Every little thing. That's me every little thing: virginny every little thing is feeding the agree, however, that without our everyone welcome to the minimalist podcast, where we discuss what it means to live a meaningful life with less my name's joshua fields, millburn and and ryan Nicodemus and together we are the minimalists. Today we're going to talk about things that matter. You know things like waffle, irons and gold, watches and handbags that are laden with logos. I'm just kidding wait a minute. We are going to talk about on the public podcast today we're talking about.

the things that matter, which happens to be the title of Joshua Becker's new book. You should have a mind, Joshua Becker is here one of one of the original inspirations I mean yes I we will be the minimalists without your inspiration, man Yes, you definitely helped guide us, and you know that when we, when we discovered minimalism? It was common right who owned fifty two things, which was great but seeing your example was amazing, like all while you can have a family and a full time in a house in the suburbs and you can be a regular person and be a minimalist I'm in yeah and so Joshua Becker and his wife Kim and their two kids. They were a big inspiration for us early on where to talk about today, the things that matter are going answer your questions this thursday on the minimalist private podcast, went to work on a few things, including the areas of minimalism and other is in which we disagree. We also talk talk about

overcoming distractions, using minimalism. You can check that out. It patreon calm, slash the minimalists. Your support keeps our podcast, and youtube channel. One person, advertisement free because advertisements suck. joshua becker- this is a listener driven show, are so grateful you're here, let's start with a question diane on patriot? How do I know truly matters. What can I, if I'm struggling to find meaning in my daily activities, We'd start with an easy question: I'll take a stab at it and then I can try to things like this book here. It's called things that matter and on which two literally you have chapter about this covering your purposes? This is right and you guys venn diagram in here, where you talk about the section of your passions, your abilities and other the needs of sub. Maybe we could bye, bye,

expanding on those three areas passions, abilities and people's needs, so I think science backs up my assumption that. When we live our lives for other people We live a selfless life, helping other people that we, reach the end of our lives with more satisfaction in how we chose to live, and so book is all about. How do I overcome some of these extractions of money, possessions, leisure, the trivial technology so that I can live a life that they bring the greatest good to the greatest number of people and be proud of the way I lived throughout my life, and what matters most to us or the good that we can bring into the world is always going to differ. Based on, I think what our talents

and abilities are what our passions are and then finding at intersection, with what other people's needs are. We can be passed about things that don't help others. Well, we can be about things that we're not very good at, but I find that that diagram. We find that sweet spot of who am I? What am I passionate about and who can I help and it looks a different people, like my wife would say like her greatest passion, her grace purpose is to is our two children and I would say I want to reach a million people, my I get it. I want to inspire people unless and so it looks, it looks different for different people by think, thus, where the diagram fits together. Here think that we often get overwhelmed because we think were born to do one thing, I'm supposed to do just this one thing, and then we go search around for it wondering whether or not this is the thing that I'm supposed to do and the book what you lay out is yet it's true

there are many things that you can be passionate about now, Passion involves some sort of excitement, meaning this thing really makes me feel or alive. but sometimes in fact the root of the word passion means to suffer right, pass us means to suffer and so often it's the thing that makes us feel alive that we have suffered for in order to get there and so I think there's a sort of amalgamation. So if I am tackling diane's question head on really, if she can't find her passion, where does she start other than the other worksheets in your book. I mean that's a great place to start, but if you just listening to the wide cast, where does she start I would. I would tell her to start doing something for somebody else in something, you feel inspired to do. a little bit unrelated, but I sound so smart when I say it

I think one of the biggest problems in the world today is that we judge people who are passionate about differ problems. Then we are too harshly, and so, if you're not passionate about the exact same problem, I'm passionate about. then you're off you're you're, not compassionate or you're, distracted or whatever might be, but in reality I think we're all wired differently and there are a multitude of problems in the world. So, what's her name diane, I would tell Diane I would say is one thing that you are one point, problem that you see in the world that you want to be a part of the solution. and then go maybe find one person the eu. You can help in that area or maybe it's a nonprofit in your community. That's doing that already, but just go start. Doing something

and allow that ship to steer cause it's out in the ocean, rather still sitting import port, another way to look at it is. You know, ask yourself diane: how have you been helped that has really changed your life or as has affected your life. I mean that's where we're the minimalists, because we came across minimalism really. Oh, this makes yeah, I'm going to start living with these values, as we sort of living with these values, was they all while it there's a story here. I can pay this forward and up other people with this idea of minimalism yeah? I love. I love the idea of What you're saying figure out a way that you want to help people like start there or the ways that you ve been out, we irwin Raphael mcmanus on the pied cast a few months ago, and one of the things he talked about is if purpose only involves you. It's not actually your purpose and I find that the things that make us feel the most alive involve other people serving other people connecting with other people.

Being with other people belonging in a way. Now, unfortunately, we try to belong in all these ways that make us miserable. If I just dress the same way, if I just become part of it, club or a tea, or I vote the same way. That's the way I can belong, even if my values are the same as ours. Talking about. We're tired by pursuing a purpose we are talking about is contributing beyond yourself in a meaningful way. New river question here from aden on facebook, If you restarted your minimalist journeys with what you know now, what would you change so ryan We actually did an episode about consumer regrets right and on the example, opposition the private pike ass. We didn't have a so called, never buy it again and so not going to rehash. You had three big consumer You have. I had three and then we talked about these for non consumer. Regrets things that we would certainly change. I am not of the mindset where it's like. Oh no, I wouldn't

to change a thing in my life. Of course you'd be so if you didn't have to information. You made the same mistakes. Will that's the definition of sanity, but I'm origin in wa joshua Becker if you or to restart your minimalist journey. Knowing what you know now, what would you change man? I maybe talk about that. mitchell dive into man. I mean I mean that the first thing pops are my mind, as I would have started sooner relate I mean, cannot be my. answer that can be my answer, then. Obviously I wish I would have started when I was when I was first married and didn't waste. The first you know seven or eight years. My life buying a house. I didn't need and stuff that I didn't need, but also distraction, because you write about the distractions of the past, and so one of things we care lovely. I would say: yes, I wish done it sooner as well. I wish I would have started writing sooner. I wish

been living more intentionally sooner, but then, of course if we say why, I guess I'm the kind of person who doesn't live intentionally that story about our path can define our now yeah and even even that, Maybe I wouldn't go back, I mean I. I love that my story I found minimalism when my son was five and my daughter was two and I was clean out. The garage it's not a saturday morning, while my son played alone in the backyard and my neighbor energy, me too. The word minimalism and as it's spent hours clean out the garage with my son alone, like is the realization that my things weren't, just not making me happy, but my things were distracting me from the things that did bring me happiness and joy and meaning in life, but I think that I'm able to connect if people because of that story in a way

maybe I want to be able to connect with people. If I start when I was in my twenties, and that was always but my what my life look like. So maybe when you go back and change that I don't know, I don't know what our changing man. This is only an sets out, arrogant known. I dont know I only if those are different, order of rooms that I would go through to declutter. I dunno, maybe on a packing party that started that first, I dunno. What can I come up with now? I mean it's a tough question because I think the same It's like you know. I look at my childhood and it was rough and I would love to have. It have gone currently but in the same token, like I'm, this version myself today because of that crappy childhood? So you know, if I didn't, you know, get those Those lessons are get that trauma. Who would I be today I don't know I mean this is always a interesting question because of course I wish you know. I wish my dad.

Didn't beat me or my step, I should say my step that sorry dad, if your listening to us, that might my step that or I wish that you know the swat team didn't kick in order in the eighth grade but but yeah. Who knows who I would be without those experiences and traumas, I like joke around about how you know when Mariah and I have kids and because I can look strong and how they've affected me. It's like how do you give it? the right amount of trauma. What's to much china, what's not only natural? now he's a number of trauma: zero right. You want to give to a kid, but doesn't mean that there are going to be challenges in adversity along the way and if we, if we sort of nerf entire world for our children or for ourselves. Then we don't develop, Personally I right now. I think the travellers can come whether you try to

grab the right amount. It probably wouldn't plan an intentional troll. I guess it's more about how to deal with the trauma like on a serious note. It is yeah, it's it's. How do you deal with the traumas that that come along and alright, no injecting trauma got it you a question or comment for a podcast four: zero, sixty one, nine, seven, eight, three: nine or email a voice memo to podcast at the minimalists dot com. We have a question. they from crystal and saint cloud minnesota So we back a couple of months ago. I decided you know what I mean are always have a car payment. I met will go and buy a fancy. Car with all the bells with all due leather interior, some rules, and that obviously came with a really high carbon and hydrogen. On the hook for that for the next seven years,

a new lifestyle and a new outlook and trying to be more minimalist and the large car payment that I have to pay every month does not align with my values. Nor can I actually afford it, I'm so I want to take on a second job just to drive this anti car. So I'm wondering who? What can I do you claim I hurting the cars at the dealership, I'm I'm sure I would take a loss on that that last warheads, or should I just you, know, I'm stuck with it and pay it and then not repeat the same mistakes in seven years, who no one's its paid off carolina answering hadn't really can match the crystal. as we are actually on the maximov. So we are arguing about, should and this is one of those magnetic should never went. I guess I should have a car payment right. Do our society tells us that's what you're supposed to do, and one of the things that so many people joshua. They got really upset with me recently, because we danny put out a tick tock video and there is a very

It me saying, if you have to finance a car you can't afford it I call up an economist friend of mine because so many people I had backlash hundreds of hateful comments. Oh my god a just by definition that ends up being true. If you have to finance something, and it wasn't a judgement of any one else, if I won the lumber guinea I'd have to finance it. I because I can't afford it. I can't pay for labour, guinea and unfair and that's where crystal is right now she's been told why society, I guess you're always going to have a car payment. You should have a car payment right she's even contemplated. Do I have do I get a second job in order to pay for the car that takes me to my first job, and you talk about this in the book, the sort of distraction of more possession but then also this is another distraction of adulation applause? What are people going to think of me if I drive, drives really nice car they're, going to think nice things about me rain and so

I mean we. Obviously we follow dave ramsey pretty precludes we work with Dave ramsey on some stuff and- and we I don't do any debt other than mortgage debt and even then I'd prefer not to have it. I I personally would never want to have a car payment because I think it restricts some of my freedom. Do you share that view point concerning car payments? Yeah yeah never had a carpenter I gotta. I got real good advice. When I was when I was young, they said, I'm save up the money, This was when I was in college, so I was driving my parents vehicle. So I suppose I should count that Save up the money and then whatever cash you have on hand, use that to buy a car and then Whatever your card payment would have been save that amount into the bank, and then, whenever that beater car wears out

you can sell it and whenever you have saved up is that by the next car and then just put your car payment into a bank so little bit just going, it adds to it backwards. we ve done that are our entire lives and so never had a car payment. That's why I'm? we now saving and say how there is a bit late: payment thousand hours and money are granted start out with you know car so mean there's a little better help from the very first car, probably the toughest one to buy. I dunno what specific advice or what was was the name. My name's crystal crystal, I mean you're. At I mean I I I mean. I think the specific advice for crystal is to is to honestly do the math and I mean, I think the market for used cars has never been better than it is right now how and saw it like.

I would do the math like what what can you sell this car for? Are you underwater in it? How long way it take to get on the right side of it? maybe so now maybe I dunno probably would now machine lose a bunch of money on it right away at the beginning, then they do just take the years. Take the loss and yeah I mean I mean I have seen buy by car seas, underwater several thousand if I don't know, I'm in her shoes and I could find a way to get rid of the car. If it's a loss of money, let's say the car is a for. The easy math matthew. Thirty thousand dollar car and you can get twenty five thousand dollars for it, because the markets fairly I right now you're going to lose, say: you're underwater five thousand dollars. It's fight the question Ask here is how much did this mistake cost me, cost. You five thousand dollars re as opposed to continuing to make this a forty thousand cars within

it can be a forty thousand dollar mistake. the next seven years, the seven year mistake, and so, while kristallnacht so you want to do. I know, certainly what I would do if I were in your shoes. I'd buy a two thousand dollar beater. Whenever I could find it's gonna get me from point a to point b. It may even inject a little bit of discomfort in my life right. Oh no, the air condition doesn't really work well in this thing, oh no, there's no bluetooth in this car right. Whatever am I going to do without these luxuries? also recognizing that now I don't have the burden, I would much rather drive a car that is paid for then, the burden of a monthly car payment every single month, and I sighed compassion for crystal- because I put myself in the situation, is a time. I had three luxury cars and then I stumbled across becoming we'll dot com, and I'm like what am I doing on there, I'm making three car payments and spending all this money to impress a bunch of people who,

aren't really that impressed, they might say sweet car or whatever or even worse, must be nice run talks. Sometimes about the the sort of people in your life. approach life in a way where it's it's, it's a judgment, Thing must be nice to win wasn't actually nice, it just look nice, paying three car payments every month, is not nice, it's incredibly stressful and its actual we buy these things to give a security, they bring us more insecurity, security, yeah You know that this is not like when you mentioned the. If you have to take, not on a car. You can't afford it. That's not there's a no value judgment attached. To that I mean it's it just is it's not good? It's not bad. It's just! It's just a state so yeah? I don't think it's immoral to turn exactly to Dan yeah yeah, so you know what crystals going through right now it's

what it is doing, is it's anxiety producing. So how can you lift stress out of your life, I mean when I first went down the road of minimalism. I had a car payment. I looked at I needed to pay off and what the craigs list I put for sale, and then I went in and got I think at the time the corolla probably worth three thousand bucks. Maybe thirty, five hundred bucks so yeah I mean I went from a nice luxury vehicle to a corolla, and I got judged for it like I'll. Never forget like the first first time what's ago I was on. I was on a board and I was leading this meeting. I won't say why cause I don't want to like coin went out, but the the ceo of the company of the board. I was on we like walking out of the and he saw my corolla he. What is this? I'm like this is my carmen. I get rid of my car payment. You know a minimalist now I got to start making better decisions, he's like I don't like it and I'm like well: what character you like it, or this is what I had to do to to move my life

word so yeah crystal. You might get a little bit lesser of a car, but you could take the approach. I I mean even but say you don't have two thousand dollars on hand. You can take your your what you want it two thousand dollars to it and then yeah go on craigslist and maybe find someone? is one to pay that much for the car, but I agree with you backer like this. never been a better time to sell used cars right now like they are in pretty high demand. I think the cost of this mistake will help you avoid making the same mistake again and again now that you ve realized because the problem is we finance cars. We can making the same mistake because we think that's what we're supposed to do, I'm supposed to have a monthly car payment for the rest of my life. Moreover, to the live stream alabama order, the guy got any questions. We have a question from a I find myself putting minimalism at the centre of my focus, rather than using it as a tool to make room for the things that matter in life. Do you I done? If I

This feeling better thoughts, I never I set minimalism as the greatest goal in my life and I and I I almost I almost feel bad saying that and I'm I'm like really searching my heart to to make sure I'm. I'm true in saying that, and I I think it is like I that saturday morning, I want to have more time available with my family, and so I wanted to own less stuff, and I always saw minimalism would help me get there now. as I started. Pursuing this minimalism became much more of an obsession to me.

Like, as I saw, owning less improving my life. I I be consumed with what else can I get rid of and honey. Why? Did you buy that thing and like even probably to this day. Thirteen years later, like I still, we had a package show amazon last night and I'm like what is this, gives my who bought it Son bought it from college and shifted to our house, but I'm like by in this, but it it certainly became. It certainly became some that. I obsessed over to a degree- and I I don't know if I don't know if you could change that from the beginning, I feel like I had to kind of go through that and were recognize it and see hate. This has become a little bit on healthy in how I'm talking about

why this become unhealthy and how I'm just constantly scouring my house trying to find things that I should be getting rid of and should have and so now way. I think it became a little bit of an obsession, but I'm mean I wrote boy pose a really early on that. Like I don't want to be known as a good, minimalist that that was never What I wanted to be known for, like I I and to be known as of a faithful follower god I want to be known as a good father. I want to be known as a faithful husband. I wanted to be known, as you know, someone who made a difference, we're like like this is who I want to be remembered for not not being a minimalist, so yeah I'm sure it's not uncommon, that minimalism becomes the obsession, right away, but for me was oh, it was always a means to an end in and bombing. That's just how I was introduced to it. When I read the book at first, I thought it was going to tell me.

what things matter, meaning like what possessions in my house are going to be the useful or most valuable to me, and realize early on what you're talking about are all of these distractions that keep us from the things that matter and one of those distractions you talk about the book is stuff and that become distraction, but in a way getting rich. the stuff. If were solely focus, I get that still a distraction buy stuff, and so on What you're pointing out here is we often consumerism for simply decluttering, where as with minimalism, the decluttering is a tool that allows it to uncover. What is important, whether it is your faith, your family, the activities, the contribution beyond yourself, your passions, son, about being a good minimalist, just like it's not about buying we buy a hammer, we don't obsess over the hammer. The hammer does the job. It is the tool in any

as minimalism is a tool that uncovers the things that matter I was a very early on in this process getting rid of things, and I I was so prized at how introspective I became about owning less stuff, and I was It- was a blog posts. I used to blog like once or twice a day in just a couple paragraphs it time. I thought what became minimalist that used to be, and I remember writing how I'm just surprised at how what deep. Quite djinns about my life. This process is bringing to the forefront in and are destined hearse burger restore member. The name commented back on the block and he said it seems to me minimalism- would force question a values upon you and

I said that is exactly what is happening like you can't decide what you need to keep until you get well the process of deciding what to keep can't help but include like do I want to do with my life. What do I want to be with my life? What do I want to accomplish with my life? What things are important to me? I can't help but surface as we're going through this going through this process. yeah. I mean yeah, it's minimalism as a tool to help you uncover the important things life? And you know man when you get the distractions sometimes like that's the hard part is like and what do I want minimalism, becomes a focus. I mean you can't you can't Room for more minimalism event, get to a point where you do have to ask these tough questions.

We didn't have a solar, spartan ism, which is sort of the other side of hoarding them on the oaths seedy continuum. But spartan s are people who can hold on to anything, and I think, minimum sort somewhere between it allows me to hold onto the things that are useful, that are valuable, whether their actual physical things, but there are also the people that my life and I enrich their lives, and so we are well hold on just when my daughter is climbing the monkey bars, you have to be able hold on and let go in order for it to work. If you can do nothing, but let go you're, slipping and falling right. If you could do nothing holding on you, stay stock, I they. The person asking this question, could problem identify what minimalism is making room for, and that's It may be that only been realised what minimalism has opened them up towards, but yet

be their focus on minimalism, because it's allowed them to get out of debt. It's allowed them to spend more time with family. It's allowed to you know, weed that toxic relationship, it is I'm sure yeah, I mean there's some good side effects happening from minimalism one before we go into the lightning round ryan? to reach out to crystal here in ST cloud minnesota and say we're going to be. In your city. Walmart almost of many apple is right down the street from you, the love people things tore. We have two american citys laugh chicago minneapolis, both It's will give you a couple tickets crystal for the apples event war, so be into renault and vancouver later this year, the minimalist start: com, slash, tore if you'd like tickets to any of those I know for love. People use things of ants riots. As you know time, it is it's time for the the lending where we answer your text messages. You can text your questions, you can text your comments

three thousand seven hundred and twenty two thousand four hundred and sixty five for indeed now joshua Becker? This is where we and our gas. We have to question for the short shareable less than one hundred and forty character response we call them minimal, maxims, marilla, it was a monster on a bit until five cash on he tweezer something pythian avoid puts it in the show note, so people can copy and share our pithy. It was on social media. I am going to test all of his skills using out something through my posts. He brought a bagful of em dashes hitler, but we have a question here from a net I'm a member of the sandwich generation, meaning I take care of my aging parents as well as my children. How can I pray ties my needs without forsaking those. I have to care for now of the sandwich eating generation. I just love sandwiches yeah, that was on my okcupid cupid profile

and elmer was like It was a joke, but she was. Oh, I like sandwiches too, is to so that's what brought us together our love for sandwiches, perfect and though she can, say what just gluten intolerant anyway, to you, you've ruined her life. For I I question her judgment. Overtime. Joshua, that's question here: taking care of aging parents as well as my children. How Can I prioritize my needs without forsaking, though as I have to care for thoughts? Do you have? Oh, my goodness, my first thought is. Thank you. Thank you for doing that. Thank you for raising your children intentionally. Thank you for taking care of your parents

not everyone does so I would start there. you might have more in the moment, wisdom. but I would I would remind her that that this is a season of life where she's probably going to have to give more of herself they'll come a time where her kids are older and she won't have to put as much effort in raising them. There a time where her parents aren't around anymore and won't require that energy. But I would, I would look for help from your friends as best, possibly can, and I would realize that This season won't want last forever man, but you are doing a noble thing: man, damn! You should be tired when you go to bed at night, but

it'll, be proud of the day and getting super emotional on this, and what will bring was stirs up those emotions in you. What are you thinking about and I'm just given that that that she doesn't have to do that? I mean like. not everyone race, their children well and everyone takes care of their aging parents well, and to hear that she is, makes me proud to get to meet her over the over the internet night. I think she needs to hear that she's, not a man, I think quite often, when we talk about it priorities right, and it seems to me that you and that you ve had enough What your priorities are right now, and like me and my twenties, I sat a lot of things are my priorities right with a funny thing

priorities, don't even exist. Priority existing your priorities simply means the first thing. In my twenties I had about three hundred the first things and then definition everything was valuable to me, so nothing, nothing was valuable to me. So if I have a pithy answer for you, simply that our priorities are showcase not by what we say, but how we spend our days and how spending your days. Right now sat sounds to me like you doing something currently meaningful. It's also really difficult, because maybe you Like you, don't have enough time for yourself and yes, there may be are. You have to make that time for yourself, you so that you can have. You can fill the cops, so you can pour it out into the people that you need to pour out as you can't. As you say in the book you can't pour out

sing from an empty cup right, and so I think, maybe that's where the the discontent sets in here or the stress is like. I don't feel like. I have enough to give and you may not be able to do everything that you think you're supposed to do everything that you. should do. But it sounds to me like, if you're contributing beyond yourself, these other people you're doing something that is noble, and you need to be applauded for that. Yeah in my pithy answer. Is boundaries protect boundless love. So I love we said Becker about this being a season of life and There might be some boundaries she needs to set, maybe it's maybe with her kids or her parents, but it might be outside of that. She's, putting too much on herself that- it's really depleting her tank or maybe she's. You know she's at a deficit each day, but

since it is a season because I know with our friends and I are found like we would just want to say yes to everything and we can't we, we really can't and think. If there's someone in your life that instead a boundary with earth if the close to you they're, going to understand, you can say them, hey look. I got. I have a lot of responsibility right now with my parents. I have a lot of responsibilities right now with my kids. I would love to do that for you are with you, but but I have to say so I can say yes to taking care of my parents and my kids and I'm going to have to say no for quite a while, but the people who love respect you and want you to be happy, they're, going to understand those boundaries in it's. It's not an unloving thing. The set boundaries and I feel like when we, when I tell someone no, I often feel a man of being a jerk room, that sort of thing of being selfish, whatever it is, but explain.

What you're saying yes to. Does it come across a so selfish? We are more to talk about real, quick right here right now. There's one thing is going on in the life of the minimalists ryan, and I worked on nine philanthropic projects over the last decade or so a couple with Joshua Becker, the hope effect, which is it He started to help build a few orphanages with them over the years we just working on a new project right now with Dave ramsay we're going to educate, every middle school student in every high school student in dayton, ohio or hometown. We're raising money to do that ryan and I just paid money to educate the first hundred students. It's about financial literacy, so we partnered with rams if their curriculum, literally into every middle. And every high school, indeed no higher, and if this goes well

we're going to expand it beyond the borders of of our home town into other cities across the united states and elsewhere. Getting that curriculum out there. So we can set kids up without debt without the str without the anxiety without borrowing from their future. In order to do something right now, giving them that financial literacy, because the average american indebted household has indy? Seven thousand seven hundred and seventy five dollars in non mortgage debt and so we set ourselves up in a sort of prison, a prison of debt, and so we want to help whole bunch of kids middle school, kids, high school kids. You can help with that. They you go to the minimalist stockholm, dot, slash education. You can find all details the frequently asked questions. Twenty five dollars will provide the correct one for one middle middle school student, forty, five dollars for one high school student or if you can just donate five bucks that would help

south as well them, and was stockholm, slash education, bama. What else you got for harrison voice, no comments and insights from our listeners. Alright, morgan on you have found them lying. Where are you from? I am here and having all that stuff in our house whining and am I then, why not, then, that dependent on germany

interesting that profit and review donate thirty five dollars a year per person and it really does work. I've been dying to try and get me involvement and education around environmental and research, the wildlife money, but the awesome thing about them is that they offer free camping gear and a kayak and, like anything that you want to run three days or longer, you can put your face on a number of options out there, so different, keep in mind that there might even like unilever, the area that you have access to those items I have to have them in your hometown hi. This is stephanie for me. I started minimizing earlier this year when I was pregnant. My son is now six months old after much deliberation, cited a star, a small memory box for him ass. I

having joy? Having some items from my childhood growing up in it may add value to his life. At some point I will say a few items such as as his hospital bracelet birth announcement and the baby outfit as he gets older, he can decide if he wants to contribute any items to his body but any saved items have to sit in the game. The important thing that I dont attached as to these items and project my honour and by my son he will decide what added value he's an adult, you can choose to keep off all or no items. I will allow him to make this choice with no guilt or expectations on my part. I shall big thanks to our friend Joshua backer. His new book is called thing That matter, you can find it over at becoming minimalist com. That's his blog he's, also going

tor twelve cities knee knighted states. You can find those cities at becoming minimalist outcome. This book just came out today, Josh. Thank you. Thank you. Have knowledge you for writing this. I know you said now we're talking about this and a stream but the point after year wrote the minimalist home and then the more of last which your two previous books I'm not going to write another book. I think I've done with that, and then you fell or calling to write this, because we are, so distracted and it's not just with stuff it's all other areas- and we talk about on the Well, the sub talk about the eight areas of distraction, but in this book you dive deep into. These things that get in the way of a meaningful life, and also thank you for the first thank you for writing this year the kind words. I hope that I hope the thoughts in a book spark new thoughts. for people and provide help and thoughts, and I just

there's a lot of good available in the world. I mean just a lot of good, that's being bottled up and and, like I say in the book, I think we're all created to to bring a good into the world and the the less we're distracted by things that don't matter the the more good we can bring in the people we can help it. So I hope the book does, that on personal level, for people and foresight is also thanks for letting me chat with you guys. Thank didn't want your awesome. youtube channel as well, will put in the show notes, as well as becoming minimalist? The book as well tore the thing is that matter: tour coming to a city near you or just a nice little road trip away. Sometimes that happens right people boy come to move. There go several states over to see an event, quite a few of those see him while he's on the road when you have a chance, for added value this week, ryan grim, and put out a new eu p d.

He is called, remember, win and its a few new songs, but then his most popular song is a song called best days and it's like a kind of He sighed us this acoustic version of authority. I thought the show today, because, the song really highlights well giving up. Things, we thought were important, so we can enjoy the best days of our lives in the best days of our lives. Now we can uncover that when we get rid of the thing it don't matter and make room for the things that so you're the song from greece, colton. This is the acoustic version of best day. If your watch on youtube, I'm sure they can click right here, right, you're, somewhere up here and you can if the way ryan, we got a bunch more surprised, questions this week like what is joshua Becker's definition of minimalism and how does it four from the minimalist definition, one of the eight biggest structures and most people's daily lives. I've heard them. It was like logos, but what's the problem, logos,

four joshua Becker and minimalist said if you wanna hear all that check out the minimalist private podcast this week visit patreon dot com, to subscribe and get your personal link so that our weekly private podcast plays in your favorite podcast app yours? gain access to hundreds of hours of private archives, recordings of live events, exclusive home tours and our private community of thousands of open minded minimizes like you, you can follow the minimalist on facebook, talk, instagram and twitter at the minimalist. If you want pod podcast show notes in your inbox sign up, our email list over at the minimalist stock on behalf of ryanair could be miss. podcast sean alabama, Jordan, no more social, Jes, danny unknown emma the immigrant in the rest of our team. I'm joshua fields If you leave here today with just one message, rather be this love people and use things, because the opposite never works

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