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this is episode number one thousand two hundred and thirty, eight with george mumford welcome to the school of greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. In each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help. You discover how to unlock your inner greatness thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin welcome back my friend today's guest is george mumford, who I had such a pleasure sitting down with and george is a globally recognized speaker, teacher and coach since nineteen eighty nine he's been honing, his gentle but groundbreaking mindfulness techniques with people from all walks of life, but most notably professional athletes, like kobe bryant, shaquille, o'neal and Michael Jordan, who credits george with transforming his on court leadership and helping the bulls to six nb. A championships and he's written the book, the mindful athlete secrets to pure performance, as well as a new course to dive deeper into his lessons in the book, and in this episode we discuss what separates the one percent of high performers. From the rest, we dive into the five superpowers. We can all focus on to be the best versions of ourself, the practical steps to stop living in fear. The greatest lesson: george learned from coaching mindfulness to great athletes like kobe, Michael Jordan, shaq and so many others, and so much more. I think you're going to love this one and if you do make sure to share this with a few friends text, some friends posted on social media and make sure to tag me and george as well over on social media. And if you are new here, please click the subscribe button over on apple, podcasts or spotify. Right now for the school of greatness, you can stay up to date on the latest. Greatest from this show, every single week we've got some incredible content coming up so make sure to click subscribe right now, and also, if you know someone that would love. This show share this with a few people text, some friends posted on social media and spread the message out there to the world and leave us a review if you're enjoying this. Let me know what part of this episode you'd enjoyed the most from this episode. You can go to apple podcasts and leave a short review and a big shout out to today's fan of the week from Xavier who said I've been tuning in regularly to the school of greatness podcast for the past couple of months, I'm always impressed by the range of excellent topics, an expert speakers, the learnings and insights, are invaluable and to lewis and team. Thank you for the great work. You continue to do big shout out to everyone who is helping us create this show ill. This show and serve humanity in a bigger way. It's been such a joy to be of service to each and every one of you who listen on a consistent basis. Whether you are the first episode is right now or you've been here for nine years, we're just so grateful for your support and for spreading the message forward to others in your life that you think would be inspired by this message. Okay and just a moment, the one and only george mumford.

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Sort of excellence you could talk about never and having to go says yet I'm going to do this, I'm going to take it to her to the next level. So it's not the hunger and thirst that you have that you have to go, for it is not something that's going to come to you, it's something that you to pursue there's a lot of people that I don't have they don't have hunger they're, not hungry. How do you train someone, or is that not something you can train? Yes? So it's interesting cause. I've done a lot of research study on this, even on my own. I had a sense of urgency. You've got a sense of urgency. Some people have to create a sense of urgency and. Before I was motivated by you know. My being on fire or just survival different I to get get too to live in. but you can create a sense of urgency by creating a www vision, a possibility.

If you want to live into or you you want to serve more people or something so initially. It was me just getting out of that. You know but on fire, then what game I'm playing now, I'm pursuing excellence and wisdom with grace and ease. so there's a hunger for me to want to get to the next level to want people to help people get to the next I want to me it's about helping people. Understand they have a masterpiece, and then A job is to express it and share it with the rest of us. It's an inside job and only they can What's so unless they have the will and the desire in to do it, but not to say, do it, but I'm this will succeed

I'm going to do whatever I need to do to get there, yes and so less than one percent as one percent that says I am responsible and I have a masterpiece inside of me or I have greatness inside of me and it's my job to develop it and express that's, why it's so challenging, because if you want one, the other person that's a problem, but if you can help them discover they have this. Greatness inside of them this masterpiece that it has they can be developed in that I can only be developed by them. So say you are The lot of really good athletes out. There is a lot of really good humans, good people on their jobs, but they said good and they don't transcend to the next level for themselves, not meaning they have to be the best in the world what they do, but there stay very comfortable right now, maybe they did well in college as an athlete, but they didn't get to the next level containing

I have the desire or the willingness or whatever it is. Maybe someone's stayed well at their job for ten years, but they they got to a level of comfort, but they didn't want to grow and develop their skills to another level. To see what's possible how can you inspire evoke empower people that are at a good level that, that have been stuck there for a while haven't been willing to do what it takes to see what true masterpieces. Is there a love of coaching? Is it is, the creative sector urgency, because what- would they change their god, working with actually, what's up man, how you doing I'm chilling relaxing I see children are going to get it done you. You know you can be chilling, but you gotta be willing to you until now, but then you have to step to the next thing, so the way that it works

If you thinking about getting out of flow, you gotta look at it as a step function, because once you get to certain level, then it becomes normal. And so, if you don't challenge yourself- it's like a step I in the high towns will get you revved up in and you have to have a vision of possibility. We live in the future receipts, so if you if you're not uncomfortable. you probably not learning. I don't mean being a couple all the time, but I talked about getting comfortable being uncomfortable, which means keep. Moving and increasing your capacity. grow, learn and experience in different ways and that's what I'm down to so an inside job. Without the will you're not doing it and a well some tat. Some people look at will, as mp, three components, one component is motivation. One component is commitment. But the third component is security or confidence. People

have a strong in the south. advocacy like myself like you, we embraced the child was received things as a talent and adventure and and something to to move ports. So we're always trying to expand incapacitate. You do I capacity, but we have this adventurous spirit our know. How far can take this, but I'm just gonna, take it further could take and it's fun and it's something there I know creating a service for others. I want to help others by being a leader in terms of how am I going to not get so comfortable that I'm chilling and when you get to that that At phase of of even boredom or just relax, didn't you know just Satisfied that when you have two challenges challenge yourself. Then you can you have to raise. Everything to meet that challenge, and unless you do that,

but that's where the self regulation comes in and that's why You talk about a m j or cobby, some of those those guys like that. Tom Brady does a lot of them out there. I'm not naming all of them. Of course, the ones that are dead now. You know It may amal, but it would come down to is you will know them by their fruits right. You will know them by their ability to not settle. And the ability to keep getting better. If you think of steph curry last year, he knew he wasn't going to well. I can't speak for him It was pretty obvious they weren't going to win without but he took his game to level and see that's the thing Why was there would have been doin that highly not good situation? Piloting call for him We are sure, know and that's why think about going to teams already loaded, you might Championships, but you really have to look at this- my opinion whether or not you're challenged enough, so that you can

your comfort zone and go to that next level without that kaiser urgency. You can't do it unless you're committed to excellence and you're taking it to the neck, so let me give an example that I can learn about him. J politically I'll call before for a moment, so called me? won a championship in two thousand and nine. I think I have it right. You are working with them than eat when they come to wasp yeah. I've always been the only boston I work with, would talk with them the process they use it. The one that we developed when I was here in the early two ass, if it so that I'm talking about like ok, you one, but you want to go to the next level, so you we re talking to reflect on what you gotta keep getting better, because now the tea the team knows. You won every one going to be so you have to keep getting it's progressive realization of a worthy ideal, so you're not there, but it's in that day to day making today your masterpiece getting better. Today,

sacramento process, and that's what I mean in this other people do that I don't have the name names. People don't realize it Tom Brady, probably spins twelve hours a day in the off season. Getting ready now he's forty four now he just came this close from going to the next level at the defense held he probably no one him he would have got the bar would have won, but that's a mindset. with twenty seven six snow quit that Despite a me more so I'm talking about that idea. So it's not about. How do we get them? It's. How do we. How can go inside and make that become willing to go to them because some people just don't want to do added, the not interested that's why they said many are called few are chosen ooh, it's it's about it's about you have no a possibility for yourself that that happens

who would be in great or helping others be great by being Romano taken it to the next level. What happens when people stay comfortable for year after year after year, and they don't challenge himself? What happens to them would become relax and board. that's what we spend most time between boredom and anxiety. So if you look that way. Are you bored or you're relaxed but you're, just a couple of hours out from boredom? But if you're bored or if your anxious is saying to you, if you're bored, you need to challenge yourself more, you need to have those setting and set goals, steve harvey said on the video I heard he said the reason. People have a hard time getting up in the morning, but they don't have a good enough reason for them to get up. So you want to create a raison, entre or way of being with you. You jumping up like a kid at christmas, so

christmas eve. You can't go to sleep with. You know it's going to be so you have to have that kind of a process where you you are getting up and you're going at it because it, makes you feel alive. It makes you feel like you're you're, making a difference and say it for what- really talking about, is people being who they are and not somebody that this it be or somebody wants them to but come on, that masterpiece being real. So it's like to talk about it? When I worked in a corporate structure, you have you know how Wednesday tgif friday by so five slash, seven of the time you're doing something you're not happy about when in actuality. Why not? Have it be? Seventy seven so having a I work in a sentencing cuz. I was just reflecting I reading this book by Eric Butterworth called spiritual. I and in there he talk about. What's been my experience, it's not.

So the job may not be that great, but it's what you bring to the job and how play yourself in a sentencing, because it's not so much about the compensation is your soul growth. it's what you growing as a person. Just being fully engaged and everything, and I think Jesus what about this about going the extra mile yes, back in the day there that the romans could say? Okay, I want you to carry this tamales. I go to miles until this idea of giving more than what you get and it's something about applying yourself, be fully engage your whole mind body, heart and soul engaged. So that's what that's! What healing is his holiness so just fully engaging yourself or- and then they say, burn yourself in the activity do not leave a trace. fully engage fully present. Doing it. what you bring to. It is what makes the difference and it's interesting, because I'm thinking about,

book I read called the way of man. They talk about this idea of display. This fully burn yourself in the activity losing yourself. Just really does because what what what is that about it's like, so he talks about this idea Can man do that angels can't do, and the answer to that is that we men or man with a woman with wholly intent. Couldn't make it you know, I can happily We can make something holy just despite intention. We can make some how holy home just by intention. So that's what we can do, can intend to make things holy. We can make Heaven here now just by bringing that love that compassion. That presents that's fully committed and productive act of love. That's love is love, love, something you you help. It grow.

so is the intentions? Do you have to stay in a job? I was in a job I didn't want to be in, or when I'm making missiles. I just work for back in the day, sixteen years working on that stuff, and then I went to a high tech after that, But it was really more about. And I got into that job. How did I end up being a financial is counting the county great cause. My the coach told me they make money. So I did it. So I did what I thought I was supposed to do and it was I stopped started doing what I wanted to do. So I go working in corporate wearing a three piece suit, the graduate school but in a soft sides it's like psychology and then I'm there with people who are in the soft sciences want to go to business cuz. They want to make money this and look at me like dude. What's wrong with you.

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you coming here for the three piece suit. Finally do what with pork- and it was very simple I we follow my bliss. I was doing what don't supposed to do had nothing to do with what the compass was to do with me getting into a situation where I could fully express myself before we all in that you talked about all that yeah and and it's what I ring to it and of that that that can change what what? What can't change may me being fully engaged in the moment with much less. Enjoy and compassion is economic, so you mentioned there was healing Wholeness of the people that you train, the one percent seems to be like a lot of those people have a chip on their shoulder. They have. Thing where there, maybe not always, but that's like there was a pain somewhere that drove them to be great new. Correct me. If I'm wrong. when I was

training. As an athlete, I was very driven to be great to prove people wrong people that hurt me and the pains I went through and the sadness felt the the being picked on all those things. I would have come so big, so I thought it so strong so needed that I want to prove them wrong And it worked, it got me to achieving results and being like captain of my team and playing professional football, always different things, but I always when I would achieve my goals, I felt so empty and alone and and angry it's almost like it was like. Well, this isn't what I thought was the healing and then And then I went for a bigger goal, bigger goal we can talk about for that. and it wasn't until I started doing. The healing work that I was able to create from a place of peace and love and generosity is, as opposed to Chip on my shoulder, I gotta keep showing up in like proving these people wrong or whatever do. You think most of the top performers in the world create

and and build from a place of there's something still not healed or hole. Inside of or do you know somebody worked with who have completely healed or on a healing journey and their creating their masterpiece at a high level from homeless think it, I speak about it this way, because I don't get it, people's hearts in- I mean I do, but I don't want to talk about people's harder at because I talk to the bin. Even if they expressed to me what it is. It may not be what it is interpretation of what it is, and I was the behavior, I think was important is maybe get you there, then anger or get you the prove people wrong. I I was like that too. When you told me I couldn't do something I would show you But what happens is that some point you're right, that's empty, because that's that's coming from a place of fear. I talk about coming from.

You know you either coming from love or fear and when you're coming from fear in survival mode was. Is that flight fight and freeze growth, motor love more where you just rest and digest it? Something is coming inside of you. Isn't it impression of you and something that come from the inside out, not something coming from, outside in and so even though you get there. Initially by that you can't sustain that, and, as you mentioned this emptiness there is there's no meaning there. Others, because you all you do is out of fear, that coming out of love, where you can have your whole being be engaged in it, so even though, like argued the example so that when I work in prison, do mindfulness based stress reduction and in recovery, people were substance, abuse and some they would mandate to be in a program, and so I

the teach where it was voluntary and they were very difficult mandate as well. For us to be here, I said, get some choice. You got here out of force but you can decide to be it for you now you can decide instead of letting somebody bad behavior affect you or you'll, be at bad behavior or you being in doing something you don't want to do you can choose Do it for yourself, you can do. is change? How you look at that and the way this healing Okay, I'm here now about to be here for me, even though they got me here, but I can fight or I can just embrace it and say, okay, how can I find myself in this mix as HANS they talked about in this place, is opportunity for me to express myself to me to get in touch with myself. Is it inside job for myself and so so I can't speak all those athletes, but I think at some point the ones that are happy

not a ones, because if you do that and you're not in the field anymore, and that sport have you deal with life was now you don't have that its place press that that I lit were, yeah get you there, but why not be there for yourself and then deal with the whole person You know how you feel you know your body is go you, mine is a mental. The heart is emotional socio in it and your soul, your spirit that you all of those aspects of yourself to be b? so when we talk about the spiritual thing, like Hell. You embrace you get out is about more than a grove mode and then bracing? Both the use yourself that, that haven't been so helpful, but yeah Peace with that we all make mistakes, and so that go to wolves. I talked about this idea of the two walls with the cherokee grandfather telling his grandson. I have two wolves

Worship bear was sighted me and a grandson concern which wolf will win. Says the one we feed, so we both have that. was to wolves in us, but it's a question. Which one we going to feed so the field It's us there But then once we get there, can we just the feeding of wool and this idea of getting beyond the illusion of separateness, and being a service and I'd like to call it forget yourself find yourself, forget yourself to find yourself. So when you give yourself a service and you haul people also helping yourself, but you have to get to a place where you have something to give. So you have develop enough, so that you can actually I give and so a lot of things we give. We can give money, but we can give our time where we can give our heart. We can give our soul that I think that pays a bigger dividend You talk about superpowers in order to achieve your goal. Has five super

you talk about what are those and why are these important here I'll up? So I talk about mindfulness this effort delegates. This focused concentration is in wisdom and faith, but faith life so they are all connected. So for me to be mindful with talk about being mindful is having a mirror mind being able to see let things, be as they are like they're in the mirror, just interpreting them or letting them speak to you in their own language. Instead of us interpreting them. So being vulnerable and letting the unfolding moment unfold without you interfering and I do what you want to do as you want to create? You want, in long gate the pressure, a process so first is a very short time where it is where the If data is there and then immediately a I'm thinking after associates. Thinking like oh, I remember the last time. This happened after jack thinking,

selfish or self important. All of that stuff and of the the the visual system works. Is it trying to relate what's happening, based on what we've already experienced status? in fresh new ways, so we have to create disability because, as human beings, we have this ability to sit back. watch things is silent, witness without being critical and that's what it is and critical observation. And things in a certain way, and in that will we create space for chased them was response? We shall be able to see things as they are, not as we remembered them or as our mindset that we happen to be in interpreting it in a certain way, instead of seeing the raw data, so we want to be able to be painful. So you have to have faith you they realize like like einstein said that most important question to ask yourself is: is this? friendly or unfriendly universe.

And let us go into friendly if its friendly universe than you will use all your resources too in stand, how things working on aligning yourself with how things work like gravity? You have to believe in gravity. It works if you're lines Gravity you'll be okay, and so you have to have the face that what you're going to do is actually going to be possible, and it's going to be helpful, so you have to have faith, make the effort to be mindful, but then you, So we're talking about faith with talking about effort, Then you have to have the focus Here and now you know been evidently london, you could be mindful, and then you also need the wisdom to understand what am I being mindful of and what are the essentials? What's? What's the what's, the principles involved, It's all of those things are always working, so mindfulness helps house's cultivate, or this idea of being diligent like this, stain effort. We can't do anything without a sustained effort, but the effort

Do what we say we're going to do and just just until we get it, my wedding that given up and that's all but that's really more mental to get into it when you're in a positive mind state then it's easier to do it be coming from love rather than fear. Let's just talk about that wolf, those two. How does someone get it more into love, though, if there had been living in fear, their whole life, I recognise in there in fear and understand how it's not our foreign, how to get out of here. How did I get out of it yeah, so this is part of our effort is like you're in fear. Once you notice that you're reacting to things instead of responding to things and if you pause and notice that you're reacting then, why do I not react, be still know by stepping back in the set of leaping in sharpening, didn't let it speak to you, but you have to be vulnerable. That's where the fear to faith comes, metal thing by being that they want you. or when this happens. This happened in five. It something I have to change

self regulate. How to change. My think my thoughts, my feelings, my my if you're in so you understand how do I not be fair noticing your fear in real life, is that you're survival mode and if you can just breathe and focus on one thing and get your nervous system into rest and digest or focus, generating what I call a hall of fame age. the hall of fame hope optimism, faith, okay, so If you get into positive, my state is called the broaden and build there when you're coming from Optimism hope, faith vineyard well. The functioning is enhanced, so you actually start to see, instead of being I worked on channel five is two hundred channel yeah and then why open an office at oh there, it is right there, so you have to be able to to understand. That's what we call right effort. How do you abandon the unwholesome mindset, like fear, so you can do. That is you opposite of with love,

another way you can do. It is understanding the consequences of coming out of fear. What's holding you back from that? Okay, so if I'm in the field and I'm going to be reacting and I'm not going to be able to create space that is what we want, and, in that space, I get to alight with my room, core values with my goal with my aim right so that's. The third thing is to Divert your attention from it to something else. So I focus on what I want why focus on? What's going to work, then I'm not. I can't have two things in my mind at once. If I focus on what I want versus what I didn't want, then that changed it. So you for your attention to it. So that's it Thirdly, the fourth way I out, talk about for today as you acted and towards the fear- and you say: okay when fear is present, I know

instead of the disease tightness tightness, I that that I have tunnel vision. I noticed it, it's keeping me small and like choke, I can't breathe. And if I understand so, I get intimate with fears of fear is here and it's k do it just feel whatever the fair is in your body and just let it be that you know just knows that this is, but if I can breathe that I can open with it say it's okay, because I'm not reacting to it. I'm a sheep. Face and then now I'm not reacting so example, the fear? I had this fear of talking in public, and I would get up- and I was in this program called toastmasters- I do too and yeah I get up there and I'm at the podium and I'm shaking and the more. I try not to shake I shook, so at the time I was in graduate school, and I was studying paradoxical intention. This is victor. go and ask you is saying that instead of running away from the fear embrace it

And so I decided I was going to be a shaken fool when I got up there and when I got up there, stop shaking so the only way out is always through, so they fear is, and then we talk about exposure. There be sort of thing you fail to do. do it a little bit in increments that are manageable? uncomfortable hard to do but doable, then what did you ask the create this would take exposure therapy, the more you're exposed to the less it affects you all the different ways, but it really embracing the fear. and generating a hope in saying: ok, there's a are for me to get I look at fears of acronym for false. This appearing real or some fears are, how healthy, like fear being hip, carbon walking wasn't street or touching hot. So it's really understanding when fear arises, I embrace it and by embracing it and working through it is no longer fear. It's just

a reaction, then we are learning from we want to it, and so you embrace it and you get caught. We'll be an uncomfortable and brace interfere in understanding it no longer is fear. what was the biggest fear you've had overcome being myself. When did you learn that Have you learned that I just observed myself self sabotage even feel uncomfortable. So this is what marianne Williamson said. I greatest fears is you know it's. Embracing our masterpiece divinity, but uncomfortable and we know the nervous system. If something is unpleasant, it's going to voicemail if it's present move towards it and if it's neither, This is out somewhere fraid of greatness, but embracing that greatness, that that we we have this once again that the Therefore it is taking a little bit more than I do

more more, but as yet my greatness in this, not something I thought about just something I observed. When did you realize that you weren't fully being yourself like how old were you, I think, when recovery nineteen. Eighty four was bought thirty, two and a half something like that. When I I started getting glimpses of it really. and oh there's more to it, because I lived in my own little fantasy, but just to, up in the sea that I would respond, one that I could choose my watson and stuff like that. I realized it. On some level. I was hiding out in plain sight just like those folks that that don't want to don't get up. You can But with the needles is was an interested in getting so that's but it's really fear the process of fear, probably the main thing, but that's how it manifests and not realizing, and you know how it feels to realize that you are afraid of your greatness.

I really felt like a loser when you do that, but that's just a thought not reality. It's just That's one way to look at it. Another way to look at it is. There is a sort of thing so I can't do that. That's freight do self care Look, that means there can be looked at as self care and is is not so It is helpful or effective. What is a form of of survival. And that's what we call survival mode is like a prayer. When did you learn how to overcome self sabotage? And how can people do that today, if they've been doing that in their relationships are their career, how did they learn to stop doing that? Observing but by noticing that. You gotta get into the lab mood you gotta get in a part of my state and look at it as a critical observation

you got, the mindfulness, you have to be able to see it without judging and then how things arise and fade away and then think about what how do I get out of it? How did someone so get out of it? What does the research tell me what are the role models out there that have overcome the fear and ask him or read the books in the study? You know I've been been in recovery. Gonna. Thirty, eight years I've ever do a book a week, love so my way, the best stress reducer is best best, dealing with fear is wisdom. understanding the There's a franco says if we really come or suffered right. if rangel said suffering ceases to be suffering. Will we find meaning in it. So when you find meaning in and it ceases to be suffering so weird, I touch our stuff. We have to go into it and we have to understand it.

Some reason it's hard to stand, the meaning of suffering when we're in it? Sometimes that's right. It's I always look back and I'm like man. That was a rough time on life, but I wouldn't change a thing because it helped me overcome this adversity and it helped us learn this skill and it helped me have more courage, whatever it is but like when you're in it you're, you can't it you can't it's hard sometimes to really. back and have wisdom and observe? Oh I'm in this, unless you have a habit of doing that unless you're, unless you are able to feel it in your body and step away and get out of the mindset, but is the whole thing. It's it's. Creating this ability to observe expresses no matter how It is from this silent with this and not doing anything but deserving and asking what is this and and how is it nfsmw absolutely right, that's why you got to get out of survival mode and get in the groove mode. You reacted the things there's no way you can do it cuz, there's no space.

Do anything but react, but if we reflect on it and then we look at it and reflects the sale k. I reacted. What training do I need to do? What learning practicing do I need to do so. The next time I can create a little bit more. A little bit more space than once. I create the space them. I can really see, but you're right when you're in at mode that consciousness, that consciousness is like a you feel it only allows you to have certain options and so at the raise your consciousness or or a your ability to pause so things down and in that space learn from your mistakes and then at some point you understand here's how you do it, what is the inside job and is something that you have to practice. So, if you're going to do it and just say I did it last week And I don't want to do this week, but you're not learning and practicing anything. Then how do you expect to not do the same thing, so you had the actually reflect that

spurs because to understanding we flexible comes from you like you, I am experiencing, I like I did this. How can I do it differently, while the first understand you don't look at it differently. If you don't have a different mindset, you're going to keep doing the same thing, so that's why you gotta get out of the survive mode in the grove mo yeah. So let that hope, optimism faith. I talk to what a willing suspension of disbelief in saying. Okay, why don't I This way, but once you change this with back the wind, I said Change the way you look at things, the things you look at change, so it's the perspective from which you are observing experienced that the whole thing your mindset if I have one the field glasses? Then I'm going to be looking at five on the love glasses that I have one possibility by come from half full, that's abundance. If I come from a half empty, coming from scarcity, it totally changes everything, but if you just notice, oh I'm in fear.

get out of here and be in love. Above then, you it'll be clear to you. What you need to do. hundred percent agree- and I remember for probably Most of my life I like I would get in these waves. Sometimes it'd be a good season of life, and sometimes it seemed like. Oh man, I'm in breakdown mode right, and I felt like stuck- and I couldn't get out- and I remember, is something happened for years ago, where I went through a challenging moment of my life and it fell like this. Is a this fella having moment like a season right, a few months of happiness. and for whatever reason I think, has experienced a few different seasons of that in the past. Like fifteen twenty years Member remember thinking to myself. Ok, A lot has happened. It was almost all so emotionally mentally overwhelming. I was like okay. I've been here before and every time I ve been here three or five six years later

back on it and say I'm so grateful for what that taught. So I would reflect back and have wisdom, So what are the reason this happened four years ago I decided when something was challenging. I said: reflect forward and have wisdom like I know this is going to be happening for me and I just have to wait six months a year, two years until I'm going to see the benefits and the fruits of this and it worked, It helped me stay in peace, mon, not reaction mode. Go help me focus on love. What I can't control, not one I could after all, and it back on my mission, money, how can I improve? What's the lesson was my mission? Not How can I be angry at the world or whatever, and it was a beautiful experience to reflect forward for me, I dunno, if that's something you teach as well and kids like moving forward, but most of the time travel yes and see yourself or two. So you live into the future. You see

So when something bad happened, we look, we see it happening again. So what what? What we really talking about here, those we're talking to Something happens, then we but when a man- yes, so interpretation, if you interpreted from survival mode, didn't is things going to get worse from love? You said, okay, what's the lesson here? How do I learn it's going to be? Okay, that's what all those like the face and the effort mindfulness in the concentration and wisdom- I'll come in and you just look at it and say: okay, I interpreted this way before, and this is what I got so I don't What that so, I had to do something different is with self regulation. So something happens. Why not interpret it in a way that empowers you motivational, you, you that's what you and that's the whole point The point is, we learn from mistakes. We are not our mistakes and that's it

we have a real made was taken. We identify with it is that of realising Behavior is not who you are just as an event, then we carry it. So when you were talking about that and olive carry on. I was thinking about when I worked with baseball's up our place. When you haven't got a hit each time you go up, you keep adding on to the drama the pressure you're up with a sixteen twenty pound vessel. instead of saying what yogi berra, when when one of my philosophers when they them about that is- and I know slump I daresay hidden so and what is really say this I had to get ahead, but I'm not bring in those other. Sixteen that bad into the moment with me: Let him go but more importantly, I don't know sixteen and see in each case. What could you have done differently to get in

so now you don't look at the string. You look out. Ok. What do I need to change? What is one of the principles involved in getting had seen it seeing the ball you don't have my hands right, you know being ready, avenue, relax The confidence is. Your mindset is a certain mindset that you need to have an end. physically you going to have your body ready for more. Partly you have to have this idea that you're going to do well. Did you have? what we call a combative thinking, you in fact things turn out like what you talk about although this happened, but I expected to turn out so now you can let go to grow and you can Okay, this is just a stepping stone. This not roadblock so all about the mindset is all about this growth mindset that okay, everything that happens? I need to reflect on it and understand what work would didn't work in figure out what didn't work, how to make it work. So that's the thing we have to focus on this moment: not the people, sixteen at bath, but this at bat and

Focusing on it and that's how Their kobe can go in the fourth quarter before three four three four eleven something like that. Then he the game with, because this always about resetting and beginning again make a mental note how okay, I have to keep my helmet, but you expect make the next shot, but you forget about the previous shot other than understand: okay, not matthews! You know my legs, her! You saw it in the last dance, michael he so he didn't get his legs in it. So when he hit that last shot, he didn't I get for stoutly, he put forward, because all these structures were sure, so he was adapted in real time to what and that's what the key is. Don't focus on what happened before focus on the moment and focus on what you want, or what talk about. Don't focus on what you don't want, because that's what you're creating you focus on what you want. and then you reset it just like. Just like my iphone, your private,

thing. If it gets stuck turnaround, and turn it back on is reset to factory settings. And I can you can work as we have to do mentally make mistakes, not just that bike, like you talked about when we get stuck, make a mess can we bring accident forgiveness it say when I know better, this will be my angel when her says I love when you know you do better, so No, no! No! Blame! No being critical, just notice what needs to change and then go from there and the rich get richer, because when you understand that you are do it, because you know that why would you take confidence from yourself and this is really important to lily, what do you think is the the best way to build confidence and self belief and overcome self doubt for people depends on the situation, but I think the main thing be able to listen to that vote inside of you, so obviously prayer meditation

he's on what you want evading that hope, optimism and faith that I talked about Having social support so So there's this thing. I talk about predicting success. in a job, shawna gore core, happiness advantage. The research, decisive sweet things that important the positive, jeez. What I talked about the hope, optimism and faith cod being positive mindset. Second thing: social support, so it's not just ross, buddy, incomers, commiserating, but being around people who have relationships like you. about your mentor, encouraging you the only way out is through and it you're not by yourself- and you have help then. Thing is the crisis as an opportunity or seen it The challenge and like we said before People don't look at things itself, they did look at all as bad. I want to go there as they ve noticed opportunity. For me,

the learned something, and even if I don't want to do for myself my kid. I want my kids. Why? What impact society in a way where people are saying yes to life? Note a life! a leveling up bracing challenge see an opportunity. Rather than stand back in and being reactive, be pro actor, will never really talk about. How? How can you which pressure self that massive peak within it it it comes out when, when, when it's challenged, absolutely yeah you got a lot of people over the years and coach people end. You know you were saying before that. You learn a lot when you're teaching or you get some of the lessons when you're teaching someone. Yes, what would you say were the three greatest lessons you think you'll learn from people you coached, maybe there's someone well known. Maybe someone now well known. But what would you say just like while. This person actually just gave me an incredible I'll. Give you two

You can only be yourself cuz. If you don't know who you are going to end up being anybody no more if you don't know where you're going to get in, I'm going anywhere a number three. Is you have masterpiece inside and when you ask access it even a little bit of it it, it is chain everything when you realize you have the power to do whatever you need to do. You can learn whatever you need to learn and that you don't have to do it alone so really more about standing who you are and where you're going and that you have everything you need to succeed, how confidence when you're coaching. Some of these- you know superstars, when some of these guys and gals have some with powerful mindset out there? You know how did you, a coach and teacher make sure you went in there with confidence, knowing that you could contribute to to these people as yet times behind you pray

Yes, I do I focus on my masterpiece and known if I could be stolen, no and distrust the do you werth was lawful, distrusted, my higher power god, the universe, whatever you want to call it that, if I was, with divine, will I going to be fine so that I mean love. How can I help? How can I serve? worried about assault, forgetting myself to find myself in that case is not worrying about how I'm going to perform, or how's it going to take me, but focusing on how I can serve and this coming from my own experience, no one from my own experience in vienna frantically myself. So daring that if I can be still no income from their love, come from the inside out and how can I help so the question that you, the asked people I work teams is what do you want and then the question Are you willing to be who you need to be to do what you want? Those two questions is rarely simple: it doesn't matter who you are

is like ok, here's. What tat meant will you do about it? Are you gonna reactor respond to it. If you understand you have everything you need to succeed and you have that will win. My my talked about the the desire to succeed. go to succeed. If you have that and you, it's going to take as long as it takes, but if you. your attention of you paying attention. then you learn what you need to learn and you anyone do with you. You have to do and even if you don't get them don't you want? If you can walk away and say I gave everything I had at a winner, Where you know regrets is fully engaged and what was happening to sometimes ass awaited you don't always win but knew when, when you were, when you got better when you have played your best, when you express your potential mama that moment, my friend rory Vaden says it's hard to be nervous when your hearts on service,

and I used to yes, I liked that one, that's where I'm at, as I keep my body very, very vader and says, quote it's hard to be nervous when your heart's on service for years, I would be nervous before a game speech whatever it might be, an opportunity to to present something, and it wasn't until maybe six years ago, seven years ago, where I reached out to a coach- and I right before a big page and I've been speaking. I did toastmaster as well as my big fear right. we're came. The fear and I the having these skills to be present. An idea in front of an audience took me a year to really get there every week. Pricing and toastmaster is terrified at the beginning and Years later after I've been speaking professionally for a while I still get nervous like the day before, and I didn't understand why I like. I should be better I was judging myself as the first thing, the couch, and I said I don't know why I'm still nervous this is about an hour before a big speech I got. What can I do?

our focus on yourself, not on the audience and serving his no you're gonna, make a mistake. Now: you're, not gonna, remember every line, reverie writer joke or whatever, thinking about you, people. Think of you and start focusing your energy and attention on how you can be a service to them. and I was a bit shift from it and and I still maybe a little nervous here and there, but it's like whenever I feel that security. I just think I'm not going to be a hundred percent perfect and that's okay. But if I all my energy on the message the mission of what I want, cross and focus on that realizing I'm not the best speaker in the world, and I was trying to do that. then it relieves the nerves yourself. You forgot yourself to find so it's so I'd like to say a couple of things about nurse is not the nervousness this the city it. How you react to respond to. It are give an example: people don't know, but will where I grew up in Boston. I want to sell tickets

and bill Russell won eleven championships. In thirteen years, eleven championships it's he used to get nervous before a game to the point we were at to throng and one game he was. He was. Before game and read out back said rusted, you talk, he said no, he said go and lack will not come up to you to youtube what's that about because he knows when he's nervous. It places his best part of the nervousness could be for a lot of it could be, maybe because you want it so badly. Whatever in the moment of the game, if you change your consciousness or your focus, from being nervous to doing the next thing. I call it the the how people talk about. when WI and what does that mean what's important? Now So if you manage a moment, it doesn't matter how you feel or how you see things you make it If you manage this moment, then the next moment goes go. The next moment goes

so is not about. We have this interpretation that were nervous because these people were not nervous and then in a moment or two tuesday nervous, even though they weren't nervous before in that one second can make all the. The difference in making a making a play or whatever so we, have to realize that stuff can happen, but it's always about the mindset is always about important. Now managing this moment and and forgetting yourself to find yourself when you're in flow there's. No, consciousness there you you're doing a thing in and of itself, you're not focused on the results, because you focus on results. That's we're a lot in the nervousness might come from because your focus out there instead of being in here, and Managing the moment and that's the most important thing is right now? There's nothing wrong right now, there's nothing wrong more profound. That is, is nothing wrong. We think about the past or the future, or we say yeah, but then, a problem, but we just say: there's nothing wrong,

and is focused on what you do and even if you make a mistake, corrected in real time and keep it moving, but that's to competition simple We have complicated mind, but that's it it's like, so you never saw what like with me. I was shaken that was nervous and then, when I tried not to shake a short like this and then once at distance, I don't care It will be shaken, for might be the best say, the most nervous person to everyone. Now, once you do that, you change your relationship to it, and then you don't make it a thing. transformed everything. So set so that so you're absolutely right. It worked for you as long as you focus on the service, you won't be nervous, but even if you aren't nervous, who cares the thing Can you make the play? Even if you are nervous- and you do the next thing, important now and if you focus on what's important now get yourself and this focus on the task,

Then you find yourself, that's us is one. My joy do get yourself a finely. So once you get out of the way and is let what's inside you? U divinity express itself and being real and being authentic. So being That means you nervous pressing your nervousness, but it's your relationship to it and ass race. How you gonna be onto it in a way where. It actually helps you get to the next She had a drug addiction for a is all how long has a time for I can't couldn't really tell ya, know I stopped and make every forward, but I was on a fifteen twenty years whatever. What are you what do you think is the root cause of addiction in general, why people get directed the substances and then also. What was the biggest lesson you learn from your recovery from rehab recovery and and getting off of that yeah? Well My begin is that's a big question that speak about it, but I think.

The nervous system is programmed Four things simple: this pleasant approach, things that president I avoid things are unpleasant and space out if neither pleasant or pleasant unpleasant on a neutral. That's how positive is when you're in equanimity or when you're in in the eye of the hurricane, where does does not a preference is not indifference. so you're not moving towards moving away you're, just holding your center and just observing things I just didn't want be in my experience, for whatever reason I was trying to get away from from reality and I found a way that I got out or I could just kind it. well or number, and sometimes people just stop. Using drugs and alcohol, because the thing to do, and then some of us, because we we get They thought we'd need more and more. And so it wasn't, I think the most important thing is just a notice that

that is doing things that got to the point where I was dead and I was a functional, to work and everything, but It was robbing me of myself and and it's like people my father was alcoholic, so you know calls is probably came there's some some pot, it's just nature and nurture, but I think main thing was that you know I found out what for me, especially I I was always drinking all but with that. With the alcohol I mean, with the drugs made me feel more got rid of some of my inhibitions and I felt like I could just always, this change change, which gave me give me courage- and like that, when I think about it, so but it doesn't matter so much part. You start what matters is that we can start. You cast a happier and some of us some people could do it and safety. I couldn't

So it wasn't until my don't on when I realize that I had an issue, and so I had to come to the realization that If I don't think a drink or drunk, I won't get high get drunk. And so that the best lesson for me is that it was a way for me to do with life- and I wasn't dealing with me- I wasn't going inside and dealing with my with my greatness with my masterpiece, with my ability that just be myself in spite of what everybody else was maybe because people will tell you who you I believe who they want you to be and when we're being authentic and authentic, we're doing what we're supposed to do said. No, we want to do that, creates a whole. I mean there's a lot of conflict is there's a lot of self hate. Who knows it could be a lot of reasons, but to me I didn't know how to deal with life on life's terms. I'll just put it,

somebody's that and then once once I got clean, now I deal with that daring reality for the first time in over moment, whenever system was really challenging pain, I all kinds of stuff. So that's when I got into meditation while and some of the year body but the main thing I learned was the mind body are connected that I am watchable and is inside job, so that the lesson for me is that it's up to me I can't worry about what you're doing. I got to focus on what george can do. George can't drink dry, skin redrawing georgian are interested in this, so I was doin all the other stuff and too got clean. That's when I started, and I want to do what I want to do. Take me spot for me and what resonates with me- and I don't really- I still about what other, but I kept weaning off of that too. I got to the point that the only opinion the most

Opinion is my opinion of myself, be doing what I mean to do and continue? reset to this challenge I to provide feel like forty years later, I'm better at it. But Is something they constant like you talked about, nervousness or fear it can you traumatize anytime anytime, I was working. Actually I was working with like us during the championship, run, guess boston and I go in there and his voice says you shouldn't be there in. Don't want hear from you inner voice, because of my training. I said: well, that's interesting, polite listening to you have work to do, but, but that is what you see what I'm saying, but for me I've been doing this for a long time and a moment. You can have a voice, you could, you could have fear, you could have nervousness whatever, but when professional, think really helped me and my robe profession

doesn't matter how I feel I just have to show up and do up and do you know, show up and show out so happen at any time, but is it's me creating a space and being able to observe it and not judge myself or less interesting the sound the peanut gallery, I called the negative committee. Ok it could be there like background music and just do what I needed to do and no one knew too different. No one knew it just me, but it was a blip, but that could have said what ties the whole thing a lily. I could have just said. Well, you know not feeling good and you're like woke my new championship, when you can't can't do shallow. About this allows the earth, and so it happens, but the training of being able, I can explain, I mean I can't over state how important it is for us to be being a moment and observe experience as this silent witness from the ida came a decent notice it with

Well, judging without being critical without pushing it away opponent towards you, then once we get the intel them then added that silence is annoying. I can't really brain. It is annoying that this sum potter you'd. It knows what to do that, masterpiece that that divinity within just knows what to do. We call it tuition sometimes, but it's a gut fear could come as a gut feeling. I just annoying, but a lot of times. I tell people, I don't have no idea what I'm doing, but it's great and that is because I'm not in there but I'mma letting I'm just going with the flow okay, I hear that. Okay, you got your opinion, Thanks for sharing that, but I got I got to my job. I have to be present staying in a moment and then make you say when you serve. You know when you focus on service you're, not nervous, and- and this the same is when you focus on how you going to help somebody you forget yourself, but by helping others also helping yourself and then

you get through it now and I notice is that voice. That voice is not there so much but a lot of us have been traumatized in one way or the other or once again I am when a major stage. in prime time, and then things happened. Things could happen. Something comes up, and I was fortunate enough to be able to listen in and just focus on the task and that's why, I think, being a professional. What I mean by that is being a professional when you do a job or you go to extra mile, you do it, you forget yourself and you focus on the task, and it doesn't mean I don't take care of it later. But if unless. I can't breathe. I'm going to do, I can do. I can yeah absolutely through. That makes sense when it makes a lot of sense. What was the biggest lesson you learned about yourself from the recovery process than when you say we can express ourselves. This is something

there's not a feeling a whole inside tell you that it's you know like having to side. You know like just really trying to hide. I see so one not one anyway to know who will they saw the saudis so tissues covered, says being I'll show you who I wanted to see, but you can't really see my real self in those identified with that negative stuff instead identifying with the masterpiece of saying, ok, that's a fair wolf. You feed in that south feed that fear, the love walked both they're, the one. That's going going to win the battle is the one that you feed so yeah. I think

to be honest. You are so focused on getting high and and and stuff. I didn't really have time to think about stuff. Like that, but it was just survival we humans have what remote you're, not thinking about tomorrow or yesterday. You focus on the next thing, putting out the next fire and that sort of thing- and I think for me I was just thinking about. Oh my god. What am I going to drink, or am I going to get through this and it was nothing positive. There wasn't something that I was looking forward to like I I'm going to go on vacation or you know I'm going to have this. This spell really positive results and whatever I was doing work play, it was more a consumption of he's trying to not be present, was there a mentor, someone you saw or we're going to answer? Was there s one dire goes with its one thing was. I was Riding around with that four hundred and five, had strep infection and because

you're drunk when you dope sick come when you're having that like a bad cold and an awesome. it's a so I had no idea, but I had to go to hospital. And then they kept me for five days, and so when I got out of hospital a couple of weeks after friend of mine that I used to get high with came by my house on April fool's day- and me to a meeting on April fools on April fools but I'm not going to do this a joke. Yeah exactly do do either doping me. So what would you do it man it like? It got my attention in a nasty, First time I head will hope the old is away from me, then I went to the meeting in a meeting in then I saw other people that were had the same issue I, but they will sharing in experience, strength and hope in a game. We possible. I could do this took me months, But I went into detox for

twenty one days and when I came out of there it was very interesting because I think it's the first time I ever saw my house first time you saw your house really saw, it was really living life. I've never gone twenty one days, but I'm having some kind of drug, or so what kind of living in fantasy or something where I was dealing with life on life's terms, for the first time at thirty two and a half but it's a blur and it was just kind of like in and out of my own little fantasy, but I didn't know I was in there until I got sober and I started seeing clearly with profound and was even more so because when I went I was going into the detox- I heard this voice say to me. At the ST george that goes in there, it comes out you're in trouble yeah. So I knew I had to be different, yeah and, of course, That's probably because of that implicit learning. I got been around recovery and people who were clean that I probably

what they called implicit in on the clarity of learning. I think there was some stuff that I got that told me that, and I was on the methadone program before so I knew taking methadone. When I went in there trying to detox One days was not going to work right so wow. This was thirty seven years ago or nineteen. Eighty four Thirty, seven. Thirty, eight years ago, yeah thirty eight years in July wow, you're going through that meant everything is a blessing man. Yeah man, life is is amazing compared to what it used to be question about? we talked about a lot of it before. You know the therapist beer therapy specs. the therapy. Yeah and really you know facing the fear. The only way out is always through and exposing yourself to it, feeling it and then going more, but you don't have to go look for it. Is there a lean into the lane they need to embrace? It is what you say and what you think,

bore frayed, more of the fear of failure, success or than judgment the other people opinions about them. I'm going to go back to we during world nothing to fear but fear itself. so is the mindset is being in that survival. Think that'll cover everything and we can't we talk then with feared dublin security. But I think it's hard to know what what people want through cuz. It's not the campaign with a broad brush, but I will say that they're in survival mode, I guarantee you that survival mode where doing the fighting fleeing of freezing, which is not now or just not being there right in that in that kind of indifference Well, that's what I think. So, when we think about it, it's hard to get into all of the complexes and psychological, a terminal, as you did, we have for you no character disorders or psychosis and nora neurosis.

The main thing we need to understand, that they're in survival mode, so they either fighting fleeing or or being frozen and and feeling like life is happening to them and they don't have. the ability to respond to things rather than react to things, and they don't even know the difference between reacting and responding. I didn't I just all the time, but then once I realized that I could, pause and reflect them? I could actually think about things before I did them and then, even while I'm doing them I can reflect on is this working? Is it not and then adjust in real time and then after it's true understanding comes from reflecting on experience, so lacking on okay, so I used to get high or cleaning, though I got through this. How did I do that? And so, when I talk about people, be a mindful of the behavior, we need more of less catch each outdoor, something right what we're attitude of gratitude, absolute hot it just saying, okay,

so long as I'm more right wing. Meanwhile, as we learn the life I used to live before and now this stuff to say, this is nothing compared to that. But if you look at it and say, okay, what's the lesson here, and this is an adventure we're on. Adventure. Then I come from that the hall of fame, hope, optimism and faith is okay, there's something here. between for me to be a service like you talked about, be a service not nervous and then then, is it. We different experience that my attitude and that's the self regulation, software self, lay thoughts, feelings, behaviors, choosing joy joy now and never choose and compassion. And love, I'm choosing to be present choosing to fully deploy myself. That changes everything and so that they have a get into that habit is an ok. What, this in going to relate to it in a way

It's an alignment with my core values. Do I have core values? Do I have a worthy cause? What I intention to so I to impact one hundred million people being people then to be engaged. In that data day you had to have a strategy and which you are You are getting this progressive realization of a worthy idea where your success, on a moment to moment day to day basis, because When you get off you get back on, you talked about it. That's all it doesn't matter as a zigzag, is not straightened, and so when you get off, I had to get back on, don't judge what did you learn and keep it moving I love this stuff man, you ve gotta, some amazing wisdom and lessons experiences that I hope everyone dives into more. You got You do out a weekly show in history. As a writer weekly like youtube thing, I do you to be met with joy, homeless, yes and and last week I talked about this

idea of grateful mine is a great mind, and is it driving right things to you so attitude of gratitude, and I want to knowledge and passing and a lot of my teaching comes from. You know he's been inspirational, he's been a person this led the way to mindfulness in daily life or bringing this contemplative practice everyday folks and just we talk about it in ways that makes a lot of sense. You, your compassion, love! just smiling and and embracing people's divinity seeing the greatness and and everyone in training the mind and heart to be open, You got a course out right now right. Yes, Of course I've been teaching for the last, three years is called the for athlete course online and what what I've done with it. So you sign up.

of course you're in it for life and so we have actually next week we have a quarterly call for each quarter. We have a call with people can get on it. But spring will have a six week. Study group just pass november- October november we did a study group called being courageous. So what we do is we go over six six weeks. You know once a week we'll get together. And we'll have an hour call. So would do practice and then we'll go over the homework and I'll say a little. something, but it's its those five superpowers I talked about mindfulness effort concentration insight and faith and so apply to a topic like the last one being courageous how how to how to be courageous, how to feel the fear and do it anyway and west west,

relationship between being courageous and faith? You know your your courage, is major. This fear. We talk about fear, you feel the fear and do it anyway or you we have to have faith faith- helps you to be courageous, but you don't know what's going to happen, but you know something good happened to show up and show out and your duty. If you just learn from your mistakes, you just have to do that, so we go through it over and over one week, while I call circular learning I read my book party, for seven times. While and this last time on reading out the centres and because I have this kind of mine who goes prison and he's using my book and so We go over each one of those superpowers and so of me, being there, we come perfect Is that where you're going over it all and each time I go over it? I learn something new and I said to myself man. This is really good and then I'd say that, because I wasn't there when I wrote it, I just was depressing.

yeah voluntary. It was flowing through me, but key reading it and each time I read it like it, gets a little bit deeper. It gets more. My psyche, someone, I said to you where the learned somebody's to teach it, because we teach it what you ve come back to you, but also you you have to, Gotta understand what you're saying in a way and then you have to present it to other people, so it it encourages me charging it encourages us. Know that if you have something you share with your family of friends, you talk about it. It gets, went to your psyche, because you repeated over and over we've gone over this idea that you embrace whatever comes up. That's what I talk about embracing, generate the hope you have to keep finding the courage to say yes, and to say what's the lesson here, any kind of moved through that so yeah. So I have the I offer these soon, as I have a I have a

as a class on dealing with anxiety during the time of covert and I'll, do more master classes and developing of course- and the other thing is, I'm writing a new book. It's going to be about unlocking up. George racing masterpieces governor masterpiece within something or along that line. When is really more about how I got do that spurs and how I teach people, but the idea is utah. I bought this idea of being happy when you're doing something You know when your work is happy. Your work life is happy that sort of thing then you're happy and that if you have been your spent itself in your livin than you embracing that masterpiece within is going to be amazing. So no matter work, love and play you're going to bring this. This aliveness near his quality of athens. City and being present Getting beyond the illusion of separateness. I mean that's what we need a lot now

people were hate, each other crazy things, and we just need to know we're all connected in the best way is to, together. We must stop demand in each other and stop talking at each other, but the real that I and the other one and then how about just seeing that did like me that person wants to be happy. Just like me, a person suffers. So we have to get to a place and it's not polyandrous cuz. I come from a really challenging background and all that stuff, I'm not as some would then I'm I'm not talking about anything that I haven't experienced or witnessed, and I know we can do much better if we can, Remember who we are because, like I said, if you don't know who you are going to end up being anybody and if you don't know where you're going to get end up going anywhere, so why not decide to be yourself

and go where you want to go the mindful athlete the book. Mindful athlete course you've got the master class on anxiety, then get everything at george mumford dot com is that right, joyful, dot com is right. For you, what's your main social media platform year on the mouse, graham, if these ram but mostly facebook youtube yeah it like you man, I want to reach a billion people by Beck. I probably won't do it I bet lifetime, but Maybe I will never now I never know, but to me I I don't know I asked you could under way that number came from this. Put it up their wanted something this going to encouraged me, cars meta really get out of comfort zone and the really just go out there and get beyond the realms of them normally and and then just embrace more room. If I only only got twenty people, one hundred people I'd be

That would make a difference, but I know I'm reaching more than that, and it's not like I just want people to beat themselves. people didn't know that they have a masterpiece and that they can develop. It and only they can develop in, but my platform is to help them. Do that. That's great stuff I got a couple of questions. This is called the three truths Okay, so imagine you get to live as long as you want to live The last day for you on earth, accomplish everything you reach the billion people, you do whatever you want to create, and you have the life you want. before, whatever reason everything you've created has to go with you. To go somewhere else. So it's not here available for us anymore. It's to leave behind three lessons to the world three things. You know to be true that you would share- and this is all we would have from your from your teachings and your information. What would you say are those three truths for you. You have a massive that you can develop.

The only you can develop it and number I require your life is going to be reflection on how much you developed it can be well put on you can develop it and distribute it. You develop it. Equality, your life and the quality of your services is going to be a reflection. If you only developed a little bit ill at the end of your life should be like. Oh look at all this, I did not develop that I could yeah, frustrated or resentful or regretful. but my last days that I can continue to be enjoy joy now and ever and and it just it loving in his presidents. I mean that's beautiful I want a george for how you have transformed your life and how you used your lessons for service. You know it's I never been addicted to drugs or alcohol. I've never been drunk or high. In my life they were not because I saw what it did to certain people in my life and my brother was in prison for many years for drugs for selling, yes, yes, and so

as fortunately I got to learn from other people and realize I don't want to go down that route, so kind of scare me, but it helped me as an athlete and other things. So I don't know what that that feels like, but I do know how challenging Almost seeming pause impossible is for people to overcome addiction for a lot of people. It seems almost impossible for a lot. it's to overcome that and wake up yourself and realize I'm use myself, are good and develop. and to who you now is really inspiring so and the fact that you're doing it at such a high level to serve people. You know, anyone listening or watching, and people of all spectrums of life from high achievers to people that feel still stuck. I really acknowledging for the gift to give become in the game. keep shouting to the world so well, thank you I think that in I mean that's, that's powerful, but I believe that's why I'm here

myself being myself being a service. So thank you for saying that, and that's my challenge to continue to take that. But I love helping people. I love it, anybody man, so why? Wouldn't I you love what you lay before you lay before what you love hospital lily have solutely question. What's your definition of greatness, my differ The greatness is he's doin, hidden better today, dawn expression used yourself as much as you can That's greatness is just getting out of yourself and just being real, just The best version of yourself whatever you do. So it's about not what you do is what you bring to it and who you are being do greatness. Is somebody who's going to show up and beat himself consistently And in a way where they progressing,

so they getting better each day. That's greatness is every time you you do something it it changes, people it it it make things better. Is this realization that we have this unlimited potential and that, if if I get better today, I'm being great today, once again, I go back to my coat for my last week a grateful, it is a great mine and a great mine, a trash great things to it, so greatness is being grateful being grey. Thank you so much for listening to this conversation. If you enjoyed it and you want to dive into another similar school of greatness episode, check out the links, in the podcast description, I've done more. nine hundred and fifty episodes over the past seven years and bring you more inspiration just like this.

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