Ramble hello, you a little story. So, a few weeks ago I had like a fancy event where I had to wear a dress and put on makeup stuff like that and on the day of the event I was not feeling too cute. Okay, I and feeling very confident I just felt gross, but yet, Your calendar does not pay when you don't feel cute, you still gotta keep going. You still have to fulfill your promises right, even if your full in a little bit gross, so I still had to proceed, get ready for this fancy event and go to this fancy event. So that is what I did was the event enjoyable of. ass? It was great, you know I try not to let my own insecurity of my here get in the way of a good time, so I enjoy myself.

but any time there was a photo taken of me. I was a little bit on edge because I was like I don't know why. I just don't feel cute today. and I don't really want this to be captured, but at the same time at fancy events a lot- images are captured and, honestly, that's one of the main purposes of these events is capturing images. So a lot of photos were taken of me on this day and in the moment it was challenging because as I just wasn't in the mental space, to be having photos taken of me. So you know I had to just push through it anyway. I know that all that sounds fucking ridiculous. It's like emma shut the fuck up like that is the most ridiculous, good problem to have in the most ridiculous thing to complain about I understand that it's ridiculous, but

At the same time, it didn't feel ridiculous to me in the moment. In the moment it felt big and it felt real right anyway. so. I wasn't feeling too cute. A lot of photos were taken of me, blah blah blah fast forward to the next day. I'm looking through my tags on instagram like photos that people tag me in, and I see this one photo that was getting reposted over and over and over and over and over again, where I looked really bad It was caught off guard in this photo. I was not sitting with good stir in this photo my eyes were half closed in this photo and for whatever reason this photo was being reposted quite a lot and it was it was. It was in my tags, a lot of times as I was scrolling through my tag photos. It just seemed

This photo would not leave me alone, like it was posted, probably fifty times again, not that big of a deal in retrospect. That's not that big of a deal! Okay, it's an unflattering, photo get over it. Who cares? I can see that now in retrospect. In the moment again, it did not feel small to me. It felt like a big deal and after staring at this photo for probably five minutes. I had a little freak out. I had a freak out and if I'm going to be completely honest with you on what was running through my head, which is a little bit scary for me to do, but if I'm going to be honest, was feeling was how is it possible that There are some people who just never have a bad photo like there are some people, on the internet, where I see photos of them all day long in my explore page on their instagram

in articles online, all this stuff. How did I never have a bad photo. How is that possible I see bad photos myself constantly and there's nothing I can. About it. You know somebody posts, a photo of me. I think I can do about it. How is it possible that some people have no bad photos of them out there like? How is it possible? It's not fair, and then I started looking at the photo a little bit deeper and I was like, maybe it's because now this is this is where things are going to get a little bit crazy. So please bear with me, but I was looking at the photo and I was like: maybe it's because I've never had work done like plastic surgery. Botox lip injections veneers, etc. Maybe it's because I've never had work done, maybe the reason why there are so many bad photos of me out. There is because I don't have worked on for gay. I know

it's a little bit ridiculous, but I will say I was kind of in in iraq eternal state of mind I was. I was definitely emotionally charged at this point because it was really the emotionally challenging for me to go to this event. While feeling secure for one that kind of beat me down, but for two I was really jet lag because I was travelling and I was really tired in grumpy it as it was those two things. Can and put me in a very fragile state of mind, and so I was immediately going to the worst right. I was immediately going to the extremes, and so I started genuinely thinking about plastic surgery and like botox and filler and all the stuff. I started to really think about

for myself, but I very quickly ran into a moral dilemma in that Of what I wanted to talk about today? I really started to think about plastic surgery as a whole, the good, and of the bad elements of it and everything in between, and once I started to calm down from my freak out, I was able to sort of look at myself third person and analyze. Why I in a vulnerable state, Insecurity immediately started to think about changing my body and face instead of trying to accept to what is already there like? Why did my brain immediately start thinking about? surgery done or getting work done, instead of trying to figure out a way to accept

my physical body, for what it is at. What point. In society, I hate society for some reason it sounds so like cliche, but whatever at what point? Did we all change. Our mindset to I need to learn to accept myself, for who I am too I don't need to accept myself, for who I am because I can just fix the stuff that I don't really like, and then I can accept myself once those things have been changed. When did when did that shift happen? I dunno it must have been within the past. I dunno what the fifty years fifty years, I'm not really sure, but this is kind of a new thing right were. If we're feeling insecure, we don't have to learn to accept the things that make us feel insecure. Instead, we can just literally go and change them now. Not

Nobody can do that. It's an expensive thing to do it's not something that everybody has access to, I'm fully aware of that, but it's becoming more and more accessible and more and more common, and today it one talk about whether or not that's a good thing, because, if I'm being completely honest, I'm not sure yet, I've never really thought that deeply about plastic surgery and also, let me give a little footnote here when I say plastic surgery, I don't necessarily mean, shall I say, cosmetic work. What word should I use while listen when I the word plastic surgery, I'm a I'm referring to all cosmetic procedures. I'm I'm talking about actual place Surgery like getting boobies or whatever also talking about stuff like getting a face, lift or Botox are getting filler. When I say the phrase

surgery, I'm referring to just getting cosmetic work, done getting work done that is non practical and that's fully aesthetic its fully Joe ten hands your appearance or change your appearance in a That is unnecessary. It's not necessary for survival, something that is like necessary for survival. It would be to get braces to get a nose job because you broke your nose a few years ago and you want to get your nose back to its original state. That's like more functional plastic surgery. The plastic surgery I am referring to today is stuff that serves no purpose beyond you. Looking different kay

and in your eyes, hopefully looking better. I say hopefully, because if you get work done and you'd feel like you look worse, that's really unfortunate. You know what I mean kind of defeats, the whole purpose anyway. So let's just break this down. Let's just break this down. Let's take a step back and break this down done a lot of thinking over the past few weeks, since my little meltdown I've been thinking about the positive elements of plastic surgery in the negative. plastic surgery, and even though I've been thinking about this for two weeks, I still cannot figure out where I stand on the topic. Morally, like. Morally, I cannot figure out what my thoughts are. Maybe through discussing it today with you guys, I can figure something out, I'm not sure. Yet, let's start out with the positive elements of getting. Done. I think surgery and

the cosmetic enhancements, aren't as negative if the person getting the procedure done Is that a place where there not relying on. Changing this physical feature for their happiness, it's rooted from a place of wanting to feel more, confident in yourself, for yourself not for anyone else, and it comes from place of confidence. I think a scenario when getting work done can be a positive or a neutral thing is if. Somebody goes into getting work done, feeling like okay, listen there. This is something about me that I'm just not a fan of I'd like to tweak it a little bit. Maybe it's there knows somebody says you know: I've always not really liked my nose it just it's something

I've learned to accept, but that I also would like to change, surgery. Available in a way that never been available before and if there's something about yourself that you're not obsessed with and you have the resources to go and change it, it's like Why not? I guess right, I think the key is is to come to a place where you do accept yourself, for who you are you a sub yourself for who you are with all of the features that you have as is? If you can reach that place, then I think any cause. Medic procedures that you get down following, that point are not a negative thing, because you're coming from a place where I actually feel secure with yourself you're just getting

work done to enhance or is slightly alter things on yourself that you feel could you a little bit of work, but if you're, coming from a place of self acceptance, when you do do these things then you're less likely to make the mistakes that I'm going, mention later they come with, the negative sides of getting work done. You're going to It's getting worked on in a more rational way in a more level headed way, and I think it can actually be a positive thing. I read stories online of people who have gotten whose job gotten a booby job, gotten botox gotten live. Filler I've read articles online of of people who said: listen I loved myself. Before I got this work done, I felt a good sense of self

substance before I got worked on, but that didn't mean I was fully satisfied with my appearance. I wasn't, and there was a few things that I felt the desire to change, and once I did, I just enjoyed my appearance. A little bit more there's been no negative side effects to it. I just enjoyed my appearance a little bit more myself acceptance. and self love stayed the same, because my physical appearance nothing to do with that overall, it was a really positive experience. I've read how many articles like that that were like? Listen, I at a place where I felt good with myself and so a little bit of work done. Just made me feel a little bit more confident in my physical being period. That was it, and I don't think that it's necessarily a negative thing, you know what I mean if it's it's so common, created it so confusing for me, because

one hand I want to say you should learn to accept yourself, exactly how you are, but also we're human and we're really critical of ourselves and All of us are aware of our own appearance and so if there's something that sticks out and bugs us and we have the resources to alter. in a way that will make us feel a little bit more confident. Is then a bad thing like I don't know shit, We be forced to learn to accept ourselves for exactly the way that we were born or Is it ok to want to do a little bit of tweaking here and there you know what I mean is k to want to change a few, I don't know. I should dimension, that cosmetic procedures can only be a positive thing if proper research has been done and proper

Thought has been done. It's never something that should be done, impulsively, it's never something that should be done when you are in an irrational state of mind. It's a big decision, and I think that Cosmetic surgery can only be a positive thing if it's been fully thought out fully fleshed out looked into the procedure procedure. You've looked into the side effects, you looked into the potential things could go wrong. You look into. how much money it's going to cost, to keep it up right because most procedures, you have to continue to touch them up going forward like with botox. You need to get botox. I don't know every few weeks or few months, I'm not sure, with lip filler. You know you need to go back and get that filled every few weeks or months with a face.

if you might have to get another facelift in a few years with a boob job, you might need to go and get the boobs fixed up in about ten years. You know it's like knowing all of the stuff, and also truly asking yourself I doing this to make myself happier a part of fleshing out. This decision is also having a conversation with yourself. You can remind yourself that you might not find happiness and you probably won't find happiness through a cosmetic procedure, and if you can be honest with yourself and say, self acceptance and self love comes from a much deeper place, then changing something I don't like about myself If you can accept those things and you can say listen, I know I'm probably not going to find happiness and self acceptance through this procedure

might find a little bit of confidence in my physical appearance but happiness and self acceptance, or It's deeper, I'm probably not going to find those things. If you can be honest with yourself about that, and you can say I already have found those things. I already found happiness and self acceptance. I I don't need it from this cause. Procedure, if you can say that, then I think you're in a good spot or you can say I'm not at a place with my happiness or self acceptance that I'm stoked about like I, I still have some work to do there, but I know that this cosmetic procedure is not going to get me to a good place with them, things. I know that this is not going to help. I know that this is something that's completely disconnected from my happiness and self acceptance and the work that needs on on my happiness and always acceptance. Is going to need to happen outside of this cosmetic procedure. If you can kind of confirm that with your

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How in when it can be positive to get cosmetic surgery done it really comes down to having done proper research, having done proper self reflection, confirming that it's rooted in wanting to feel a little bit more confident in oneself for themselves, not for anyone else not for instagram, not for fuck all that for you for when you look in the mirror, when the person getting the procedure done is aware that it might not give them happiness and it might not help with their self acceptance. That's a completely separate thing. It might help with confidence, but it's not going to help with those other two things being aware of that, and last but not least, I think the mindset, when going into cuz

surgery should be. I want to enhance the features that I have, rather than I want to completely change myself. I want to turn myself into somebody else. You know which that's something we're going to talk about. Right now, which is there are also some very negative elements to getting work done. I would argue there are a lot more negative elements to to getting cosmetic procedures. I think first scenario where it can be negative is, if you want to get cosmetic surgery in order to look like someone else. That's not good, because That starts tapping into the issue of you want to run away from your own identity. If you want to look like somebody else like, let's say you bring in photo of a celebrity in your. Like turn me into this person. That's not good, be It's so magical.

There were also different and the second that we also bringing in the same reference images to plastic surgeon, saying I want to look like this. That's when start to get a little bit sticky right, because now we have a lot. People who look really similar, and that's not a good thing, because that moves are individuality, and I think, actually has a reverse effect, because it's so pool and beautiful. How different everybody is how there are so many people on this planet. Yet everybody looks different. It's very cool that no two People look exactly the same. Even identical twins, don't look at exactly the same, and I think going in and getting a procedure done to try

no look like somebody else that I can't get behind, because that's removing the unique qualities that you have and I think that that's a deeper rooted issue bouncing off of that. A less extreme but still possibly problematic, reasoning for getting cosmetic work is because somebody feels like they need to fit in now I think that this is kind of a double edged sword, because on one hand I understand it. Actually, I understand possibly getting cosmetic surgery to fit in. Let's say, there's a feature about you, that's a little bit more unique, maybe less common, and maybe it's something that sparks up conversation. More than you wish. It would like some people comment on this. One feature that you have and it makes you stand out in a group

It's a little bit unusual, it's not as common right there's. Nothing, with that at all: there's nothing wrong with having that feature. If anything that makes you even more unique, which is a great thing, but if it's something that is having a negative impact on your life, because it's not allowing you to fit in Then yeah I mean I can understand wanting to change that, but when I'm talking about people wanting to fit in in a negative way, I'm We're talking about people getting surgery to fit a mold right like so, for example in, LOS angeles. Maybe there are a lot of girls who have their lips done. I would say so have like more full lips right

botox, maybe have gotten some work on their body a little bit. Okay, so there's, like you know, that's pretty common in l. I think there's a lot of people in lay who have gotten cosmetic worked on right. So let's say you want friends, but this group of girls and they all have their lips and they all have blah blah blah other procedures right these girls. I have never really shown interest in being friends with you, and so you think well, maybe if I got the same procedures done that they did they want to be my friend and that's what I mean by wanting to. in in a negative way. You want to match and emulate what other people have done so that they will accept you, that's negative because number one not doing it for yourself and number two. If those people don't

except you the exact way that you are now. Then they're not for you. If somebody suddenly, Is interested in you enough cheap way or in a romantic relationship way. All the sudden is in didn't you after you ve gotten work done there, probably not a good person for you, their morals might be in the wrong place. I think cosmetic procedures can also be naked, there's not enough research and self reflection has occurred. You know if you haven't checked, with yourself and asked Why am I really doing this? Is this impulsive decision. Is this something that I into regret is something that I have enough knowledge about how do I know the potential side effects do I know How often I'm no need to get this touched up. do. I have the resources to get this touched up for. The next

two years of my life is, is something that I can remove if I want to remove it, is this something that I can design if I want to dissolve it in reference to filler and botox and stuff like that. Like can I get that If I want to, if I get boob implants, can I get those removed if they want to? If I get a bbl, if, though, I don't even want explain that if you don't know that is its part whatever. If I get a baby How can I reverse the bbl like it so I read cetera. Are these things that I can reverse? later, if I want to. If I can't reverse some later, is that something that I want to commit to for my entire life? You know it sees questions you need to ask if, if there hasn't been proper self reflection, if there hasn't been proper rest,

If you could get yourself into a really sticky situation, this shit is serious, but it's so normalized now, because so many people have gotten work done. It's so common that a lot of people think it's no biggie, and so then they don't do research and then they get themselves into a sticky situation. Luckily, a lot of it is reversible, but some of it is not, and it's not good to do anything, Serious like that, without proper research, I think it can also be a negative thing if becomes an obsession or an addiction? I have heard stories in Read articles about people, especially people in the public eye, who have become obsessed and addicted to getting cosmetic work done? I mean, I think a very famous example would be Michael Jackson, who

you know continued to get work done throughout his life and It's really sad because he didn't need to do. He didn't need to write. He didn't need to do anything that he did right, but he he never felt satisfied and that's why he kept going in and it got so extreme, and I mean I think there were probably some other psychological issues that added to that. I don't exactly remember what was going on deeper there, but I do know that you know it became an obsession

in for him, and he just kept going and going in going in going in going and he never felt happy. He never felt satisfied and that's why he kept going back, because I think when you go into getting cosmetic surgery with the expectation that it's going to bring you happiness and it's going to bring you self acceptance. And it's going to make you love yourself. If you go into it with that mindset, then when you come on the other side and you find that it has not changed your happiness, it's not change your level of self acceptance. Then you You like: well, I guess it's because I didn't do enough. I need to go back and do more and I think that that's an issue that a lot of people run into is that they end up overdoing it right. They end up getting too much done to a point where they don't even look human anymore because they never felt satisfied they. Never.

got what they wanted emotionally out of the cosmetic surgery or the cosmetic work, and so then they just kept going back for more. Another thing is: is that body does morphia is a very common thing that a lot of people experience. I personally experience it. I've experienced it my whole life, it's very, very deep call to manage, because it will all look up the definition. Some reading, a scientific definition, ok body, does more vague disorder. is a mental illness involving obsessive focus on a perceived flaw in appearance. The flaw may be minor or imagined, but the person may spend hours a day trying to fix it. The person may try husband. Procedures or exercise to access people with this disorder, may frequently examine their. appearance in a mirror constantly compare their appearance.

That of others and avoid social situations or photos. Okay, so that's body, just morphia I've struggled with this and when I look at people who have clearly gotten more work done cosmetically than they need or then is helpful. I almost see myself in them in a sense because I dont know Look like you know, I really don't, because I I don't know I just don't. I look different every time I look in the mirror. Sometimes I look in the mirror and all I can see is flaws specifically like one flaw, usually at a time. All I can see is that one flaw: it's like I'm hyper focused on this. One flaw right at a time. I always have like what it's usually like.

one thing that sticking out in sometimes a kind of goes away for a little bit and I just look in the mirror and am I guess I feel fine today, but sometimes they go through phases of obsessing over different flaws, and I mean I don't. It's so common. We all have that right to a certain extent, but when I see people who have gotten extreme amounts of manic surgery done, and it's very obvious. I see myself in them, because I I understand that they don't know what they look like. I think there's an element of this more fear there and when you have body this morphia, you're so prone to becoming addicted to cosmetic surgery, and I know that I struggle with body dysmorphia, which is a reason why I kind of don't want to get work done because

I know that I am the type of person that might take it too far, because I have the tendency to become obsessive about my appearance. So I know that and that's the reason why I've avoided it for so on and I look at people who do you know, get ridiculed on the internet because they ve gotten too much worked on, and I think no, I it's, because they literally don't know, what they look like their vision, their view of themselves in the mirror is not accurate. So when they look at themselves there, seeing what we see, and I know that is I don't know what I look like for fucks sake, I don't I mean I feel like I might have fleeting moments where I do, but like the way

every time. I look in the mirror. I look a little bit different. I look different. It's like I am noticing something differently, I'm seeing myself in a different light. It so different every time in a way that I don't think is no verily normal right. I can see why there is a struggle there in theirs obsession there and there's an addiction there and I don't want to risk myself. Losing control in that area. Another negative element of this whole thing is the potential for guilt. I know a lot of people, especially people in the public eye feel guilty for getting cosmetic procedures done and I think usually the guilt comes later it it's guilt about. Number one adding to the sort of negative.

Beauty standards toxic. If you will beauty standards that we experiencing society today. I think guilt can come from adding two that I think guild can come from china, enjoying features that your parents, in the universe in your answer. Gave you changing those things can make you feel guilty in a way, because you know you might feel like you disrespected your family in some way, which I don't think that's necessarily true and I don't think that's necessarily, you know unnecessary reason to feel guilt, but you know people feel guilt about that. I think the potential for guilt is something that should be considered because in the moment it might feel like a good idea, but after you know, you gotten worked on a lot of times. You can't get it reversed, and so you know you permit we deleted in element of your genetics right, not really because you can so pass on.

genes you you're so passing on the genes of your ancestors and family, of course, but you know you ve permanently deleted on yourself. Gene that you inherited from your family, and I think that that especially comes with things like. a nose job or a facelift or getting different areas of your face, different pads of fat removed in your face or changing. You know the structure of your mouth eyes, whatever may be right ears, even a lot of that can be permanent and non reversible, so there might be guilt later where you're like I should have just accepted. What I had because now when I have children, you know they're going to be born with a completely Print nose, ears, eyes mouth than me and going to be weird for them, possibly right. There's so many

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for inspiration and I think we're at a point now, where I would argue, probably ninety percent of celebrities have cosmetic surgery done, which is completely fine. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I actually under and it because when you're in the public eye, people are ready to call you ugly, no matter what I mean being in the public eye for me purse We has made my self image worse because I'm constantly being perceived by a lot of people, whether I I get or not in that's something that I'm I accept, I'm fine with it like whatever It is what it is, and it's worth it because there for so many elements of being in the the guy that I'm so grateful for and that I appreciate and that are priceless, and so if it means that my physical appearance has to be loved

into that, then so be it. You know what I mean I can handle it whatever, but it's not to say that it isn't really difficult for me at times, because you know I've had people call me ugly on the internet. Of course, I have hundreds of times. I've also people Oh, my god, you look beautiful right now. I've had both I've had everything in between and as much as, I think, people in the public, I want to say that when someone calls them. he doesn't bug them. I don't care who you are it bugs you it bugs you and when you're, getting berated by comments about how you look at all times, it makes sense that people in the public eye feel very very, very obsessive about their appearance and want to change a few things, because it's not normal to hear commentary about your appearance is often public figures do so on one hand. I understand that a lot.

Celebrities want to get some work done so that they don't have to read as many comments about their different, I say imperfections now From my mouth, but from their mouth, if that makes sense, I don't think I don't really think the word imperfections is a useful or positive word, because I just think it's like I don't know. Maybe it's maybe it's a good word. Moral of the story is it makes sense why celebrities majority of celebrities have had some sort of cosmetic work done, because More than anyone else they get reminded of their imperfections, if you will more often than other people. Okay sense right. So like okay, then what's the issue? Well, here's where I think the issue comes in

think that there's an issue with people getting worked on, I really don't I think, as long as it's coming from the right place and enough search has been done in enough self reflection has been done. I don't think it's a bad thing. Necessarily I really don't, but in regards to celebrities specifically, there's an added responsibility that people who are now the public. I don't have because you're putting yourself out there and Naturally, people are looking up to you. So there's this added responsibility when you get cosmetic procedures done for somebody is now in the public eye. It's easy! It's like our aid. I did this. I don't need to tell anyone in my personal life, maybe I will maybe I won't doesn't really matter it's your business but celebrities it's a little bit more complicated because they are setting the tone of beauty standards cetera, et cetera on one hand, I feel like

celebrities, although they put their lives out there. Celebs he's, don't necessarily, oh anything to anyone. I mean that's the truth of it right on one I feel like that, and I know that we can feel like were owed explanations from slow these, but were really not we're, not their individuals. Their humans can share whatever they want with us as a perceiver of them. They can share whatever they want. They don't want to talk about something they don't have to. They don't have to do anything in act. We don't have to talk about anything that we don't want to talk about. That's up to us. You know. as individual and celebrities are not exempt from that much as you know might be helpful for them to share personal elements.

But their life as much as it might give us context. They still don't owe it to us. Okay, so that's something that is something to think about, but on the other hand, what I don't think is: okay is I think I think we're celebrities go wrong is when they lie K. If a celebrity doesn't want to talk about the work that they have done, that's fine. They don't two. Nobody has to talk about anything that they don't want to that they don't want to talk about, especially celebrities. Celebrities. Have this you know sort of privilege that they don't have to talk about anything that they don't want to talk about point blank So if a celebrity doesn't want to talk about the surgery that they've had done, then they should just now talk about it at all, never bring it up if somebody asked them about it.

They say you know, I don't really want to talk about that. I'd, that's something I just want to keep personal boom. That's fine! That's fine, and then its left up to the speculation of us as the people who perceive celebrities. Guess do we think we could they got work done? Do we not not? We don't know, we don't know and guess what we don't have to note. We, we're not owed that knowledge when it gets bad. Add is when celebrities lie when selling for these lie about the fact that they have gotten work done. They say no! No! No, I was born this way: hey no dancing! you were born this way if you simply were not, if you want people to know whether or not you have gotten work done then do not address it. That's the issue.

The issue is lying. The issue is not admitting. It is lying when it comes to celebrity culture, because so many celebrities lie. allegedly endless, and I understand I understand I am I like guinness shit. these people, because it would be really difficult to be in the public eye and be under all the scrutiny and want to get cosmetics three done, but also feeling, like you just want to do it without anyone. Knowing But yet that's not possible, it's tough, it's tough and even though it's a fucking first world problem to the max, and it's a ridiculous thing to complain about everything as to have and people struggles are all relative to their own life. So, even though something might seem completely ridiculous and stupid to the poor

and it might feel like a big deal and it might be a struggle, and so I can see the desire to want to lie, but you cannot lie in life. Lying only leads you to bad places. So my conclusion is if we're all getting work done here, if we're all getting stuff done, we all need to accept that we're doing it in admit it and be honest, especially with celebrities when it gets toxic, is when you're lying. Either don't talk about it or put it all out on the table four celebrities that people look up to it is harmful, for them to lie would be harmful if they said, I don't feel comfortable talking about that. No because in that case it's not setting in dictation right. It's just saying: that's not a topic I want to talk about and it leaves it up to the imagination, but when you do

in say no. I have not gotten work done when actually you have then the people perceiving you from home are, like god, you know I got messed up, some bad genes. In reality they are true. You know, I think there is a sense of peace that you can find in knowing that somebody that you perceive as the most beautiful in the world has maybe enhance their appearance a little bit and chances are that's the case, especially when it comes to celebrities I think it actually is really comforting to know that celebrities aren't born perfect either. Almost no one may be point zero, zero one percent of the population is born.

fitting the beauty, standard and most celebrities have enhanced. Things have changed things a little bit in order to fit the beauty standard, and I think that when we No, that and when we remind ourselves of that, it's not a negative thing. It's it's! It's something that just gives us contacts. So that we aren't looking in the mirror like well. Why wasn't I born like that? It's because nobody was, and that's okay, it's okay, that they decided that they wanted to get that cosmetic work done, because at the end of the day, it's up to them. You know it's their life, but knowing that is just so helpful for our own expectations of our own physical being okay. Now these are all things that I've been thinking about, but now, let's discuss me on a per

level. My own personal dilemma with plastic surgery. Now this has nothing to do with any one else. This has nothing to do with any one else is only. lies to me in my own moral code. Now my own moral code only applies to what I do and what my behavior is it doesn't. to anyone else. I don't care what anyone else does to be completely honest. People can do whatever they want. They can do ever they want to their body. They can, you know, make mistakes. They can say whatever they want. I don't care right. I don't care, what other people do about how I respond and it's about what I do. That's all. I can control So that's what I focus on and that's what I put my energy towards. So when it comes to making this decision about my own moral standing on on plastic surgery, it has nothing to do with any one else, and it only applies to me. I do not

care what anyone else does, and let me tell you: that's a really nice feeling it took a long time to get there, but not caring about what other people do and just only focusing on what I can do. And how I respond to what people do god. It is a good that is a good thing to practice, because it is very healthy for me and my brain, but anyway here is my own personal plastic surgery dilemma. So the first thing is that plastic surgery promotes a beauty standard vat Requires cosmetic surgery to achieve I would say that our beauty standard that were experiencing right now, insist He is not, thing that occurs in nature.

The beauty standard right now emphasizes enhanced features, and it's very rare for somebody to have all the features that fit the beauty standard? It's basically an impossible beauty standard. Now I don't like. I fuck beauty standards, it's fucking annoying. It's grows its toxic, it's name David's unnecessary. It is ridiculous but at the same time it's there. We can hated all we want, but it's there and I think, by getting cosmetic procedures done to my son, of I worry that I'm adding to the promotion of the impossible beauty standard that were experiencing right now and not something that I personally don't want to.

do you know, on one hand, there are a few things about myself that I would love to to change. And I honestly feel like I'm in a place where you know I I accept myself enough, as is I I mean, listen my struggles. I have my insecurities. I struggle with my view of myself on a deep level, but at the same time I feel like. I am aware of the fact that getting cosmetic work done, won't make me happier. I know that I know that for a fact, I also know it won't. Make me accept myself more literally the Only reason why I would want to do it is just because I just think I might look alike. No better. You know like whatever in my own eyes, but is that me participating in a really really negative element of today's his standards. Is that me falling victim?

two beauty santer. so like is that me falling victim? To I don't know, I don't know. I know I do know for sure that I just have, really hard time with the idea that by getting cosmetic surgery and by also being in the public eye that I might add to the promotion of the impossible beauty santer that we're living in that I that I hate so much really, it's tough, but I also feel the fear anger and rejection from the people of my life and people on the you know like if I word to a little botox in my forehead or get a little injection or you know,

whatever it may be. If I were to do that, I worry that number one. You know my family would be angry at me. Number two, my friends would reject me. You know and be like what the fuck dude like Why like, why would you do that? You know, and in other people I love in my life would be like you didn't need to Do that, so why did you do that? Like that's weird, you know what I mean like that's unnecessary. That's weird like I worry that people would look at me differently if I were to get some sort of cosmetic work done. I worry that people would, Get me differently. In my personal life and outside of that and to certain extent I could understand it. You know it almost shows was a level of vulnerability in a person when they get worked on and are honest about it. It shows, voter vulnerability to talk because it's openly admitted

that you were not satisfied with something that you were born with, and you decided to change it it is vulnerable and going. Vulnerability can sometimes be endearing. And can sometimes make people look at you differently. Unfortunately, so I don't know so fear that I'm going to regret it or that I would regret it that maybe I would get my lips done right. Let's say I lip injections and in a year Unlike I don't like this anymore, I don't like the way that this looks and I may be get the filler in my lips dissolved again it removed, but my lips never quite looked the same. I would regret that forever. You know because I believe I permanently fucked up my lips in mileage? You know he didn't even have them before they're fully functioning normal fucking lips. You know what I'm saying same thing with the talks that say I were to go and start getting botox now what if at some point

I get so much botox that then my face stops moving and them it has permanently messed up. the muscles in the nerves in my face, and then you know what it's like there's. So If you go wrong right, that's another my. I fear I will regret it and then I could never return to my natural state. No, I don't know where I stand on it on a personal level. I think there's a lot of things. Needs to be done for me, I don't really know how I feel about it and when it comes to what you do, the only person that can decide whether or not it's a good idea. It's the right. idea, is you because everybody's situation is so different, everybody so different. Everybody scenario where a surgery might make sense is so different, and I think that you know in life the way too finding the most peace that you can find is to

things for yourself and to only focus on your own behavior when it comes to these moral dilemmas. Right when it comes to plastic surgery, when it comes to I know anything in that world. You know when it comes to you what somebody does to themselves to their body. I think it's best to let that be their business. How somebody does are wake up what kind of clothes they wear, whether or not they get plastic surgery, how they decide to design their house where they decide to live? What all those things only affect the person who is doing them and because of that, it's kind of

None of your business so leave everyone else alone. Let them do what they want to do and you do what you want to do and if that means getting a bunch of you, no cosmetic procedures done great. If it means not doing any great, if it means getting a few little things done here and they're great and if you're in the public eye either not talking about it or telling everybody it there it that's all. She wrote long episode today, long episode, because I really really can't stop thinking about this topic and one day I might get work done. I can almost guarantee you guys. by the time that I'm like thirty, I will be getting botox. Sorry, I will say that I don't care at some point I might get I dunno. What else would I do? I dunno like at some point, like you know,

say, as I get older, my lips start to sort of lose their volume. I might get lip injections like I don't know. I don't know what I'm going to do. I might do nothing I I might just come to a point where I accept that you know the aging body of a human being is a beautiful thing and there's no need to cover it up. I might get to that point. I might even decide to get cosmetic work done within the next five years. I don't know I don't know. I know right now. I am not. I need to do more thinking, because I don't know, I don't know how I feel about it. I haven't fully come to a conclusion yet but I don't know I'm not going to promise it'll. Never do it up until this point I've never on it, which is actually crazy, because I don't know how, lived in a this long, where cosmetic surgery is very common, I don't have in this area for this long and never done it,

I thought about it. Oh my god have I thought about it. I've never done it not saying that makes me like any kind of like magician over here it doesn't. It doesn't at all, but it's just interesting how I've? Never I don't know. It's just never happened for whatever reason, but I will say that If I ever do decide to get cosmetic work done. I will tell you That is a promise I'm making right now. If I ever decide to get any sort of worked on, I will fucking tell you and that's something that I do know for sure. Anyway. That's all I got for today. Thank you guys for listening. I love taking topics like this and just like rip them apart brain dumping, discussing it so enjoyable for me and I hey you guys listening. If you have any thing you want to add to this conversation tweet me at age, podcast or Dm me on instagram at anything goes leave a review

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