like God, damn it. I mean, I don't I if bug me to the point of bringing it up but like it would definitely stop little bit I mean. Come I'm a human, I'm, a human being so late, Would definitely like suck a little bit I'd be like well, why isn't he fucking talking to them? Then Jesus Christ, like you know, I don't know, that's the way that my brain sometimes works, unfortunately, so like I can totally see where that could be an issue. So I think it's just. Being honest. You know anyway. Well, that's enough furred! This episode, I just recorded for a long asked time who, because enjoyed this,

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