This is episode number one thousand, fifty seven with two time olympic gold medalist and w n b, a superstar candace parker. You know, I definitely think your environment shapes your upbringing. I don't think you understand I love until you have a child welcome to the school of greatness. My name is Lewis Howes. A former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur in each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help. You discover how to unlock your inner greatness thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin please lombard once said: winning isn't everything but wanting to win is and terry good I said if the road is easy, your likely going the wrong way. My

yesterday s w NBA, superstar and two time, elliptical, medalist, candice, parker and parker is press of human beings. She has won a w nba championship too going to be a most valuable player awards, w n b, a finals, Mvp award, w n b, a all star game, Mvp, two olympic gold medals and the w n b a rookie of the year. She has also been selected Six, all w n teams and five all start teams and was the first. To win the rookie of the year and the debian be a most valuable player ward in the same season. She is a definition of a winner as a mother and a black woman, candice has developed into a bold in sight for inspiring thought leader who was passionate about the importance of women's rights, voters, rights and black lives matter with her heart passion.

Competitiveness candice is an inspiring role model for so many and it was such a treat to have her on the show, and in this episode we discuss how candice developed a winners mindset There is any way to have success without adversity and our lives. How she deals with negative emotions, we also talk about the lessons that Kobe bryant taught her and the most in powerful moment she had with him what it was like being a mom early in her w and be a career. What athletes can do moving forward to support racial equality? What she's learned from motherhood and the biggest lessons her daughter has taught her about life? Why she wouldn't participate in another olympics and so much more. But before we get into this, I want to let you know that I just launched my greatness coaching programme and I'm so excited about this. We built this.

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Listening to this episode or go to louis house doc, tom, slash ones, euro, five, seven and share that link out with your friends right now also posts on social media and make sure to tag candice as well. So she can know that your listening to her and said some love over on social media. Ok, in just a moment, the one and only candice parker. what In fact, everyone in school greatness very sound about our guests, kindest partner in the house, so glad you're. Here I've been a big fan of new represent your dedication and commitment over the years of excellence and greatness, and I want to start with the winners mentality, because I think you I will see how are you ve been away your whole life and Yes, what does it take in your mind to develop he's mentality, even when you're

winning. I honestly think it's like the obstacles in the barriers. I was fortunate enough to grow up in an amazing environment at home. My parents, both my parents, were there every game every play, every everything and honestly, I feel like. I was really lucky from that standpoint, but when I got to come I think in some ways in some areas, because things were so quantum co perfect in a way that might have my tenacity in my view, no ability to know I could get over monster goals, and so you know when I got. too much love for everything, adverse there's, just not enough diversity, and you know, obviously it's a way of evening things out. I get to college and you know I wake up from surgery. I tore my ac the year before: wake up from surgery and they're like you might not play basketball ever again and

I just remember you know at that point in time. My dad. He let me have my pity party and then he was like you know you can you can either have a pity party or you can get this done. So you need to decide. You need to look yourself in the mirror and you make a promise and like at that point it was like. I think I developed that mentality like I decided to have that winning mentality. overcoming adversity and obstacles. Do you think all champions needed? Firstly, in order to become a champion, or can they get there without, surgery break down, let down and break up. You know some type of extreme reverse. Anything is possible, I'd be interested to know if there's anybody that has just had it, because I mean, even if you think about like Michael Jordan, you think about the greats of phil Jackson. You think about it. Just everybody, that's amazing! In there

serena Williams, Domini dies something more china like you think about those amazing athletes. They faced adversity I mean there's always been a time. You have to decide whether you're going to get up or you can quit, and I think it's because, Get up that's the reason why they are equipped to be able to face those challenges. everybody thinks that like when you win the championship, everything so easy, but you go back and what, if Jordan, didn't make that steel guns com There are certain plays a more one play completely defines who somebody is or is it Tracy and I think moments of adversity kind of preparing for that moments. You not scared of it How is it? I mean you're in the w b, a number one pig to doesn't eight right, you're hitting me, but yet the same seigneur, new and old beyond the olympic say here right and which must be an amazing, I'm one of the olympics basis as a kid. But you didn't wear wmd a champion of fur

more years that right How do you handle that mentally when you're number one year. I think to Tom Clearly- you're in colleges are right or in high school to time. The high school college. how do you win for so long and then not win eight years? How do you stay motivated disciplined? excited having fun when you're not winning the championship? I think that's the challenge. You know it's weird, because I can remember every single moment: every law, like after every week we had this discussion after we won, because one? I was a man there's a joy. I just want to do it again. You want. I mean it's almost like that, like it's like the disease, you just you you You taste the cake you want, you want to eat a cake, you dont want slice,

So that's how it was with winning and like I almost felt like the feeling of winning was less of a feeling than the like rate of defeat, and so honestly, I philip were kept me going is just like I got it. I got the peace of the king and so every day. I would just wake up. I think the heart thing is when you do achieve success to me, because There's everybody: that's climbing a wall. I want, win and is coming after you, and so it goes back to like the hunter reverses the It is what is harder and honestly it is harder to be hunted every year, and so for me at that biggest thing is just to come back and do it again it so hard. Going that long without a championship or you wake up with so much motivation every single day. So much doubt every day from other people as to whether you can do it or not. I doubt you have with your with yourself. Do you live

with doubt or insecurity. Or do you feel like you are unstoppable every moment of the day it has taken a while for me, I don't know if it's doubt or just learning to be in the moment, because everybody has insecurities everybody has doubt everybody has fear of what if type of thing, but when you're, truly like in the moment like that that stuff doesnt matter, and I gets. So if I scored thirty or if I swore thirty five in hand, amazing game. I was onto the next play. It was our next game ex whatever, but I found when I scored and or five and didn't play well and just what? hung on, do it and so on. I learned that I play better when I just in the moment- and I prepare do the best I can and then I live with it. And it wasn't always like that

Wasn't always layer managed to beat yourself up for many days and weeks or months in a poor performance, a thousand percent? and you can see it. My brother and my oldest brother played basketball for ten years, and mba has been my hero for for life. I talked to him after almost every game and anthony would always tell me your you should take the shots. You are norm, you should you should take, regardless of what the previous play is, and he would see my hesitation If I missed a couple and then obviously kogi, I asked him because he would be the king of going five for twenty six and then hitting the game where- and I remember asking your misery already m- is over and over and over again, but then give the ball in the current time. Do is move

with spot right, shoulder terminal ban like left travel ban, and I remember asking him like how do you have the courage to take those shots in him saying because I put in too much time in so much effort. so much repetition. The next shot has to go in like percentage wise. When you miss three or four, you should really be taking that shot because it has to go wow and so he's like when you prepare That's when it takes all that out there, so just gonna. Listen to that You know it's taken. Some tie their spare interesting I had a conversation of I'm a big believer in like asking people what they consume like people that are, you know successful or whatever, and I remember talking to kobe and him saying that he really enjoyed this wow, and so I just want the say like wow yeah, so that was powerful to me, and that was when my agent reached out. It was like hell. Yeah like this is wow, that's cool, so

that's cool, wow and even episodes. So I'm a big like and I'll ask you after the show or what do you? What is your favorite books? What are you reading right now? What are your podcast that you listen to? Everybody gets tired cause. I send this and every year I'm like. So are you listening to anything else like I'm big into that, and I was annoying with kobe like what are you reading right now? What are you reading right now? What do you do If would always be like I'm doing this, I'm waiting, and so this was one of them yeah. This is one of the he mentioned. Did you say he was listening? Are you saying you just enjoy being on the show that he enjoyed being on the shelves? Cause also listened as this is you know a good podcast to listen to that's so awesome, it's good to know going on. I think you already kind of knew but that's cause they're all coming from coffee, though it's great, I mean we had a great connection. I mean I didn't meet him before then three minutes before connected with them by when he came out and his publicity, nah team was there and there are like he's- got twenty minutes in here

I take as much time as you want, he was really cool about it. He's super cool. It was our first guest on our podcast lemon worker, and you know I was. I friends with him, but I didn't want like asked I know how it's kind of like that line where you're like. I don't really want to ask cause. It's people asking fifty million times we say yeah yeah, so I was like I don't wanna be that person. He actually saw the promo for the new york game that we were doing and was like. Do you have a guest and I was just like hey come on. We would lie, we've been wanting to ask you. He was like yo, don't even go through. I was like we were trying to go through a publicist. We were trying to go through. He was like skip all that like wow, whatever that's pretty cool We've been pretty close with him for awhile yeah, like two thousand and eight was when, when you came into the game yeah, he became kind of like my little mentor and yeah like we, we went through waves of like super connected to. You know, fall off to text every whatever, but he's he's always been like in the playoffs is when we're like super There is such a big family, adobe area

when the biggest insecurity eve had overcome, I feel I always, though, when you're able to do a number of things when you can dribble when you could pass when you can shoot, people expect you to always constantly make the the play that you should make or the the best play. And because you can do so much, I find it harder because you don't know if that's a good shot, because you can make a nice pass, and so I think that the stock I've had has been making sure I'm listening to my voice and when I know is right and doing the best I can and not necessarily focusing on the other stuff, because when you become a leader and you become in door and a team and you're here dependent on night in a night out, you're gonna make more mistakes than people on the team. That's that's the reality of it, but you have to be confident in europe. And how do you handle your oceans. When you know you ve made a mistake in your being criticised for that mistake. Whether it be

Few people, or by the online world or whatever? Maybe it's a really funny, because this last two or three years my mantra has been com, is a superpower. I always struggle because I feel it though, in women sports and women in general and business wherever politics, you lose your composure, your concern, crazy, rational out of control, whereas with a man, you're consider passionate competitive and all these things, and so I just a terminal it's better to be calm anyway, like you look back on things and usually it's when you go crazy, like I should, I shouldn't have done that I should have thrown that. I you know you're apologizing for action, usually not an action, and so

this kind of been my place of trying to reach that calm and be calculated and the people I respect the most they think where they say that's kind of what I've tried to develop, I'm not perfect at all and probably know where I need to be, but that's kind of them. My mantra. Do you think? you think the greatest athletes armor- calm than they are reactive and passionate? Let's say, or No mohammed Ali was very passionate, very outspoken. You know Conor mcgregor like people are very outspoken. A passionate. Do you think you can be greater by being more com I think our society likes to put in label individuals like you people that are loud and you know, sale these words, but what's the action that backs it up and to me it's the action, it's not necessarily without you all before that. Right

A dame willard to me is one of the most because machine he's a machine, but he's got a nose leaders that just you can't tell on his face and unfortunately for me I was born with this. problem that everything I thought comes across my way. What were now my daughter eleven years old will be like mom, what's wrong like when something comes on the tv or something like that, like you, think this, and and I'm like no think that, but I do but adult he knows it's trying to get under control having composure and I've learned throughout that window. team or whatever organization you're part of as a leader. If there eight and their level is ten. it's your job, to kind of bring the team down to an even keel level, and when everybody is down, is your job to wear your mom? Yes, a little bit yeah. It is your job, and so I feel as though like as I'm getting older and as I'm maturing,

try to do that in whatever situation, whether it's the team were there. Family and I'm trying- it's not always right? It's not always. You know it doesn't always work out, but at the same time I think that's what I'm I'm attempting to do stood in sport. Psychology enchants from you, worked with sports signing liner minor in college yeah. I was and work with any mindset. Coaches today, or have you recently so I am huge into reading and then reaching out to those there was, yeah? Have authors joshua, mad calf wrote a book shop would carry water. Which I read right before in two thousand and sixteen before we want our championship in what struck me about that book and you know not spoiler, but

In the book I was talking about golf balls and how initially golf balls were smooth and when people would hit them, you couldn't control the direction that they were going, but they noticed that the more denim the golf balls were as I hit them. They actually travel better. So he use that as a metaphor of like humans and people in life and individuals and like getting, meet up and getting bruised. You actually will travel farther and better and that just hit me in a way- and you know the whole book is just do the best you can and then you know live in the moment. That's That kind of reach me inside huge psychology. I read a million bucks like I'm really into it, and I love panels. I love podcasts, so that's kind of where I go for my sports psychology yeah. I read a book. I think it was called chairman's mindset, or maybe it's called train away enough. We get up to check it out again but the sports, like

You said that you should always practice likened to game and bring your energy to the game level and then a game time. I should like calm down just be more relaxed and calm and being the flower size that those instruments raise it up in practice, bring it down for the, it usually before. Learn that I get so. There what had an entire piano energy because you've just exhausted it and warm ups and you're not relaxed. So true, never done that where you're like with championship, but who can we leave my knees, yeah that we call the first two minutes. You know when you get out of breath, and for the aim here have done anything. You know that the play ass is I remember we were in the w b, a finals and I walked out there and it was a game, five against minnesota, two thousand and sixteen so my first elimination when or take game. Looking around. My heart was beaten, taken, be breast first two minutes, and then you get lost in your craft.

So it's like literally she's getting past those first of anxious and that's when you have the turnover in the problems or whatever, and then you just settle in and you try to do what you ve always done. Who is most influential personal I've, your up, we'll growing up I d, my brothers my two older brothers, anthony Chris. There ain't eleven years older than me, so I was the baby baby sister and Anthony actually went on, played an mba put four toronto played for the cleveland cavaliers. while and then my middle brothers actually radiologists. He wanted to be a doctor, since he was five and he's We went to medical school at johns hopkins. We're really proud of him. So I too, amazing role models just and not what fear like craft was, but just as people later and to this day anything I go through a problem obstacle in choice. I'm trying to make I always reach out and talk to them. I mean that's

no they really are my found here. Who is it This lesson each one of them tell you my goodness at such a great great question. then he is MR doubles advocate. So whether it is for it. Or whether he is against it. He is going to ask you the other side? That is my brother. So now, when I'm thinking- and I think I watched like an old full house episode- word talked about your car, if chess, and how eventually it becomes your own voice as opposed to your parents, telling you you're not supposed to do stuff. Yes, that's my conscience now like I hear, me and now it's my voice where I'm like okay. So what? If this you know what is the other side and so Anthony kind of a joke within that He would be the one that would he no place play devils advocate like winning the lottery or something you know, he's right he's that type, but I would say that that's it.

seen from anthony and then from margins. He is one of those guys that issues so certain on what he wants and he will do in work for anything. And he said he wanted to be a doctor, five years old and he worked and stayed motivated and long hours pushed through inverse see everything to become a doctor, and so I think just watching them operate the way, the way their fathers, their husbands- it really is inspirational for me, yeah, that's cool! I love that you're tik tok star. Through your daughter and I love the relation guys have together four year, haven't jos and plant around a lot of social me. I think that one should follow you guys there. what was it like being a mom in Career that I guess most and don't have kids at that age when they're trying to become great as an athlete the w m b a that early. What was that like for you, then

a young mom. While being the w b how'd you manage that and how do you manage iron amber, it was coming off of two thousand. He we won the national championship When I went to gold medal, we lost and debbie me a semi finals, western conference finals. I can show you AG still and I remember I had just one rookie the year and mvp- and I was in san antonio- and I remember I started feeling a little sick said: hm okay and my best friend was the first to find out, like I told her that I was expecting, we were all excited. I was supposed to go to russia that year to play overseas, but obviously we wanted to wait to tell everybody whatever the first reactions I got worse disappointing to me like it was almost more of like how could you do this to us as fans, not with an organization like just there

action that I got from others of like oh she's done like she's washed up, she's aerial come back like he's after version of ie? Is that my virginia I you know, I became a young woman. I let me give you some history at all we wanted to be a mother that has been what I feel as though I was born to resign dolls tirelessly ten year. Fourteen, like my choice, love? The idea? of having a little you running around and so on. and to be a young mom. So, although I, the. I was extremely excited to have an have a daughter but was it the way it was accepted and at the time my mind where I was like. I'm gonna come back and play on this date, so she was born made thirteenth. I played on

My fifth and again, two months later clay two months winners is working out. Two weeks after I had a lot of my whole pregnancy. Like you don't know, you don't know I'll be back in tunis, yet back locked up, everything was created by two months later play yes, and she honestly has been my entire inspiration motivation. Every single thing. Every day I went I want her to know that king for her. I want her to know that you know I love you and I want to set a great example honestly, the biggest thing that I would like to message I would like to get across is within parenting. Within sports, we ve got a change and shift the perception of. Fleets in parenting and being there because a number of times I would go. Go places and labour wouldn't be with me and they all wool whose watching leyla, like who's taking care of leyla, like whose, whenever, but there

Asking lebron or staff were even you dame Lillard. Whatever and I think it so important for fathers to be there as well and present and we are seeing now turn any. We then we're seeing guys like jimmy butler, miss his miami heat debut to be there for the birth of his daughter were seeing how hands on south korea's, and so I think for me it's you know the amount of support that I've had from ellie sparks amount of support have had for my family. Lucky because, as a work mom, my organization allows me to bring my daughter along school, nursing and at half time of day way. Yeah we cannot do it is, and so we we meanwhile, have grown up the other here, nursing and have time in the lock and other other moms. Do this too

you know I mean I have done. I don't know, but I was just so stubborn in that I never wanted to sacrifice my career for my family and I want to sacrifice my family from my career, so the best thing is just to both and honestly. I was adamant that I was going to nurse my daughter. We are going to go in crazy amount of countries and traveling all the time like I want to nurse her wow, so she nurse for thirteen months. We didn't spend a night away from each other for two years, like she went everywhere with me, and that's and that's you know, that's that's what would work for me? Other mothers can figure out what works for them that's fine, but in fathers as well. But for me that's what I needed. Do you think other moms in the nba would have the same operative? is it do that or do you think, because you are the number one pig the star the face there like? Ok, if she wants to do this, you never can I have time while we're doing we're trying to guess, I'm a game

I struggle with, because everybody commends my effort at being a working mom, and I have to kind of take a time out because I'm like you know there are women that can't bring their kids to their job right. That can't travel with them that need to find childcare and- and I didn't have those issues and those obstacles and your I don't know if I was a second round pick and trying to make it in the league if I would even still be playing basketball with a with a child and. Fortunately, we did reassigned c mere because at the time in two thousand eight, my daughter travelling with me. I paid for my mom's a fly. I paid firm half of the hotel, because we were sharing rooms. You know all the extra costs that goal to having a child. There was no child stipend, you're, moving to a city, you know for six months, who's, gonna watch, em. You know type thing and now, with this new sea ba,

maternity leave, you get full pay if you are expecting So there are things that were moving in the right direction on school. What's been them his challenge about overcoming last twelve years since entering a league biggest most shouting phase of life I would say when I went through just the injury after injury after during the year after having lila, but I also would say it's tough going overseas. For the other six months of the year, and there are so many times as I'm yanking my child out of school, to take her overseas- that I'm questioning whether I'm doing the right thing for her and honestly looking back it couldn't have been better really. I think at the time that's the hardest thing that I've had to do is. You know take her out of school and overseas and put her in these schools overseas and she's. Looking we went along with dunno what saying and it's really served us.

Well because she really is such a resilient adaptable. like you, can put her in whatever room, and she says you know: she's gonna, she's gonna shine, while where do you think she would be if stayed in our last twelve eleven years as opposed to blowing the world and being a global system? It's interesting because you know, I definitely think your environment shapes your upbringing, but I think the most proud moment I've ever had was you know, and we are in a way, so there there's elaborate birthday party, sterile, you're, gonna people's house, where I'm like my jaws, hitting around like looking at those in you know, Lila is riding the camel and the birthday party, and I'm like we're not going to have a birthday party like this, but you know whatever, but we go overseas to russia and she has a classmate in her in her class and the fame.

invited his over to dinner, and so my translator came with us and we are going to their house, and so we opened the door and we open the door and it's a one room place with the stove in the middle with no floor and I'm trying to get to lay on the floor. There's no floor dirt, and so it's just literally you know. So we get there and trying to get to leila cause, I kind of like she walks in first and so I'm trying to get to her so that she doesn't see any. Thing or whatever, and she looks around and she's like a doll house and they just run over and start playing with dollhouse, and so that to me was just like we're doing thing right now. You know with her in that It was so special, so I feel as though you know having those experiences of knowing a lot of different people. From a lot of different areas that look different, has really helped in like pushed whom railways What is being a mom taught you about yourself, the most everything

every single thing. Every thing great add, is amplified everything your terrible is ample. I didn't, as much as I thought I did, I want twenty three. I was twenty three when I had my daughter, but He really has taught me probably the same amount as I've talked like. it's just it's crazy. How much he teaches me was the three biggest lesson. She's tell you. She has definitely taught me that our actions speak. Way louder than words. I always used to tell her all the time we don't cry when we lose like we do the best we can. We do this. Do this, and so I walked in, and one of her cousins beat her at a board game and she's crying in the corner, and I go over there and I'm like we were given a lesson like you, don't cry I like this, isn't a time for crowley. You pick the pieces up and you go back over there and play and she's like, but you did you cried and I was like, but that's different, but it's really not

you know, and so you see, she really teaches me that she's watching every sing, thing that I do every move you marry remove. I make checks me on a big thing. Now is pronouns with their school their learning about that in her community connections class, and so dress when they get on. They say she her or her hand yellow hen whenever they. How are we going to be addressed, and so there and uber driver? That was coming, and I said he you know he I didn't know if it was a he, but I said he and she's like well. How do you know it's a heat you're assuming you shouldn't assume. You know so it's it's really interesting to see how this generation is being up, and it really makes me happy that they are very concerned about the next person, others in the environment, things like that and so she's yeah she's, happy semi lesson. where do you think you be? If you didn't have her at that?

in your had five seven eight years: in the debate on the aid and on your career only, and that you think you would have accomplished more, one more championships, or do you think the mom actually have to become a better athletes? being a mom help me become a better person, and I say this all the time like without the injuries without having my daughter, I might have had more championships. Without injuries and your daughter without yeah, honestly, but where by wearing, now in terms of realizing like I am so happy and I'm trying to get better every single day, trying to acknowledge my faults and look myself in the mirror and see where I need to improve and get better, and a lot of that is because of because my daughter- because I want to I want to be somebody that she is proud of when she is older- that she wants to come home, that she is proud of poor

it's, not what you know what I've accomplish. That's cool let's throw in the stuff you're talking about with kobe, because you know kobe for a lot longer than me. I knew him once in an interview and we stayed in touch over messaging, each other, which was was nice of him but he was very impact for my life, why? him as an athlete nostrils a human how he died. The veracity from earlier is career too, how we transitioned almost seamlessly from athlete too, entrepreneurs, leader creator, storyteller. What was the biggest lesson that he taught you. and what was the most in, for a moment. He remember spending with him we'll call views on is one of the best dance I truly believe that.

The love that you know he has for his family and I think the biggest thing for me is just being able to like right now, even when I'm in the gym with my daughter and will work on something like he took the time and the energy and as kids he wishes dad and you know it didn't matter if you won or sport eighty one, the night before like you're picking up, I think the the best story that he told he was on our podcast of ludlow and parker podcasts that I do in during the season it. You said that he was late to pick up his his daughter one time and he Was he wasn't on time and they ripped ten in so I have raised. I was after that wife, daughters, everybody ripped while he was on time in one of the first pillar. To be there and pick a blind to pick him up after that, because that

what he had to do and so to me? I think you tell me who somebody is, but you tell what their family is going to say about them and how much time they spend and energy they spend. So for me that that was a huge role model and I just the way that he spoke about them and how much pride and joy he were running into him in china the first time I met his daughters in please let me see limp accentuate any You see, then you see them they're, gonna break. All your records were sailing nice to meet you like, the first time you met him the first time I met his daughters, all care, but the first time I met his daughters. That's the first thing he said to me, and I just remember laughing over the years about that, and you know it's just one of those things where you could see how much love and energy and effort that he put into his family and how much joy

that brought him and, to be honest with you, I think the big thing. Is it just overcoming adversity? People are, you know they think it's easy to get to five championships over the it's just come out and score or I, but to see like working out with him and seeing the amount of detail and energy that he put into I mean we're doing a that. They know we've job, since we were five jobs that jobs it He was like no, I'm not biting your. Your left leg doesn't move the same when you're going that direction. So why would I bite that you're actually like that attention to detail that he has like it's an obsession and I am a firm believer in kids- can get it if you talk to them and teach them and spend time with them and in and tell them in and teach them how to handle to get something they can get it. We don't need a dumb down stuff. We don't need to baby, then he didn't do that tat what you mean coach. They are run and said that we were in college yeah, so issues

I really loved about was there one moment that stands out That was really memorable and powerful for you. I think they might have confidence that he has and he's always had. The rapporteur goes out to me the most global and the amount of ways that he can just say things in just a coolby only mentality. There was a time in two thousand twelve at the olympics, where we would always go play cards, and so is like london, yes in london, and it was the players lounge where everybody would show up and we play cards and whatever literally. You could not leave if he lost, like get to keep lie until here on looking over somebody shoulder because the pot was ridiculous, arrived land with de waiting, right, cobia and all that, but on the year its,

You can't leave and he's sitting there like. No, oh, so you're scared, you're, not gonna play again like dude. I just beat you four straight times. Am I scared you don't wanna play again, so and she has been talent. You he's always been like that he's cocky but puts yearly puts in the time who is the athlete, on the men side that he respected the most growing up. I am a chicago in so Obviously I grew up washing the bulls. I was a huge bulls fan to the point where it was like we didn't we, championship this year. You know it was like the expectation was a grand park every single year. That's where the championship celebration was like. Everybody knew so I there is a whole just the bulls franchise but many players, when you were in place, My colleagues are you watch in respect to the lot of the biggest allen, iverson really busy. Alan iverson van my brother I drafted and played with Philly his first two years

an irish in what I say. Him in person my mouth like drop, I was the biggest allen iverson van to the point. Where is like we're trying to get the braids, I had the finger band. My brother got a finger band from him, so I was wearing that I was wearing the ay I, the reebok shoes. I was doing all that I was trying to be like who's. This I think he respect the last. It's a really good question and honestly reggie miller. Really. I rely because I feel, as though people don't understand that there are like it was this so close in a way that we say and talk in the way people talk about championships, it comes down to lake and encourage a centimeter and that's how they do this. bad like he is unbelievable and just realizing after working with him, at ten t and and things like that, realising it

not just like you can't turn it on and off like you're. Not just oh player. That is no attention to detail when, like he's like that, with broadcasting he's always on his own early like super early to everything, he's always was exactly what the run down to the show is like some analysts, it's like just asking the question right over. He knows everything he's attend detail. He just put in it it gets up every morning and works out. The black crocodile like he just being around him more. It's just so much respect for law and what? at the female have not bass. While you admire respect the most female athletes, not in basle I may not serenely williams. Is she says, she's a beast I mean I grew up. My mom is trying to get me a play. Tennis like lately I was just Serena had that here there are ways. Rather, we are trying to get my daughter, and that means that in work out too well, maybe

Maybe my nieces or something right, yeah, serene away, and I think for me it's you know we connect on her being a mom as well. I think it's so important in stepping into places in rooms that aren't used to having people that look and are like you live and she's done that in basically broken down every single barrier for those that follow and to be able to see like the fruit of your labour. Why you're actually still playing like to me for her to be hanging in some of these kids that the reason why they're playing tennis into her has a hers crazy to be able to see the fruit of your labour while you're, still playing and you're still killing. Like killing on the court. I mean I idolize her for sure law had a child and then start applying within months. I think afterwards to write the two three four once Mary super fast, and still winning an unbelievable.

Give a mantra that you live by on a daily basis or when you're in practice are ignored, a game when things are going well when you're tired when year, why stop? when you're rather go relax. you say, something yourself. Well, I have two things one. So I played for the late great pat summit at tennessee. I saw you at once when I was sixteen How so impressed with her leadership. what was our life coach summit? is one of those people that people try to emulate and be like her there's, no body that can ever touch what she who she anything issues. Pat is path. she transcended women's sport, transcended the ability of a lot of her student athletes team and have confidence in going for

in being who they are walking into rooms. They talk about women, women, equality, gender equality. She spearheaded all about so I would say my entre when things get tough, because I think I learned much more about her. When things got tough, then, when she's winning championships to me, it's like, let's look when things are going Let's look when stuff isn't going on when you're not hanging, banners not condone. That's like how are you as an individual What are what are you really doing daily day to day, and she almost did it more. So when things are tough- and I asked her- I remember you know when she first got sick. I asked her like how do you get through day to day when things get tough?

I like left, foot, right, foot, breathe, repeat and honestly. That is, I promise you what I say sometimes even when I'm like wanting to explode, I'm like left foot, right, foot, breathe, repeat like that's my that's my mantra and and then. Secondly, I heard I cannot remember it was in gym class when I was in like eighth or ninth grade they had so many come in and speak to us and they said that the power of humans is our ability to have compassion and think of others needs and think of Others would want to do, and sometimes we end up putting others, and you know before ourselves and low in those days. We don't want to do something. In those days struggling who are you doing it for so for me when I like dont want to work out when I want to happen the pellets on and do my forty five network workout I like, like I'm doing it for, think of someone I'm like I'm doing it for you and sometimes I'll, tell you away when I worked out for you today,

like Layla. I got on that plane to go to atlanta today, for you like. That's why I got on the plane for an end to it. It helps you know when you've got extra, you don't want to do that extra set or you don't want to do the extra line, drill or whatever just say who I'm doing it for it's not one. When I'm running long distance, I dont want to run not long distance. I guess you I just committed to doing a marathon in march. I can allay because I've been pretty my whole life here saying as I'm a sprinter boss, the football player three miles and that's a lot, and I ve been, starting to everyone Think of someone who, when he is hard yet and put my attention towards our person and my focuses. I don't know that this person down and mister This mile is letting his person out of my life, so I use that as a technique in a tool to just put my attention elsewhere, as opposed to my own pain. Or tiredness.

If it really helps that's amazing and I might have the merit when I run the marathon, I'm going have a span and opera name. Twenty six names will be unjust. Down every mile and put my intention towards those individuals. That first of all I want to commend you because I doing distance training last autumn man. When I tell you it's just like not what I do. I see mrs regular people that our athletes outrunning miles on the beach and I'm just like I don't get it so. First of all, I want to commend you for doing a marathon cause. That's commitment, put up to put it at least committing to preparing for to preparing, but secondly, like you re, because then you turn that attention in that energy, like I think so, much is energy If you think about it, when you walk in, I can't remember who I was listening to podcast. It was, but they were talking about how, like you know, you can turn on a tv and you can how teams that play with energy it just something that you can't touch a careful. It's not it's! You know. It's the intangibles- and I feel like that

working out with the way you do things like energy is everything and if you can create I find that energy like you're, able to do so much. How do you find it when you don't have it? I think its thinking of you Thinking of your? Why thinking of your reason I So I feel as though I, when you do something the looked back feeling like feeling of like there's so many times I wake up and I don't want to go and then, after I'm done, there's never a time where I'm like. I wish I wouldn't have done that it doesn't really injured yourself or so exactly, but usually you're you're, like I I you know, I feel so much better. I did it. I accomplish this, Sagal oriented so the microscopic goals today and I have the telescopic goals and those are so important to me because you can lose sight when you're lookin out into- future. You lose sight of how you're going to accomplish so those microscopic goals, those

with the goals of like okay, I'm gonna do this. At least I've done this task like I accomplished something today, or what do you think it'd be without goals? Oh, my goodness, I so goal oriented like to the point where, when I, when I torme ceo, you know the degrees that they try to get your in bend, and I remember them telling me cause the first thing. Don't tell me, I can't do something right, I'm the one. That's like my dad was like trying to get rid of me on a saturday. It was like one around the house. Eighty times my brother's, like yeah. I bet you can't do it I'll, give you five bucks and on the hundredth by was like you said: like, I did so don't tell me. I can't do something and in so that's kind of my goals. Like I said With that in mind of trying to push myself and trying to see what I can achieve, you know make it a cop edition, even within my head, do you think anyone can achieve great accomplishments without setting clearly defined big goals?

an incremental, goes along the way happens. I have this idea is going to happen, or I mean You can call it discipline, you can call it organization, you can talk, call it. Goal, but I think you have to have some sort of plan, I don't know Maybe there are people that just fall upon stuff, but to me I think it has to be clear, calculating you have to have a purpose, Otherwise, for me, I lose motivation, know what I'm trying to accomplish? What it's going to get that type of thing then like if you get on a treadmill and you're just running, and you don't know how long you're running for you don't know the distance you're running you don't know the speed. I dunno many people, maybe there's some like marines out there that would just get on there and run until it's time, but I was like the one at practice like okay, so yeah to me at least the first five minutes, so I could get through that and then we can make it work. Yeah! That's funny! I literally

forest got maybe just a long drawn out anywhere efforts in irish up I love that movie or do you think, would be without coaches in your life, giving you well to be as great as an athlete champion I can barely a the year without a coaches. Could you do on your own? You think? No, absolutely not, and I think the biggest and maybe on the court. You know for some people, but for me personally, it's like sports is like a metaphor for life. There are so many things within life that I wouldn't have been able to get over or accomplish or persevere through without having those failures in sport, and I always loved the coach that kind of like tests, people to see how the act yeah. No, I definitely wouldn't be able to accomplish any of this stuff just because I think the mental toughness when you're young- you don't understand,

why, but they know soon you You realize later in life like her. That's what allowed me to have the mental right, as you know, when your younger everybody kind of micro manages your time here in study hall ruptures, you do you're there check in ever greater thing gets frozen there like yes, the buses at this time we play at this time? You got it by yourself you gotta figure out your work out plan. You have to do all these things, and so it's like coaches before taught me how to have discipline Sometimes people don't do what they need to do. They need other people to tell them, and you know once you get to a point where you're kind of like your own disciplinary, and I think it it's special I've been know what you mean. You know, of course, here I've always been a discipline I wouldn't say always, but I'd say when I get to high school and on I got very disciplined cause. I gotta clear my goals, but

yeah coach could always push me a little hard. Then I would push myself just a little bit. Even I can push myself hard. I can work out with the best of them alone in the gym, but it's like you've got someone over your shoulder, helping a correcting you just watching you, you gotta push a little harder. I transition from playing arena football. I never made it to the nfl, but I was making two hundred fifty bucks a week and I felt like that. just when the world is, I'm gonna catch a foreboding appear. Point arena ball. It was very hard to transition out of not having a team ouch and organisation, and I quickly about a year was like funding to make my I've sport I need to find. coaches and in relationships and business and have some type of guides? Helping me always had coaches and send the end is always im better some big believer in coaches in sport in life

as a mom as at whatever for me personally, as it's key, I think it's key and you hit it right on the head and coach. Somebody used to always say this when you're chasing something you should chase people in passion and if you chase those two things, you'll never fail and in a way, especially nice. Asked two years will have cut of started thinking about what I want to do after basque long after the ball stops bouncing. I realize it's like your relationships at your building, the people and on my goal, I want to win and other championship me why, within basketball, Michael after basque moloch, I look it guys like magic johnson, and I look at how he's kind of is like he's a business man. He transition into that, and honestly I mean maybe I'm wrong, but he was kind of one of the first

in the mba. That really became a businessman, and I remember a couple of years ago I was, I had a meeting with him and I was like I want to be you. I want to have that transition where wow we can open up doors for other women in sport because, honestly, like, if you think about it, just training wise. Sports are run like a board room. That's how it is and to your learning, in your competitive in you learn how to fail. You gonna to get up. You know we're comfortable and The first thing I say anytime. I in business meeting or anything really? Listen! I'm coachable! So you're telling me what you want, what you don't like when you talk about it and and so that's kind of you're right. It is about surrender yourself with great people. You know. Obviously, to be passionate what you do, but it's the people never make it what does that mean by chasing people? She,

always surrounded herself with people that had a number of goals. That kind of were in the same chapter as her. She says she doesn't want people on the same page, just needs people in the same chapter, because you can eventually get to the same page. I can, I can remember a number of times is she was always a mentor. She was always for her assistant coaches, leaving getting had a school and then sk imagine the impact that she had at tennessee and then those coaches are taking what she had in what she said when she taught them so their programmes, and so it's almost like that trickled down effect of the amount of kids that she truly has impacted still going out and cause they're still had coaches that coming under her arm, so that to me his way chasing people means it means you know, establishing a community.

Being a mentor like they're, so many people in my life that have done things for me with nothing in return. Are there so many times where you really like? Why did they help me no, but then you go and do something for somebody that it doesn't benefit you at all, and so I think that's kind of like that's what being a good human is. You know it's just like there's paying it forward, you know and you go out to dinner and somebody pays for your dinner and then the next time you pay for somebody else's dinner, kind of trickles down, and so that's kind of yeah. That's what I learned from pat what's missing in your life, with every question by certain what is missing in my life? I am truly fulfilled, surely truly truly fulfilled. I'm grateful. I have so much gratitude. I mean right now, competition, dying because I'm so competitive in sewing getting my daughter's nerved kiss like we go out too casually.

Bob volleyball and unlike ok, let's see if we can do to twenty in the competition aspects, I would say right now: it's the competition because we're not in season and I'd say another championship. I believe you can fall upon something once and it can be an accident. It can be lucky if you do it twice. It's not. So for me, I'm chasing that new one. Twenty sixteen right. Yet we are to live, go metals. Yes, I've got to feel good what's more power for the olympic gold medal or the w h hamish to me is giving me a championship. The olympics, it's like now be like this, but americans can feel three teams and probably come home with the silver and brought ruinously. I really feel like american basketball, women's basketball, and this is no offense, to any of rights. International players, but I just beginning, or headings above the world and by saying that, yes, it was competition with australia. Their amazing yes, was competition. russia

pain and so on, but at the same time, where women's winning a dummy may championship against the best players in the entire world. To me, that's that's like the olympics. we should be as like, the best of the best coming together what castro gonna feel good? now, because there was amazing when tat when I was staring podium. This girl watch the olympics and ninety six when it was in atlanta, and I was gonna win a transcended. The way I thought of women, sports women were on believable in the nineties. Excellent. This was an interactive joiner. Is yes, LISA leslie! You talk about an inch. I got me a mere by how many doors I mean, who magnificent seven everybody top to bottom, with only and then to in two thousand a stand alone stage we talk about all nearly twelve years later, while

to me. I remember being that kid on the couch with my dad telling him I'm going to be on that boat man, that's chills and and so to hear the national anthem play and experience bidding ceremony and see how other athletes react to american athletes. That experiences you know one of the best of us. Would you do it again, No time like the olympics is really going to happen, sixteen. After coming off of playing pretty well There was a question of whether I was going to make the team in two thousand and sixteen you wanna championship, we want a championship and you know I got cut

the olympic tee. How and on more than double a mere championship. How'd you caught. I mean, I guess, that's a question for you as a basque law, and I dont know best player believe how did they cut? You load you gotta, ask gino, but honestly it was kind of one of those situations where her big into communication. So if there is no possible way for me to make the team, regardless of how I played it, wasn't me If I'm playing then tell me- and I don't waste my time away from my daughter or waste my time and we've tried to keep all that so wow that to me was was a but honestly looking back. If that was, situation I was going to walk into playing, would have not been a fun time, it's true so I, you know I got to spend more time with my kid at home and and to is, I got to experience something twice. You know this pastel, I'm big,

With dawn staley ago they reached out and asked if I wanted to participate and to me like If it was something that I looked in my mirror- and I said I didn't deserve to be on the team- I might come back out for the team just because I feel as though you know I did something, but how, in the world like going to tell my diary if somebody or something treat you wrong or in an unfair manner, to go back, and so that kind of was my ending point of like my time with the olympics sin with you. Also is a person is still there. Juno is not the coach anymore, but this you know the committee, existing. We see now what I repeat it. At the same time, it was just kind of one of those situations where I like nah, I'm good. I'm cool like interesting I'll, spend time at home, yeah of Allah what they also. We really want you back, twenty one, I'm getting your courage, Nothing will change your mind, I'm good, I'm going to be sure

and I'm working getting my daughter a passport because she's not playing for usa basketball. I played no did it but so I am, my time has finished, idea and shape the time energy are put into it. Besides, it's done well the more years you wanna play. If you could decide, I wanna play until this. the season will without being here The thing I was sitting with, I say atomism studio because he retired, I think early like he recited like thirty, two thirty, three zero missing. You know we grub did. He want to retire was an injury or, I think, was a combination of both He said he showed up at the gin and he didn't want to play and he was like. I can't cheat the gate and it was one of those situations where it's like when you go out in the court, and it's fine in your usage dominating in working people in vienna that's when you want and then you're looking, people that you would normally cook he would normally beat in you know, beat in a game in their life,

going past you, you can't scorn armies, I've just wasn't fund anymore, and for me I don't ever want to cheat its argument, cheating the game because there's some people that can play, but I'm not really competing it. It's a game. I wanna go. it against myself. If I'm not where I and be or who- I am my brother said advanced anthony, said abysses, like you know, you have that year and then you have that possible if that possible, tells you that that year was true, then you're done and so honestly in two thousand nineteen there, My year were like this past year was like that, like. Let me really dyson. If it's the same as last year, I might be done really in so It is hardly a last year saying that you know this for the next year or even three years, but I'm saying when I am not able to do the things and I am used to doing. I have to walk away from the game. I can I cheat myself in the game like that.

But if you could choose exactly how many more years would you like to play if you still loved it, if you're still healthy and lovely it's not even the love. I love basque. Longer I love competing, I love being in the arena. I love all of that. It's when you don't wanna, prepare when you I don't want to get up in the office and don't want to do the sand runs the sand dunes on the go like that's the problem, because then need all that stuff. You I'm ready, wants to play in the play off gains all that stuff. It's when I stop wanting to prepares when I'm in your belt, it's there you know, honestly, who knows it Next year could be the year after could be in a three or former years, but at the same time I know I have my circle: told them. Look get me if I waver in ireland's nature to myself, you guys have told me a camel agree, that's good! That's good!

It's been amazing year in terms of people standing up for their rights and people standing up for what they believe in and black. The matter and you ve been a part of this is well. We ve had a lot of work, rotational michelle what are you most proud of in terms of the black community stepping up this year or people or organisations when he was proud of- when the w ba terms What has happened even now, there's been a lot of things that are not to be proud of our. Entry right now, we have a time problem, and by this I mean to explain what I mean- that we think things were like terrible or bad years and years and generations and it wasn't the case and it seems in the same instance. We think we have gotten better in in We think it so long. We haven't gotten better and- and I say that

the sense of you know in my parents were born in the fifties and in know the sixties. Looking back, you think about all the things that they've lived through and then just even within the last four years. You think about two thousand and seventeen colin kaepernick and you think about kneeling. If you meal, you are on the wrong side at that point in time, and then you fast forward now and this past year, if you didn't kneel, people were asking questions why you didn't so if something like that can change in a four or five year span, I really am proud of the fact that we haven't even recognised then a generation ago it was two or three athletes that we're standing up for activism and social injustice in june equality in things like that now we have entire leagues, within a generation we haven't higher week, like being a part of that this past year and above all, one hundred and forty four players in the dummy,

gathered during the break the two day break of of observing in standing, solidarity with the milwaukee box after Jacob blake the jacob like shooting to realize the impact that it wasn't just one or two athletes. It was entire sports leagues. and so to me we don't talk about two step forwards. You're too, you know the steps you're taking forward. And how important it is to understand its, not necessarily about what people think this right or what today's world and values, and things like that. It's what's right and if you can do, work towards that, like I'm so proud of our league, because even looking at kneeling, it's like That was unacceptable for years ago, five years ago, and now it's like, if you don't like, also you're, not kneeling, you know like run it.

We have in two thousand seventeen for not coming out for the national anthem. We had so many players from overseas in foreign players on our team that we didn't feel comfortable making them vision they didn't understand everything that was into kneeling, and so just as one of the captain's on the team, we can put them in. That's it. And make them stand and were kneeling or make them kneel their country yeah and whatever we're going to do we're going to do together and we decided stand for the lager eleven. We got booed in minnesota, booed the final game and so to think now how has shifted so much, even in just that rang this and what is accepted. I'm really proud to be a part of of that change in on me, and I think that sports leagues definite have been a catalyst for that. What can athletes do moving forward after this year too?

port and making change, causes a lot of also people talk and say out. These should, just being you know, not saying anything, just playing the game and not trying to get into a guess whatever politics, where societies issues just sharp and play. What do you think me staff and move forward with with athletes and with leagues of all types. Oh, I can only speak for myself when I feel as though I continually educate myself constantly. I have three different news out outlets. you know top five or six news breakdowns every single morning them into my phone that I read so I can get different opinions and different what others those outlet sign very I'm into sign a foot border, newsweek MSNBC cedar, so those are kind of my four. I have sent to my email that you can get the run down for the top five were.

you can do the writers where it's like the news in three minutes. If you have three so I'm big into that my dad, I get that from him. A huge history buff, I'm reading all the time so Is that, like now running into a time words like athletes are educate we're, not speaking on something that we don't have knowledge on. Just as Your dentist is able- and you feel as though that they're and they fit the criteria to speak on politics. I want to make sure his athletes like we are too. I'm have a college degree feel as though I keep up with the times and I understand different viewpoints- and I can listen and in here more but at the same time I do feel the things that were speaking on you, you have to be, I urge all about, and so I want to see- I believe athletes that are speaking out they are, and so I would advise them to continue to use their platform. There's no other place in the world that there told the just shut up and clean teeth, that's not

I remember right, you're, never told us a dentist like you know what you to shut up and clean teeth like nobody says that so to tell every to shut up and durable when you know you know what they're doing in their spare time or if they're speaking about something that makes you uncomfortable if they're speaking the truth- and you know knowledgeable about the subject and opinions are opinions. But at the same time like. I, don't think anybody. As the right to tell anybody to shudder and do what they do. You were born in Saint louis, saint, louis fur here's a and then you move the naval. Well, yes,. And I had an internship and may prevail in college actually, and I also naples alone. Action was a memory where I should qualify for national championships. Add north central college college a beautiful little canvas, although schoolbook beautiful and I put a play off the ballgame there as well as though we want something good memories, them good memories, enabling oh yeah and you

hu I mean in this community as majority white kids that you went to school with right, What do you say to wife, friends that reach out to during this time the kids, the tajikistan rob wears or friends. Now What do you say why why people on how they can be supportive to you personally, as an individual and also with with everything, is happening in the world. You know what I struggle with a shovel with, and this is my best friend we've been friends since we were eleven years old, absolute best friend, she's, two beautiful boys, and we still can we see each other all the time, especially before coven we always made trips. She stays with us her and her husband family, and she was one of the first to like reach out and basically, you know, ask you know what can I do? How can I help? What can I post? What? How can I be an ally

so honestly is really just I think listening, but at the same time I shovel because I don't ever want to be seen as like the other like, but you're different type of thing, and I some of the rooms that I walk into, especially being a woman of color people assume that I'm not like anybody else, because you It really seen people like that sit at the table and you know what the same thing and I go back and forth the guys all the time they're like they're, like it's so awesome how you go back and forth with them. Like there's twenty million other people like that that can do this. It's just they gotta get a chance, and you know I think we allow people to fit. You know, okay, We have one at the table, but we're sharing to bring two or three, and it's like that's my biggest thing is- is like open your eyes to understand that it doesn't just have to be one puzzle, peace. There can be a couple more, and so I think that's what I challenge

my my way, friends in my why allies to to do within their own organisations. Corporations. Friends I don't know everything is tenders, It's not just one place that can fit. You know, like you, can fit a couple more public puzzle pieces in there Eventually, I hope to get to a point where it's like the person that fits, you know fits the job and you know- and we talk a lot about just in terms of hiring what, if they didn't when, in the book blink- and they were talking about, the orchestra has always been all male cuts. Males just play the orchestra better, and so for one year the orchestra had family members that we're trying out so they had to use a screen and it was fifty fifty picked women and men wow. So for me, I think

unconscious bias when you look at yourself everyday in the mirror- and you ask yourself you're only going to know that much. But if you go out and seek you try to find your blind spots and that's when we're really going to accomplish like what we all hope to have is. Would you know equality and judging based on that and yeah. That's great. I've got a couple of final questions for you. This has been great, but I am curious if you, to get a tattoo on your forehead. For the rest of your life. They had a word or a phrase that you'd it'd be reminded of when you're in the mere and other people would be reminded of. When I look at you but one that word or phrase be word or phrase intention. Thank you ever because it goes forward with pure intention, whether you're right or whether you're wrong? I guess I dont believe just

solely judging people on intention cause you gotta, have some action, bind it as well, but I think if you, if people would like purify their intention, and ask themselves what your actual intention and then maybe like these being you caught me, of their intention going into a situation. I think the world would be a better nicely united sometimes call my grandma. I tell her I intended to send you a card you telling you I intended to send you a card, and I know it's not based on intended, but I did think about you know whatever and then also just when you going situations of problems or chaos or being uncomfortable? You ask yourself like what is the intention? What am I going into this to do with my trying to solve the problem or in my trying to make it worse that would be something that I always talk about the power of intention overtax about a lot power of intention. As the questioner coolby towards the university, I asked him.

Definition of love. I'm curious. What's your definition of love and when do you feel the most loved. My definition of love is, I mean, I, I think the definition in mind cherry for love would have a picture of my daughter and because I think I would do be have give sacrifice accomplish what refer honestly and to me. I don't think you understand love until you have a child. That's just from my perception. She honestly has changed every single thing about me, and then I tried it better for her, I try to look at situations in a different way for her and yeah. So that would be my definition of it and when do you feel most loved, I feel them

loved when I see some of like the qualities in my daughter, I see them come to life. For instance, you know when she just randomly wool, do something superman. Eat or- and you know she knows, I I drink tea every night, and so her and her friend had a sleepover one night, and I got back and totally didn't, expect her to make me tea or anything. So she had a note. on the on the table, a counter like Mine- here's, your t make sure you stir it before you drink. It was just like it's like those little acts of service in little things that make people know that you're thinking about them and that their thinking about you, To me, when I feel the most loved and watching videos review talk about legacy of how important it is for you, what are you People say about you: when you're gone. I believe,

legacy you know, can be two ways you can take or you can leave and there's a lot of people that, within their legacy, they're taking their taking people's time, are taking it out there taking things and it can still be positive legacy. for me, I want to leave. You know I want to leave an impact, and I really believe that when you are, you know your children are your legacy you know: you're, hopefully leaving them behind when you leave this earth and so the way that they speak of you The way they talk about you, the lessons that you top end, for me I am a legacy of coach summit. Every day when I'm parenting, what I'm doing there, some of coach that are that's. You know in there, and so just that impact in my life and to know that, like when I You leave this earth. I want,

impact individuals with their passion in their everyday lives and scope of coal? this question is called the three truce ask him on the end so high, the question a man your last day on earth and if achieved accomplished everything you want our accomplish. For whatever reason you've got to take all of your accomplishments with you all the content, this interview, anything you ever create videos of you from the past or I'll go with you, but you get to leave one three things are now to be true to the world. This is all they would have access to these three lessons you share or what I like to call three truce, who hey are yours. My three truths that I would leave behind we'd be it can be a lesson it was less lessen the day.

if the cliche and you are your biggest competition but growing up. My dad used to always tell me like the measuring stick for others. You might be head and shoulders above, but what you're truly able to accomplish and when you're actually able to do. If you base yourself all the time on what other people are doing, you're going to sell yourself short, and so I think for me, it'd be like you truly are, Your biggest competition like us one another, competition, cable thing because driven by that is? They are posted a couple days ago about how, when you compete against how undisciplined you are new compete again you know, looking in the mirror and knowing your blind spots in the things that you shovel at compete against. Everything within yourself that you know we need to work on use are competing in that, instead of competing against somebody that should that got the job that you wanted me so much better.

And so I think that that those are two things and then the last thing we'd be just enjoy the process like enjoying the everydayness enjoying I mean we look up and it's frickin december already or it's gone fast- I mean what do they say that the days are long and the years are short like that's how it is. So if there's anything, I really believe in and enjoying the moment and enjoying the process, and you know living with the result. Yeah an analogy for a moment kansas in your childlike spirit and energy. I feel like even though you're a mom and a you're, an adult and you're this professional athlete you have this childlike curiosity and energy you're, a lifelong learner, which I love about you and I appreciate about you just your joy. I really now join joy because I think the world needs more of that.

We as individuals mean more joy in times of stress and anxiety and your way damn. I acknowledge your wisdom as well in your ability to be comfortable because a lot of people when they achieve something they think they ve gotta figured out and you continue say I'm here to learn. I'm here to grow. I'm here myself in the mirror and see what I'm blind spots. I really acknowledge you for that, and it's no reason there's no doubt in my mind why you're such a great athlete and great human being because of these qualities. So that means so much. You know, I think, just in the people that I've met, it's been, it's the it's the versatility aspect and you meet somebody that it's like I mean other things, you know, find your passion and you find your energy day to day, because you have this or you have this or you have this like you're running a marathon. Do you know you play football you're, the best, well, you're doing a number of things, and so for me it's like If we run the same play, I'm not that hurt.

And I'm going to struggle to fit I'll. Just tell you know, honestly, if I, if I just have one thing, I have to have I'm so much better when I have you know so much, and so that's kind of where the passion comes have you read the book range yet know, I should re read this. I think David Epstein is the guy's name. Ok, author. I had him on the show, hopefully that's his name. I can't remember if this gets the authors mixed up the rain. She talks about it, talks about how things actually become better when they have a range of sports. They play of kids because you can tie in these different things, aspects from baseball football as opposed to just plain why you're round, if you play football, baseball you'll learn more from sport that you can apply to that final sports, soldier saving a life. When you learn, you know, I'm a big salsa dancer. It's awesome. I've been danced for about fifteen years, cool love it and I feel like it, helps me in other areas of my life, I'm learning spanish. Now it's very challenging but help. I feel like it's helping me and others in my life, some caught I'm doing the marathon, it's like I'm learning patient

and I love taking it no longer, and I like to do things quick salaries. is developed range. Make us more interesting and love that I'm here. That particular ring- I yes, my parents were so like I play soccer I, like volleyball, I played basketball. I did try like I did a bunch of SH words before our eyes was to settle on basle basketball because they know we want you to try out. You know a lot of stuff and so that debt it helped me? If you didn't play basketball? What would you have gone pro and pro you know honestly, and to this day I want to be a historian like my goal. Is that one interview kind of similar no comparison but like how we're in the ten t they had Barack Obama in chicago and under his, not president, but chicago story. Only historian under this one documentary just on marriage is like talking about J k or something and then they're, just like cans. Parker story, that's like my goal, so I would have been a history teacher or some type of professor

wouldn't play basketball. That's cool, that's cool! we can follow you and they should fall. You can listen to our parker on twitter, candace, parker on instagram and facebook and follow Your daughter, tik tok, some guys do amazing six hours together, but great content over there. You got a part, we're doin during the seasons around stern mba season, yes, ludlow and parker, and we talk not just focus on vast. We can I like to. explore the versatility of our gas, where we actually had some amazing guess he had cobia. we are we've had you know, DA we need school? China makes a desperate its range gives it the right. How else can we support you and served you? Why risk

we teamed up with de wade, cp three and command. They need to be a part of the social change on a harsh is basically trying to level the playing field and to reach a quality with whether its in social justice, whether its voting this past election season, we teamed up with the each bc used to allow goober or allow Lift to have codes to you know give people rides to the polls to you know, do as much as we can and in the community to support you know different types of businesses and hopefully allow more

for more opportunities. How can people get involved in that or support that we even go to social change? Fine, you can either donate. We have you have the ability to do that on the website, or you know, honestly, we would love to have you know different communities, different initiatives. I know education is a huge thing now that we're trying to figure out how we can impact. that's kind of yeah. That's great involved, that's cool! Well, I'm going to be making a donation right after you leave. I encourage as a major innovation as well. This is and a pleasure, kennison very glad that we have to connect if we can do more stuff in the future final question for you what you definition of greatness, my definition of greatness is repeated. We getting up and doing something, because you know that that's going to get to you where you wanna go even when you don't feel like it. I feel

it's kind of greatness is the definition of commitment where it says. What is it doing, what you say, you're going to do, even when the moment passed that you set it in, and I feel like that's greatness honestly- is continuing whether it's when the lights are on when the lights are off, when the gym is empty, when the gym is full continuing to do what you know, prepared in what you should do turns to exert more pressure at varying. I appreciate it. My friend think you saw watch for taking the time to listen to this episode. If you enjoyed it, then you know what to do. I should share this with a friend that you think would be inspired by kansas history as well. If you know people that want to improve their life that want to become champions, they want to become better. With mindset their habits and learned the habits of winners. Then I dunno anyone better to learn from candace parker, so make sure to copy and paste this link wherever you're listening to this over on apple podcasts or spotify, or any podcast app you're listening to or just copy and paste the link, lewis, howes, dot, com, slash one!

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The city contains within it the seeds of opportunity and growth. I know we've went through a lot of challenges over the last year and some people are still in the middle of those challenges, but look at these challenges as opportunities for growth as feedback information that you need to improve something. That's not working, and I want to remind you if you haven't been told lately, I am telling you that you are loved, you are worthy and you matter, I'm so grateful for you and you know what time it is it's time to go out there and do something.